To think we romanticise people buying houses with huge parental deposits?

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Good for them, truly. But AIBU to think the media and influencers present it as personal achievement when it’s really generational wealth doing the heavy lifting?

I’ve never thought this and I have never wanted a big house! I quite minimalist so don’t need endless space to fill up with stuff!

Word soup.

Another one is along the lines of 'this 19 year old built their own tiny home and has saved enough money to buy a proper house' when their tiny home (that their dad built) is in their parent's garden and they are living rent free so can afford to save anyway.

People used to make some nasty remarks to my daughter who had her own flat in London at 21. She used to tell them she'd much rather have her dad who had died 2 years earlier and left her some of his life insurance policy. That used to keep them quiet.

OP has been watching too much TikTok 'romanticise' is the new 'aesthetic'. Both used completely inappropriately and by people who appear to have no understanding of their meaning and seem to think they can be used as nouns, verbs, adverbs and adjectives, sometimes all in the same sentence.

It could also be seen as good fortune.
That you inherited money yourself. That you have had sufficient good health to be able to earn enough to save. That you were able to stay in a long term stable relationship. That you have a good enough pension that you can afford to spend the money. Lots of variables at play that make the difference between being able to hand your adult DC a chunk of cash and not. Many of them having very little to do with how hard you worked or how frugally you saved.
My view is that if you're fortunate enough to have a lump sum to give to your adult DC, and they're even more fortunate in receiving it, surely that alone is 'reward' enough? Feel as smug as you like in your own head, but to expect a round of applause and to be romanticised like a hero by those less fortunate is a bit much.

Or maybe they are flaunting how grateful they are of their parents and you're just sour?

Oh my absolute favourite are the Sunday Times/Evening Standard magazine puff pieces about Esmerelda Swishihair and her organic candle business in the Cotswolds.

Which after a bit of googling turns out to be heiress-to-Unilever Lady Esmerelda, with a hobby business she asked her PA to set up last week. Which is only in the paper because Daddy asked George Osbourne to do an article about her.

So you’re exactly right op and I know exactly what is happening and why. Young beautiful people and their stories get clicks as does property porn. The two things together are unbelievably successful. But the young beautiful people who have property have family wealth. So it’s not so much that the media want to romanticise young people who have rich parents it’s that it’s these young people who will best ‘sell’ a property story.

Huh? Has everyone been on the wine today? Did you confuse the meaning of romanticise?

If anything they have it tough. Nobody would actually say no to having some free money to set themselves and their families up in a home but yet they’re vilified for getting ahead through luck rather than achievement.

If anything they have it tough. Nobody would actually say no to having some free money to set themselves and their families up in a home but yet they’re vilified for getting ahead through luck rather than achievement.

I think it makes us ordinary, hard-working parents feel inadequate, heart-broken that our children will be forever renting. My children have told me I am unlikely to ever be a grandparent.

I earn a good salary and there’s still no way I could save up enough house deposit for my adult offspring. I’m still wincing from the financial beating of their university rent costs. My own mortgage won’t be paid off until I’m in my fifties. I’ve only just paid off my student loan.

The worst of it is that it isn’t our fault. It’s all due to deliberate policy choices to keep the housing supply throttled back - to the point where the uk is now short of about 4 million homes, with countless thousands (including children) in temporary accommodation.

We have yet to see the worst of it. Inward migration of up to a million a year, new households formed at a rate of 250k a year….and barely 100k houses built a year.

We will end up with actual HMO slums, shanty towns and rioting young people if our governments continue to do nothing but make grandiose gestures on TV. At the moment, the government is lucky that young people are apathetic about the situation.