Why do people ask you for a present idea then ignore you?

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First world problem I know but why why why do people ask, “what would DC like for Christmas?” so you tell them a specific thing off their Christmas list within budget and then they DON’T BUY IT. Because now I have to go out and get it last minute when I’ve already done the whole mental load of the present anyway. It frustrates me so much, I’ve started saying to people “please let me know if you don’t get it so I can get it for them”. But it sounds so rude and ungrateful 🙈

I left my present buying until the last minute so couldn’t order online. When I asked SIL for a present idea for my nieces she suggested swimsuits. Very particular colours and patterns were requested. Now Amazon might have had them but impossible to get in my local smallish city in December! I spent hours looking.

So that’s one reason why OP 😅

Trying to engage with good faith here... What ages are we talking about?

Because my son is two, his birthday was two months ago. He hasn't got close to playing with all the toys he got then.

But he actually loves ANYTHING household that is his. Big bonus points if it has his name on it.

The gift he keeps going on about wanting is a purple jacket because it's his favourite colour, and he already picks out what he wants to wear.

So possibly the way to square your circle is to buy basics that will excite your nieces and nephews?

Ages 14 and 15ish when I was asked to buy basic joggers and school shoes for Christmas and birthday respectively. Completely different situation to your little one having a dream jacket that he is requesting. I’ve bought them loads of non-essential clothes at their own request.

I’m absolutely not trying to square the circle. Was just answering OP’s question.