Ex husband just woke me up

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First day of the school holidays. I work full-time in a demanding role in a secondary school. Not only that, but I work every weekend morning to supplement my income. I very, very rarely get the chance to sleep in these days.
First opportunity for a lie-in came this morning. I was woken at 08.55 by my ex husband ringing the bell. He was dropping off some stuff for our teenage daughter, who was asleep blissfully unaware. It’s not even supposed to be my weekend with the kids, but she slept over here after a night out last night (I live more centrally than he does).
Ex husband is a tricky character, so there’s no point in saying anything to him. But he’d have known full well that this was the first day of the holidays and that our daughter wouldn’t answer after a late night of clubbing.
I’m usually laidback but this has really annoyed me. It sometimes feels like nobody really thinks of me or looks out for me. However I don’t know if I’m being ridiculous or dramatic.
AIBU?

I’d be cross too OP.

My kids were poor sleepers when younger, and up until their mid teens they’d both wake before 7am. They’re 16 and 20 now, but we’re still up early most weekends as 16 year old has football commitments. I’m menopausal so I often wake in the night now too. And I’ve always been a light sleeper. So basically sleep is a precious commodity for me, and if I’m woken unnecessarily I’m furious!

Its not overrated for the OP.

I do wish people would stop trying to tell women not to be pissed off when something pisses them off.

Have a bit of empathy. It is early for a Sunday. I would be pissed off too. Ex husbands are exes for a reason. This would have annoyed me too.
But OP you are free of him now. Enjoy your Sunday and as others have said, maybe a nice Sunday sofa snooze later ♥️🎄🙌🏻

For you. You can't decide for someone else.

This 🙌🏻

YANBU - I think it’s very unreasonable to call on someone unannounced at that time of the morning.

And thanks to those who have pointed out that lie-ins are all relative!
There are some real fixed mindsets here on Mumsnet.

Exactly
so perhaps your ex, like others, don’t regard 9am as an uncivilised time to drop around things for your daughter

It was nearly 9am so not exactly mega early.

This!

It is annoying but don't let this spoil the rest of your day. Doesn't sound like he's worth the energy. Meanwhile, unless he has form for knowing what will piss you off, he's probably blissfully unaware and carrying on with day. Breathe and let it go. You'll feel better for it.

Agree with this. Make sure you get plenty of lie-ins over these holidays, and maybe have a think about the weekend mornings? I don’t know how old you are but this would have completely exhausted me even when I was young - and I’m a hard worker.

Bully for you.

Op YANBU.

Are you mad lol.
I didn't wake till 11.30 am.
Yesterday I was up at 10.45.
Up again 7am would kill me.

I would be telling my obviously adult Dd t sort her own shit out and get out of bed when her father is coming

It's annoying he woke you up.
If DD has been out clubbing she is an adult and therefore she should have been the one to get up

If you work in a school, I suppose you're usually up 6ish? In which case 8:30 would be a dream lay in. You're not unreasonable to be annoyed, youre allowed to feel how you feel but just giving another perspective. Your daughter was in the wrong, she could have answered the door, regardless of clubbing. You have plenty of days to enjoy laying in and enjoy your holidays

My body just doesn't sleep more than about 7.5 hours.

If I go to bed 11pm I'm awake by 7am.

I have kids so don't want a lie in as I'd rather get up and have fun!

Good for you, my fun starts anytime after 12pm.

We are all different, i dont have kids so no need to wake up.

Do you work?

He’s long gone. I’ve had over a decade of peace and sleep!

How many times did he do this before you kicked him out?

The sanctimony of some early risers should be studied.

My bad. As this is mumsnet and a webpage/forum designed for mums, then I assumed people on here all had children.

Enjoy your lie in.

I get why you're annoyed but actually your daughter is more at fault than your ex here.