My 1 year old loves everyone but me!!

[Embarrassedmumoftoddler]

My DS is 14 months old and it feels like he loves everyone apart from me !!

Just a few examples….

He cries when my mum leaves the room but never did it with me.

When we turn up to see family and I’m carrying him in, he will put his arms out to family but never does to me.

In toddler groups, he will be all over all the other mums, cuddling them and giving him toys but never cuddles me and will cry when I pick him up to take him back to me.

When I picked him up from MIL’s house the other day, he wasn’t even bothered I’d turned up and cried when I picked him up to go.

He actively ignores me whenever we are in company of anyone else.

All I see is other babies and toddlers all over their mums, not wanting to let go of them and my boy can’t wait to be shot of me !! I just don’t know where I’m going wrong as I’d like to think I’m a good mum. I’m a SAHM but seriously considering going back to work as he seems to much prefer my Mum & MIL

My son only wanted his dad from 6 months to about 16 months. He would cry and crawl after DH when he'd leave the room. Never wanted me when he hurt himself etc. He then started really wanting me by 2yo. Now it's 50/50 mostly. The other day DH picked him up from nursery and he was upset as he wanted me 😆 It is just a really annoying phase. He's 3 now.

Yes, let him play on his own if he will, and then praise him. "You are playing so nicely . . . " "That was a big crash!" " You are so good at building towers" Be his champion, praising him, backing him up. Give him space but notice, encourage and have his back. You'll get there.

What's the point? You're his mother, you love him and created him and the whole point is to raise him and watch him grow. As he grows up, there will be various phases where he will barely speak to you anymore. Children will be children.

Don't take it to heart like this, it's not healthy.

It's a phase.
You are the 'safe space', the 'constant'.
He knows he's completely safe with you, and loved.
He's 'exploring ' everyone else in the world ... and seeing if they 'match up'.
(They won't 😂😂).
Chill.
He's yours 😘