To think we romanticise people buying houses with huge parental deposits?

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Good for them, truly. But AIBU to think the media and influencers present it as personal achievement when it’s really generational wealth doing the heavy lifting?

I've never heard anyone romanticise this at all.

How can it be presented as personal achievement?

They are just very lucky!

If anything it's seen as, at best, totally cringe or, at worst, some kind of crime.

I don’t think anyone does, if anything it’s those who do it without help that are praised (and I know several young people in their 20’s that have bought houses with no help, by working really hard and having 2nd jobs on top

I don’t think what you are describing is the romanticisation of buying from parental wealth. It’s the misrepresentation, together with giving the buyers undue admiration for what is not really their own achievement.

I've never thought it was romanticised or classed as an achievement.
It's divisive for sure, more so in the SE where home ownership is very difficult without it. Lots of resentment and envy among those who didn't get parental help.
I suspect it's always been a thing, albeit on a smaller scale, that some parents will give what they can to help their children and others don't or can't.

“Good for them, truly” but actually not and here is why I think so 🙄
Jealous much? Let people live. As long as they aren’t buying a house with your money why do you give a hoot?

An achievement for the parents, you mean? How could it be an achievement for their offspring?

Romanticise? In what way? I don't think I've ever seen it described as an achievement unless it's through self-earned money.

I suppose they may care as boomers drawing down pensions early etc to give to their kids actively increases house prices.

That’s exactly my point. What I’m reacting to is the way these stories are sometimes framed or received, where the focus is on the individual’s hard work, discipline or “getting on the ladder”, while the parental help is treated as a footnote rather than the main enabling factor. So not that everyone sees it as a personal achievement but that the wider narrative often downplays how decisive generational wealth actually is.

I disagree.

I think that making/saving enough money to offer your child(ren) house deposit(s) could be romanticized as it could be seen as an achievement.

Such is the economy though, we have had years of buy to let pushing house prices through the absolute roof so this is just another thing doing it. I appreciate it’s frustrating but honestly his post is just an excuse to be pissy that some parents can and do help their children and some can’t or don’t. As it’s always been, surely everyone who can help their children should? You always want better for them than you had, I don’t think this is wrong at all.

what are people on this afternoon? no one ever romanticised buying a house as a huge personal achievement if your parents paid the deposit?

where is this coming from????

You're right, OP, but I dont think it's romanticised so much as downplayed in media narratives which send the message, 'this is how we did it, and you can too!'. I agree with you that responding sourly to this isn't jealousy (though personally I will own I am jealous of everyone who has had wads of parental cash!) but it obscures the horrendous state of housing in this country.

I’ve seen these articles, clickbait titles like ‘21 and I’ve saved enough to own my home’ and 5 paragraphs in, turns out their mum gifted a hefty deposit. It’s the framing it as the child’s achievement that’s the issue.

This isn’t a thing.

The OP needs to look up “romanticise” in a dictionary.

I haven’t seen it portrayed this way.

I think most people don't really give it a second thought, do they?
If someones buying a house, why does anyone else need to know where the money has come from?

I don’t know what you’re talking about. Romanticising? MN posters seem to look down on it 🤷‍♀️

Your premise is false. No one has romanticised it, or presented it as an achievement. Early next year, my DS and DDIL will be buying their first home with a deposit provided by me. That's my hard work, and how I choose to spend the proceeds is my business, if that's okay with you.

But that’s not what the OP meant, is it? To me she meant that it was seen as a personal achievement for whoever was given the deposits.

It could be seen as laudable in parents who have saved that money rather than pissing it away on flash cars or whatever.