Things you do/have done that most mumsnetters would frown upon!

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Just for fun.

What are some things that you have done in the past or do now that you know most MN’s would find you unreasonable for?

I’ll go first:

• I’m so unbothered if you choose to have a child free wedding and my children aren’t invited. Even close family weddings. It’s your day I’m not going to kick up a fuss that you haven’t invited to my children. You’ve probably given me at least 6 months to a year notice, I’ll just arrange childcare. If I can’t - then I can’t come and you can’t be mad at me!
• Chose to have 2 elective c sections for no medical need.
• Given my children chocolate occasionally before the age of 2.
• Son slept in a cot until almost 3!

I don't need to be awkward with my in-laws and go no contact even tho they can be a pain in the arse .
I don't feel the need to make my husband pick me and respect my 'boundaries .
I let relatives visit me after giving birth 🙄
I think 'therapy' is a load of old shite that validates some nutcases perspective on situations 😱.
Its ok I'll delete myself 🤣🤣

Not always washed hands after a wee.

Sorry!

I hate the use of DC, DS, DH, DDog etc
Change the bed linen and towels now and again
I welcome ad-hoc visitors with or without their dogs
Let workmen use my toilet
Front door is only usually locked at night
Cats sleep in our bed
Have done the "mental load" for 40 years without knowing it even existed
Remained happily married for 40+years despite blazing rows & disagreements
Believe many label their children ADHA/SEN/Autistic etc without due cause
Treat my husband's family as my own (as does he)

Basically on mumsnet you can't win whatever parenting decision you make! The only acceptable way to be a mum on here is to have two kids (boy and girl), two years apart, between the ages of 28-33 and work part time on a term time school hours job. If you don't then you either:

Are a stay at home mum- relying on your husband, financially vulnerable etc

Work full time - why bother having kids? Care more about earning shoes and handbags than your children.

Outside the acceptable time frame and you're either too young or too old.

Have one child and then you're selfish and they'll be lonely. Have more than two then you're also selfish, not thinking of the planet and they'll be deprived of parental attention.

Have more than a two year age gap and they'll never play together and have nothing in common.

The recent thread where a man (so off to a bad start right there) posted about what was clearly an extremely unequal division of labour and quite a number of posters instead said that they were sure his wife was buckling under the enormous strain of occasionally booking vet appointments and doctor's appointments and buying clothes online - utterly crazy.

Oh just thought of other things
I sleep trained my formula fed children and never had play dates. Their friends called on them and they played outside from about aged 6.
I resumed sex before my six week post partum check up
My 16/17 were allowed small amounts of alcohol with meals
I’ve been to Dubai.
I don’t give a shit about my birthday

I've never had a child that is exceptionally clever and so developmentally ahead that her preschool have commented in it 🫣😉,,that will be down to all the screen time and sweets I should imagine 🤷😂

I do both of these too!

Agree with absolutely every single one of these!!!

I replace very regularly but what else are we supposed to use to clean the toilet? Never understood this on!

Me too!

You do. And of course in Glasgow it can be good or bad

I let my dog lick my plate clean and spoon her in bed!

I eat at McDonald's
I don't have screen time rules
I love Christmas and Birthdays and decorating for them
I don't make my children do 'chores'
I think its fine for your children to be competitive and want to win at things like sports
If they have been subjected to a certain behaviour by a certain demographic, my children are allowed to refer to them as 'Karen'.

I don't ever answer my door though.

I don’t LTB at the smallest thing he’s done wrong.

(Appreciate there are lots of posts where LTB is very valid advice when a woman is with an awful man, but I see so many posts about minor irks or disagreements with partners and everyone insists they need to leave!)

I have nice autumnal candles and ceramic pumpkins up in October, and don’t consider it to be “tat”.

My partner and I earn around £75k combined and we think this is enough.

I think it’s nice to celebrate adults birthdays.

I can eat a three course meal easily, without thinking this is over indulging or being too full.

Are bathroom bins frowned upon?

You are basically me!

Used a toilet brush to clean the toilet

I thought of more!

We have loads of enormous televisions, including in several bedrooms

I loved my MIL and welcomed her into our house whenever she wanted, including just after I'd given birth, because I am normal and she wanted to meet her grandson

I understand that kids don't suddenly and dramatically become fully grown adults on their 18th birthdays and appreciate that even young adults still need their parents. And I'd never have charged them rent, especially while they were still in education.

We regularly spend over £200 on dinner, because we can afford to

Oh and I was delighted for visitors to come around postpartum and encouraged them to hold the baby as much as possible.

And I also LOVE my MIL.

DDs were both moved into a cot in the next room at three months old.

I don't have a schedule for washing bed linen or towels or housework and just wash them when they seem to need it/clean when it seems dirty.

I had one glass of wine a week when pregnant and half a bottle of wine a week when breastfeeding.

I sometimes buy my kids a breakfast bar from the local shop for breakfast and I've put my coat over my pj top before today I always change the bottoms tho I'm not a chav 🤪

My children walk/walked alone to school from 6/7 years old
Have, and use, a loo brush
Don't lock the door when we're in until I go to bed
Answer the door to everyone (ditto phone, unless my phone tells me its probably spam)
Have and go to parties where everyone has their shoes off
Happily get naked in front of strangers in changing rooms and saunas

Totally forgot the TVs everyone has their own personal huge tv and the bar also has one.

Well - I don't know if you can all cope with this..

I SMOKE!!