Urgh I think I was boastful at drinks last night

[boastyface]

Didn’t mean to be necessarily, these women tend to make me feel a bit small etc. I think I was boastful on one or maybe two occasions!
Embarrassing! Hoping this is hangxiety and not as ‘bad’ as I remember.

Things always seem worse the morning after!!

Depends entirely on what you said?

Boastful about what?

Ahhh hangxiety. Gets us all at some point. I'm sure it's all fine!

Did you have more to drink than everyone else? If not and you can't remember, then almost certainly neither can they.

Fingers crossed this is the case!

I think I said about a hotel I’d recently gone to.

At least you didn’t get your minge out!

Hahaha! I certainly didn’t do that. So all’s good in comparison!

I mean.. if you shouted “I earn 7k a year more than you! In your faces bitches!” or “my children are so much smarter and prettier than your glue eating fugly brats” then yeah, you might have a point to be embarrassed.

If you just talked about an achievement, or an experience which just happens to be rather fancy, that’s just conversation.

I don't see how describing a hotel you went to in positive terms could be that devastating tbh. It's not personal enough for that.

Are you generally quite a humble/quiet person? I feel a bit like this when I've been more sociable after drinking. In reality, I'm very quiet so it just brings me up to the level of chattiness and sociability of everyone else but my God the hangxiety the next day!

Hahahah I’m going to use this phrase to counteract anything I’ve ever done whatsoever that may cause me to overthink

Omg hahahaha

It's just the fear. I've definitely had it more the older I've got!

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Can you rationalise it? So even if you were boastful what are you scared about? That you let yourself down as that’s not who you are or that people thought you were a dick? Latter , people are more forgiving or dont think about you as much as you may think they do and also you can’t control what people think, so if they like you they won’t mind and if they don’t we’ll do you care?

if it’s the former then we all slip up from time to time as no one is perfect but all that’s happening today is you have a feeling of dread , won’t kill you and it’s you that are generating that feeling. Have you a friend you can tell, sharing it helps I find.

ot di the when I’m in my death bed will this be the thing I am remembering. Or think about all the terrible faux pas people like trump or Boris johnson etc have made, and people still love them.

I guess I don’t want people to think I’m a dick! Thinking about it more still, they’ve all been really braggy and boastful many, many times in front of me and I don’t really care about it!

What do you consider braggy/boastful?

I think I said something like ‘no we went to X, not Y. I’ve heard Y is a bit like Blackpool’ urgh cringe snobby cringe!

I was repeating what I’d been told by someone. This someone I consider a snob! I did the exact same thing!

I’ve never ever been to Blackpool so I don’t even know what I’m on about

I always talk about the lovely places I go to. People ask so I tell them - even how much the bill came to 🤣 I don’t care if it sounds boastful - that’s not my intention at all.

It sounds like hangxiety, I suffer from it too!

The last time I went out, I worried I did this about different things. But - if most people anxiously ruminate over everything they said - that means they’re not thinking about what YOU said!

I think this is fine and that your hangxiety is turning it into something it wasn’t. It’d only be shitty if person X said they take their kids to Blackpool for a holiday every year and person Y had said they take the kids to Benidorm and you’d scoffed and said “we go to the Maldives id never take my kids to BENIDORM!!!!! You may as well have just gone to Blackpool like X”

On the presumption that is not how the conversation went and you were making a general comment about your opinion on somewhere that didn’t directly insult what someone else is doing or had done id say you’re overthinking it 😄

But you don’t like them , doesn’t matter what they think of you! You don’t like them so they are allowed to not like you.

I’ve done similar when I’m feeling “less than” suppose the way out is to work on not feeling that way then you won’t brag. Your brag was probably not a brag to be honest and you are wildly overthinking . But you probably know that!

Also, hangxiety is a bitch. I basically stopped drinking myself because of it.

I also had a friend who suffered terribly. I’d frequently get next day texts saying “omg I’m so sorry if I annoyed you last night when I said/did XYZ” and I’d have no idea what she was on about. She’d also say stuff like “I can’t believe how I was acting when we bumped into Y last night, I’m such a mess what must they think of me” and during the whole interaction she would’ve just been stood there either doing nothing or making normal chit chat, but she’d have catastophised it in her head and convinced herself she’d made a complete fool of herself when she hadn’t and none of the things that had her cowering under her duvet in shame were things that anyone else had thought twice about.