Will everyone please STOP the extremely tone deaf 'Christmas Fridge' threads

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I see these multiple threads every single year and they drive me bonkers. The four days leading up to Christmas Day my feed is inundated with all the stuffed fridges, it's a complete and utter disgrace. Not just a few posters but sometimes literally hundreds of you all joining in with these enormous overflowing fridges, it's barbaric and in incredibly poor taste. I have already seen THREE seperate fridge threads today alone, it's scandalous... please people just think about what you are doing by jumping on this bandwagon. Now I take this a bit personally and here is why.... There are people in this world who are starving and many families, mine included, are having to rely on food banks this year just to keep our children fed. As in dippy eggs and soldiers on Xmas eve. Many of us are in a dire state with finances and the pressures of Xmas. The fridge threads are incredibly upsetting and triggering. By all means have a nice christmas dinner with all the trimmings but why post it and rub it in the faces of those less fortunate? They will be very lucky to scrape together a very basic dinner for the family this year?

I so look forward to seeing everybody's gluttonous greed in full swing, fridges stuffed full of obscene amounts of food and alcohol that will most likely go to waste. (And waistlines. The greed of Christmas it's all totally out of control and I despair)
All the cheese boards, cheesecakes, cheeselets, and on and on and on.
Honestly I wish MNHQ would BAN the threads, they cause many people anguish and distress.
It is one day so please keep some perspective or even better, pop a selection pack or some small treats in a collection trolley to help all the fantastic homeless charities and food banks ensure more people can enjoy a sweet treat on christmas day.

(Thanks to my local foodbank and those who kindly donated, at least me and my children have a lovely box of celebrations that I will bring out on Christmas Day for us) 🙂

OP, the world is not all about you or your feelings.

The world doesn't have to pretend that while you are having a tough time, other people are not booking holidays, buying things you want but can't afford, filling their fridges in a way you feel envious about.

I'm sorry you are not where you wish you were financially, but other people are allowed to enjoy their good fortune, and they are also allowed to share it with other people in public.
Do you complain at the Royal family when they go out wearing enough jewellery to buy yourself a 5 bed London house, or is it just people on Mumsnet you want to censor?

Just because you aren't happy, doesn't mean other people are not allowed to be.

Life isn't fair, only children believe it is.

The only time my fridge has been overflowing was when I was making up food parcels at Christmas full of fresh foods.

I've known other people who've saved really hard all year so that just for this one week they can feel like they can really spoil their family.

It's not for you to take away their joy.

Lol

Like 'gluttonous greed' and "share your GREED" isn't nasty?

Not to mention telling lies (twice) that you're being insulted on one of the fridge threads 🤦‍♀️

No one needs to. Wanting to is quite enough. Clearly there are people that enjoy them.

People can talk about anything and everything they like within talk guidelines. You aren’t required to find it necessary, and nor are you required to engage with anything that doesn’t appeal to you.

I avoid the fridge threads because they’re tacky as fuck.
Wealth whispers, money talks, those who have money don’t talk about it, the old school shit my mother taught me.
2025 you don’t exist unless it’s on the gram 🤷‍♀️

Of the 3 threads you’ve posted there are only 3 photos! I expected to see hundreds.
I always go straight to Active, and I’ve never seen these threads 😳

I imagine people would've offered some support but at the same (rightly) told me that I may need a break away from mumsnet, should hide the Christmas section etc.

OP's tone hasn't helped either. I'd certainly have similar comments if I called people a disgrace for daring to have a Christmas at home when many children across the country like my son last year will be spending it stuck in hospital.

He is much better this year thanks and looking forward to a Christmas at home.

OP please understand that the same people you are telling off are probably the same ones who have stocked the food bank and donate to charity.

I do have a stacked fridge, I don’t intend to post about it on any thread and did not even realise such a thread existed till you enlightened me. I have donated quite a bit to foodbank this month for the less fortunate. I do really feel for you and hope things get better. Please just stay off mumsnet for the next two weeks as the posts will all upset you.

OP just ignores any mention of her Invisalign treatment 😂

YABU.

You mentioned in your post you have kids. Some people come onto Mumsnet for advice about infertility - myself included, that’s how I found Mumsnet originally. 12 years it took me to have my DD.

Are you not going to mention your kids because it could be upsetting for people struggling to conceive? Why is it only you that it matters that people don’t offend? I notice you haven’t addressed any of these types of comments.

Dont look at the posts. Im sorry things are hard for you and I hope they get better, but if you are triggered by those posts you only have yourself to blame for it, no one forces you to read them, like no one forced me to read pregnancy announcement posts.

Eh? Never heard of such a thing and have never seen a picture of anyone’s fridge. Like big bloody deal.
Anyone who sent me such a naff photo would be blocked.

I'm not bothered and I live below the line. I also give to people who have less than I have. I bought 4 lots of gifts last week for babies referred to a local charity who's mums have very little

I don't go overboard at Christmas food wise. My family get a takeaway one day and cook the next. No food waste. No gluttony. One year my mum and myself had a vegan aldi pizza with potatoes sprouts and pickles. Must have cost less than 3 quid between us

I echo those sentiments x

It's so odd.

OP has provided the links and people can clearly see for themselves that no one has insulted her on any of the fridge threads.

Stop making things up. Nobody on those threads said anything unpleasant about you and the most recent posts were two of us remarking upon the size of the savoy cabbages this year.

Fortunately I haven't found the fridge threads. It does seem a bizarre thing to do to post pictures of over-stuffed fridges, I shan't be searching for them personally. And I do find the whole Christmas over-indulgence, over-eating thing not really what the season's about.

However, each to their own....and I wouldn't expect such threads to be banned. Others have a different perspective on it and my viewpoint doesn't trump anyone else's.
Sorry you're going through such a hard time op, it must be hard at this time of year.

Just wandered onto one of said threads - yikes! I assume some people have very large families. I personally pretty much shop as normal at Christmas.

I’ve been on Mumsnet since about 2002 and I have never read a Christmas fridge thread, it’s quite easy to not open one

There are Christmas fridge threads on mumsnet where folk post the content of their fridges

This is ridiculous, there are plenty of threads about people spending money why on earth are food shops more triggering than nice houses, cars, holidays etc.

It’s not greedy to want to feed your friends and family well over Christmas. It’s not greedy to treat yourself.

Are they big this year? All my shopping has been done online.

KilkennyCats · Yesterday 23:28
I think you’ve kind of missed the point.
Op is referring to posting a picture of your food shop on social media, for complete strangers to exclaim at.
It’s a kind of bizarre thing to do.
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It certainly is. I haven't seen anything like that on Mumsnet but there is a young couple on facebook who do it every week, goods all spread out on the kitchen table and they ask people to guess how much it cost.

You couldn't make it up.

Football sized. Recent years, they've been nearer a softball size instead.

Is it anymore bizarre than posting your christmas tree or kitchen? I like the threads as I like having a nosy at what people have bought.

What a complete overreaction. The 'thousands of posts' are 3 threads, the largest of which has 33 replies. Only 3 fridges are shown between all of them. They mention the OP in one, but only in passing.

Most people have a tender spot at Christmas. Someone they miss, or want, or financial issues, health issues, a thousand different things.

Should people not appear loved up as some people are in crap relationships or want to be in a relationship?

Should people not take joy in their children at Christmas as some struggle with fertility?

Should some people not mention spending Christmas with elderly relatives and parents, because some people have face bereavement?

What about photos of happy families when some families are facing illness?

Let people celebrate the way they want, and don't open threads that upset you.

😂 at the savoy cabbages