AIBU to think this is quite strange?!

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For context, I'm Autistic, so had a lifetime of being the strange one, but wanted to check this out to see if IABU...

Most boring story in the world ever, my Mum who is not my Mum (friend who is 25 years older than me, whom I became a '2nd daughter to' because she lost her adult daughter and I lost my Mother at around the same time) sent me as a Christmas present slippers I sent her 3 years ago!

They were bloody lovely, expensive slippers and I'm not upset she didn't use them (some long story about them not feeling right), but what is the logic in sending them back to me?!

Asking as, am I'm wondering whether it's my Autistic brain, or is this weird?!

Well she knew you had a pair and loved them, maybe she thought you could get some use out of them?

Yes I can confirm strange .. Happy Christmas 🎄

She's forgotten where they came from.

You must have liked them to buy them. Enjoy your new slippers.

How old is she? Could honestly be the start of dementia. Usually manifests as slightly odd behaviour years before serious issues begin.

My experience as an AuDHD person (recently diagnosed) but mum of 2 AuDHD almost-adult kids is that… we tend to attract other ND people into our circle.

So, yes, what she did is strange. To NT’s probably ‘rude’. But the fact is she valued your gift, and the giftor, sufficiently not to regift or to donate to charity.

I’d both accept it was a bit strange - and smile with a bit of humour that cared enough that she returned it.

I initially thought that she’d forgot that they came from you but I actually think she thought they’d be the perfect gift for you as she knows they are expensive and the kind you use. I’m not sure how she missed the etiquette of not gifting back but she probably thought that they belong to her and so she’s technically giving something of hers to you (even if it came from you in the first place).

I don’t know how to vote as you’re definitely not being unreasonable to find it strange as it definitely is. A bit unreasonable to care so much that you gave it so much thought it led to you posting on here about it. I’m intrigued what you gifted her this year as I’m nosy.

Sending them to you as your Christmas present is weird so I assume she forgot that you gave them to her. At least you like them.

Was she aware you gave them to her in the first place but thought you’d get use as they’re specific for the foot condition you both have? Either way, it’s a bit odd to re-gift stuff. I’m amazed at how often this appears to happen.

Just laugh it off and wear the “bloody lovely, expensive slippers”.

OP said

”sent me as a Christmas present slippers I sent her 3 years ago!”

so she has regifted… but back to the person that originally bought them for her!

OP said

”sent me as a Christmas present slippers I sent her 3 years ago!”

so she has regifted… but back to the person that originally bought them for her!

OP said

”sent me as a Christmas present slippers I sent her 3 years ago!”

so she has regifted… but back to the person that originally bought them for her!

It’s weird and upsetting!

Do you see her much? Are you close?

Maybe she saw you as a daughter replacement for a little while to help her grieve but is now backing out of the relationship and making it more just like generational friendships?

Did she send them to you knowing it was you who had gifted to her or do you think she’d forgotten they were from you? Your posts make it sound a little like she actually wrote in the present that she was regifting them back to you