Not to be falling over myself to say congratulation on the expected baby

[EddiBritt]

DP has a friend who is 40 going on 12.
At the end of last year he left his partner and child to move in with a woman he met on the intrenet, saying his partner was trying to control him..... Turns out he said he wanted to quit yet another job and she said ok but get a new job first, not exactly trying to rule his world is it!

So he moves away, in with this other woman who has a bit of money and 3 children.
He see little of his child and has still got no job and is not giving any money to his ex, who is working full time and doing a really good job raising their child.
Now I know what goes on in other peoples lives is nothing to do with me but.....

He called to say he and new woman (who he has now married) are going to have a baby, DP things this is great but I don't.
He has walked out on his child, he has no job and is very childish, and it would seem she is 12 weeks along but was here 4 weeks ago smoking and drank 4 yes ladies 4 bottles of wine.

By all accounts is still drinking and smoking too. DP can't wok out why I am not knitting booties!

I don't want to say oh lovely well done because that is not how I feel.
Have namechanged as DP snoops sometimes.

EddiBritt

If I was in your shoes, I'd have a problem gushing congratulations. It would seem totally hypocritical in the circumstances. Feel for you.

Thank you.

Dp will be seeing them in a few weeks time (they share a hobby that I do not).

He is really pleased for them, and thats his right, but I just feel it would be really hard for me to congratulate them and mean it.

I also feel so sorry for his first child, who he did not interduct to his new wife till after the wedding (his child was not at the wedding) and only told his child and Ex then because his new wifes child told his child!!!!
In fact they came here at Christmas and brought his child round, and interduced his wife to be as eddi and Mr Eddi's friend this is the woman who is going to be his childs stepmum and he could not even say so to his child

no yanbu I would find it hard to be falling over myself to congratulate them too.

And I find it hard not to judge people who drink and somke during pregnancy, but their lives I suppose.

As for him chatting to women on myspace, I am usually one of the first to say that people are entitled to have friends of the opposite sex. However, given that he ended his previous relationship for a woman he met on the internet, this aspect would concern me if I were his current partner.

Thank you wannabe