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Things you do/have done that most mumsnetters would frown upon!

613 replies

Watermelonsugar345 · 16/12/2025 11:47

Just for fun.

What are some things that you have done in the past or do now that you know most MN’s would find you unreasonable for?

I’ll go first:

  • I’m so unbothered if you choose to have a child free wedding and my children aren’t invited. Even close family weddings. It’s your day I’m not going to kick up a fuss that you haven’t invited to my children. You’ve probably given me at least 6 months to a year notice, I’ll just arrange childcare. If I can’t - then I can’t come and you can’t be mad at me!
  • Chose to have 2 elective c sections for no medical need.
  • Given my children chocolate occasionally before the age of 2.
  • Son slept in a cot until almost 3!
OP posts:
proname · 16/12/2025 14:56

I decided to stay with my cheating DP

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 16/12/2025 14:56

Punkerplus · 16/12/2025 13:39

I'm also another one who loved having visitors when I had a newborn. You want to come to my house, hold my baby so I can go to the toilet, drink a coffee and have my arms free. YES PLEASE.

I was also delighted for my MIL and parents to come round and just and sit and hold the baby and to see them bond. I didn't demand that they (or anyone) do my housework or cook a meal for me.

I also don't do "shaking and crying" or at "my wits end" over the smallest inconvenience.

I'd never use the phrase "get your ducks in a row" in real life (or on here for this matter).

Edited

Isn’t it usually ‘sobbing and shaking’ - and usually ‘literally’?

OilyRoundTheCogs · 16/12/2025 14:57

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 16/12/2025 14:51

mum - is that you?

😂

I just had a peek at some of your other posts (just in case), and I can safely say that I'm not!

everdine · 16/12/2025 15:00

I breastfed and co sleeping with my children until they were 3, I have never taken their temperature (don’t have a thermometer.)

Batshitkerazy · 16/12/2025 15:00

Put pet bowls in the dishwasher!

User7854653 · 16/12/2025 15:00

Getting a smear test without making a big deal about it

CoubousAndTourmaIet · 16/12/2025 15:01

BettysRoasties · 16/12/2025 14:55

In our case dh hand scrubs the toilet.

Nobody who lives in our house uses disposable sanitary items.

Loo roll tube comes straight down for recycling. 😅

Same here. Husband cleans the toilet with loo roll and a bleached cloth because I'm germ phobic and I will not have a loo brush in the house.

Sanitary items go in the fire or in a dog poo bag straight into the outside bin because we have cats that steal from bins in the house.

BunnyLake · 16/12/2025 15:02

All my coloured washes go into together, be they tea towels or my knickers, I haven’t died yet.

I put the dog bowl in the dishwasher, not died after 13 years of it.

I can spend an entire day lying on the sofa thinking about doing things but not actually doing them.

I answer my door.

I was very mumsy and did all my kids cooking and washing until late teens and still managed to have two independent and self sufficient young adults.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 16/12/2025 15:02

Might have been covered but:

I believe there are more things in heaven and earth and love a good paranormal thread.

I would rather chew my own arms off than "embrace" AI.

I'm a lifestyle vintage Goth and don't care if people think I'm attention seeking, it makes laundry so much easier 😘

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 16/12/2025 15:04

OilyRoundTheCogs · 16/12/2025 14:57

😂

I just had a peek at some of your other posts (just in case), and I can safely say that I'm not!

My mum is in her 80's and still smokes a little weed everyday!

snugasabug75 · 16/12/2025 15:05

I allow delivery people to use my toilet
i used to spend kkk on the kids at Christmas and now the adults I've spent around £300 on them each

Bluejaysforthewin · 16/12/2025 15:08

I vape
Smoke weed
My kids have cereal for breakfast
I like my in laws
Some weekends we don't leave the house, we order in food and all lounge around on our phones/tablets
I let my kids stay home sometimes.when I know they're not sick, they just need a day.
2 weeks out from Christmas not decided what we are eating on 25th. Leaning towards buffet or Indian.

Giggorata · 16/12/2025 15:08

I have a huge TV (great for Snooker)
I love Snooker
I have a loo brush
I have taken drugs
I drink wine
I was a teen Mum
I have had affairs
I answer my door
I love dogs, but they spend a lot of time in an outside run.
I own a gun and shoot.
I am pagan and woo
I don't lock up during the day (we've only recently done it at night)
I love both my DILs

BountifulPantry · 16/12/2025 15:10

My OH doesn’t have a penis beaker.

secretllama · 16/12/2025 15:13

With both my children, i started having child free nights out from when they were around 3 months old and didnt feel guilty at all.

Muggletum · 16/12/2025 15:16

As a family, we eat beige freezer to oven food four or fve times a week, usually with tinned beans or frozen peas to make it healthier. And I hardly ever properly mop the kitchen floor, I just take a wet tissue to any spills or marks and it looks fine...

BunnyLake · 16/12/2025 15:19

I don’t like working with women a lot of the time and would much rather an 80/20 or at the most 70/30 ratio male/female co-workers.

I really like both my sons’ girlfriends and they like me. I’m going to be a well liked mil 😊

Paisleybuddy · 16/12/2025 15:20

spookysoul · 16/12/2025 14:03

Strict routines from birth here, and sleep trained even earlier than you, I think most aspects of my early parenting would be vilified by mumsnet!

ha you and me both

everdine · 16/12/2025 15:21

I didn’t get married when I was going to have children, I had savings and I wanted to keep them just in case things didn’t work out! We have since had a civil partnership (once it became legal for heterosexual couples.) We did it purely for legal reasons, it wasn’t a celebration. We had two witnesses and didn’t even have to speak, just sign a copy!

CandidRaven · 16/12/2025 15:23

Purplecatshopaholic · 16/12/2025 12:02

I too have a loo brush in each bathroom - to date I have not suffered revilement, or been shunned, because of this!

Are people on here against loo brushes?! I've got them in my bathrooms oops 😅

Happyholidays78 · 16/12/2025 15:25

Let me son have a dummy until he was 4 & he slept in our bed until he was about 10. He's turned into a decent 18 year old without protruding teeth!
Also told family & friends to stop buying us Christmas presents & vice versa as our kid's got older.

SunnyViper · 16/12/2025 15:25

I leave the door unlocked during the day when I’m in.

BackToLurk · 16/12/2025 15:26

Oh god I forgot so many

Had a fag or two when pregnant

Had a drink or two when pregnant

2 c-sections

Fed with formula

Vegan

Have a big muscly bully breed dog

I have long hair and I'm nearly 60

I am not traumatised if someone looks at me funny

ETA also have a loo brush

Coffeeishot · 16/12/2025 15:27

babasaclover · 16/12/2025 14:23

I replace very regularly but what else are we supposed to use to clean the toilet? Never understood this on!

They are either donning the rubber gloves or have a cleaner ! I have neither so brush it is 😀

everdine · 16/12/2025 15:29

BunnyLake · 16/12/2025 15:19

I don’t like working with women a lot of the time and would much rather an 80/20 or at the most 70/30 ratio male/female co-workers.

I really like both my sons’ girlfriends and they like me. I’m going to be a well liked mil 😊

Edited

I find some women quite tedious to work with, I find with most men you can just get on with work!