Will everyone please STOP the extremely tone deaf 'Christmas Fridge' threads

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I see these multiple threads every single year and they drive me bonkers. The four days leading up to Christmas Day my feed is inundated with all the stuffed fridges, it's a complete and utter disgrace. Not just a few posters but sometimes literally hundreds of you all joining in with these enormous overflowing fridges, it's barbaric and in incredibly poor taste. I have already seen THREE seperate fridge threads today alone, it's scandalous... please people just think about what you are doing by jumping on this bandwagon. Now I take this a bit personally and here is why.... There are people in this world who are starving and many families, mine included, are having to rely on food banks this year just to keep our children fed. As in dippy eggs and soldiers on Xmas eve. Many of us are in a dire state with finances and the pressures of Xmas. The fridge threads are incredibly upsetting and triggering. By all means have a nice christmas dinner with all the trimmings but why post it and rub it in the faces of those less fortunate? They will be very lucky to scrape together a very basic dinner for the family this year?

I so look forward to seeing everybody's gluttonous greed in full swing, fridges stuffed full of obscene amounts of food and alcohol that will most likely go to waste. (And waistlines. The greed of Christmas it's all totally out of control and I despair)
All the cheese boards, cheesecakes, cheeselets, and on and on and on.
Honestly I wish MNHQ would BAN the threads, they cause many people anguish and distress.
It is one day so please keep some perspective or even better, pop a selection pack or some small treats in a collection trolley to help all the fantastic homeless charities and food banks ensure more people can enjoy a sweet treat on christmas day.

(Thanks to my local foodbank and those who kindly donated, at least me and my children have a lovely box of celebrations that I will bring out on Christmas Day for us) 🙂

Well I think the fact that a month ago they could afford Invisalign and now they’re posting about using food banks to feed their children says it all? They have made poor choices and are angry at the world because of them.

Yabu - fridge threads are dull as hell to me, but if people want to discuss the contents of theirs, let them. This is a chat forum.

And so a person can never ever question it without being taken apart verbally , have their posting history checked to discredit the OP, be told repeatedly to “fuck off”,…

that sounds a lot to me like a cult

I’m someone who doesn’t sit well with the idea that things can’t be questioned ever

They can be questioned.

But if you’re going to do it by loudly professing that you need a food bank to feed your kids, I’d not do it under the same username that you’ve posted about your Invisalign on.

Not the person you asked but in my experience, I am self employed and my recent clients attempted fraud before I started the work - I caught it before starting but their deposit went entirely on agency fees and the admin of sorting it out, and I didn't find another client for four months. On top of that my savings had previously been depleted because of major works in my building, and one of my children needing a surgery that had to be done privately as NHS waiting times were going to leave them with pain and recurring infections for over a year.

Things can just happen without warning and leave you needing emergency help.

I'm not sure why you keep clicking on threads about full fridges then OP. You are a glutton for nourishment.

OP sorry you are struggling.
It must be an awful feeling seeing people stuffing their fridges with food that may be eaten, but a large proportion of it will get binned.
There is so much information out there about people who are struggling financially. Many, many people are who are working, some have recently lost their jobs. It’s happening to a lot of people right now.
And food prices are astronomical. The basics are expensive, everything is smaller, and supermarket chains make huge profits.
I hope you and your family have the best Christmas you can.

@callmelover i don't know about all the workings of MN but is it possible that several people over the years have used the same temporary username when posting things they didn't want to be identified for?

No

No, of course not (unless you're going to waste half of it or something). My fridge is pretty full.

But feeling the need to post it on social media to show off is vulgar in my book.

Great virtue signalling 👏👏👏

None of my excess food ever get binned- thats what batch cooking and the freezer is for.

YABU I was completely unaware of fridge threads up to this point. Yes low income living is a struggle but society has all levels of income and expenditure and MN reflects that ,as well it should. If it's triggering to you to see lots of food, That's understandable and this time of year is often characterised by excess. But the remedy is yours - simple look the other way. Comparison is The thief of joy! I would further suggest you contact a food bank and also try to be grateful for what you have. Have a merry Christmas.

Conspicuous consumption used to be considered vulgar, but it is now apparently socially acceptable in some circles. Pretty ghastly if you ask me.

It is a full fridge or posting pictures of said fridge on thread about xmas shop that signifies conspicuous consumption?

AHAHAH seriously, you think this is “virtue signalling”….?!

I am trying to bring some sort of clarity to the debate instead of endless pile-ons of the OP

my personal virtues or failings have nothing to do with it

But I forget this is Mumsnet where no one is ever wrong or invited to reflect on their behaviour but instead they meet anything they’re uncomfortable with, with an ad hominem attack

It must be an awful feeling seeing people stuffing their fridges with food that may be eaten, but a large proportion of it will get binned.

Why is there an assumption that it will get binned?

I'm genuinely surprised anyone thinks the OP is ok.
Also what does it matter if people want to post a picture of their fridges? So what? Maybe it is sad. Maybe that's all they have in their lives. Maybe they are the happiest they've ever been..maybe they are trolls. Who knows? Who cares? Just live and let live!

I haven’t seen a Christmas fridge thread and would skip even if I did. A bit like I did with the ‘Everyday handbag for £1k’ one 😂
That made me think bloody hell so scrolled past.

I hope circumstances improve for you OP. The relentless marketing at this time of year (ie from September!) is also challenging and harder to avoid than threads here.

All this stuff seems tacky to me. I simply cannot imagine posting a photo of my fridge!

No, MN don’t allow to have 2 the same usernames.

Why do people think they are so important that they can police what other people write/chat about on an internet forum? It’s so breathtakingly arrogant. The professionally, perpetually offended and triggered are really irritating.

The solution, which many of these types refuse to entertain because it doesn’t generate the drama they like is that if you don’t like something then don’t put yourself amongst it. It would be like me going for lunch at a soft play or family centred pub and then demanding everyone stop their kids from being loud.

@JacquesHarlow the OP is completely disingenuous though. The active topic is never clogged up with multiple threads of hundreds of overflowing fridges days before Christmas.

Why the use of words like gluttonous, greed, obscene, waistlines, waste. That’s a whole lot of moral judgement whilst simultaneously judging others for their lack of morals.

Thank you.

Keen to hear from the OP.

Yeah, well I get it it. For most of the year MN mostly muddles along together and then at Christmas the divide is right there up and centre. Would you go into Sainsbury's and shout 'but I just don't know whether one loin of venison and two rare breed chickens is enough. Not now it's just the two of us.'

If you did, would it be the responsibility of people standing around you to cover their ears, or yours to be just a little bit sensitive?

Saying 'well, I haven't seen it' and 'it's your responsibility to curate your social media' are bad faith arguments. No-one is saying don't celebrate your Christmas, just don't be a gold leaf covered arse about it.

Yes, I can understand that but that doesn't make it right. .lot's of people have pain does that mean we can all behave badly. Perhaps someone posting their overfull fridge has lost someone close to them and needs more joy or someone else us suffering a terrible illness. You don't know, you can't stop whatever pleases others because you are sad. On mothers day for eg we could say it's toneless to post about what you got or are giving to those who lost their mothers. Imagine if everyone suffering reacted like that.. You could even say how can someone complain if they have food banks when people are dying of starvation.