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AIBU to think puberty blocker trial is child abuse?

185 replies

F1rstDoNoHarm · 14/12/2025 12:53

Have we not learnt from Tavistock closure?

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Shedmistress · 15/12/2025 08:31

justpassmethemouse · 14/12/2025 21:23

Because my DH and I would like kids and he can’t do the production side of things, so I will have to deal.

How do you know you can do the 'production' side if you are 'non binary'?

And 'production'? That's a whole thread in itself.

impossibletoday · 15/12/2025 08:42

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AIBU to think puberty blocker trial is child abuse?
borntobequiet · 15/12/2025 08:46

Brilliant indeed.

falalalalalalalallama · 15/12/2025 08:53

justpassmethemouse · 14/12/2025 14:33

That is why they are running tests, rather than allowing them for use.

The tests are on children FFS.

The known risks are:

  • permanent sterility
  • impaired sexual function as an adult
  • a total lack of sexual function or desire as an adult
  • brittle bones
  • severe "brain fog"

It's also suspected they cause:

  • impaired brain fuction
  • lower IQ
  • inhibiting the child from maturing mentally, so their peers grow up around then and they stay childish

Why on earth would you test like this on a child, especially when you could do studies on those who have already taken them, or on animals? (The concerns about brain fuction come partly from a study in sheep).

It's ghoulish and entirely unethical.

JellySaurus · 15/12/2025 09:00

Inchworms · 14/12/2025 14:10

Without getting into the wider debate, everyone will go through puberty and the use in kids who are questioning their gender is to delay puberty while further investigation into whether they will start on cross-gender hormones is done. It’s not about putting off puberty forever.

In the vast majority of cases of gender-distress in children, puberty is the cure. Why delay it?

F1rstDoNoHarm · 16/12/2025 10:55

With Conservatives and Reform actively against the puberty blocker trial, and Wes Streeting 'uncomfortable', I really hope it doesn't go ahead.

Unfortunately most people take what they hear at face value, and assume that this is a valid, well considered medical trial, when it's really not. Still, a thread like this one is showing that public perception is shifting, with more people being now aware of what is really going on behind the scenes, and that's encouraging.

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borntobequiet · 16/12/2025 11:00

I gather Rosie Duffield’s letter has more signatories now, but not sure how many are Labour. My female Conservative MP has signed it.
I have never voted Conservative in my life before, but Reform is a very real threat here, and I may even vote for her if she stands again. She’s an excellent constituency MP and a fairly moderate, centrist Tory.

Jugjug · 16/12/2025 11:43

I know this will sound controversial (maybe less so on mumsnet where there are some likeminded people) but nobody is born the wrong sex, you have a penis you are a male, a vagina and you’re a female. If a grown adult has their heart absolutely set on going through a life of surgery and hormones then fair enough but to encourage that in a child is sick.

I’ve been astounded by the level of ignorance around transgender surgery, I was speaking to someone recently who genuinely thought a vaginoplasty led to a fully functioning actual vagina. So so so so wrong. I’ll spare you the details but at best it leads to an open wound that doesn’t get infected and has to be regularly “dilated” to prevent it closing up.

And ftm surgery is a lot more complicated than mtf surgery I won’t bother going into it though.

The level of ignorance around this and the whole “be kind” bollocks is leading people who have no actual idea what cross sex surgery consists of encouraging impressionable children into a lifestyle of being a permanent medical patient. And anyone who points out the actual truth gets shouted down

Jugjug · 16/12/2025 11:47

CohensDiamondTeeth · 14/12/2025 22:03

Ok so you're a female person who "identifies" as non-binary (you identify as neither sex), is married to a male, and you are pregnant on purpose. One of the most quintessentially female experiences there is.

And yet here you are advocating for harmful drugs to be handed out like sweeties to pre-pubescent children, which will most likely ensure that they will be unable to have children of their own?

Fucking hell!

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Exactly

NewYearNewNameWhoKnew · 16/12/2025 11:53

justpassmethemouse · 14/12/2025 13:26

Some kids will really benefit from
puberty blockers. How else will you ensure it is safe for use without tests?

Note: Not all families think like you, and they deserve to make the right choice for their family.

Well firstly you complete and publish the findings of a longitudinal observational study of children with gender dysphoria- current data indicates that about 80% resolve with puberty.

Then you do some proper animal studies - we really don't have animal data on blocking puberty then starting cross sex hormones - which will be available to children in this trial.

Then do some research to see if cross sex hormones for adults with gender dysphoria have any benefits - they certainly have side effects with a massively increased risk of blood clots in males taking oestrogen.

Then and only then think about whether it is ethical to stop puberty in children. Then design a decent trial - the design of this is so bad it almost looks deliberate- it's just a re run of the Tavistock starting out with a trial then declaring it so successful they should give blockers to most children, without actually publishing their results- which were negative with no benefit to mental health seen.

LeftieRightsHoarder · 16/12/2025 11:55

Inchworms · 14/12/2025 14:10

Without getting into the wider debate, everyone will go through puberty and the use in kids who are questioning their gender is to delay puberty while further investigation into whether they will start on cross-gender hormones is done. It’s not about putting off puberty forever.

I can hardly believe people can treat this so casually.

Puberty blockers are only helpful to children with a condition that is causing premature puberty. Using them on physically healthy children suffering mental-health problems is child abuse.

Lovelyview · 16/12/2025 12:02

Inchworms · 14/12/2025 14:10

Without getting into the wider debate, everyone will go through puberty and the use in kids who are questioning their gender is to delay puberty while further investigation into whether they will start on cross-gender hormones is done. It’s not about putting off puberty forever.

There is evidence that you can't 'delay' puberty. It's a developmental window in which the body and brain both change dramatically. It is likely that blocking this in adolescence causes all kinds of problems including reducing IQ and affecting bone density and the healthy development of sex organs. Children who have already taken puberty blockers should be studied in depth before any trial on a new cohort takes place.

Jugjug · 16/12/2025 12:04

LeftieRightsHoarder · 16/12/2025 11:55

I can hardly believe people can treat this so casually.

Puberty blockers are only helpful to children with a condition that is causing premature puberty. Using them on physically healthy children suffering mental-health problems is child abuse.

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People are fucking ignorant and call us “ignorant” I was speaking to someone recently who thought a vaginoplasty resulted in a fully functional actual vagina. This is a person who scolds me on my “transphobia” 🙄

Id urge anyone who thinks that way to go check some vaginoplasty groups on Reddit, find out what “dilating” means. Then come back and scold us “transphobes” for not wanting to encourage impressionable kids to go down that route.

Ihatetomatoes · 16/12/2025 12:07

Jugjug · 16/12/2025 11:43

I know this will sound controversial (maybe less so on mumsnet where there are some likeminded people) but nobody is born the wrong sex, you have a penis you are a male, a vagina and you’re a female. If a grown adult has their heart absolutely set on going through a life of surgery and hormones then fair enough but to encourage that in a child is sick.

I’ve been astounded by the level of ignorance around transgender surgery, I was speaking to someone recently who genuinely thought a vaginoplasty led to a fully functioning actual vagina. So so so so wrong. I’ll spare you the details but at best it leads to an open wound that doesn’t get infected and has to be regularly “dilated” to prevent it closing up.

And ftm surgery is a lot more complicated than mtf surgery I won’t bother going into it though.

The level of ignorance around this and the whole “be kind” bollocks is leading people who have no actual idea what cross sex surgery consists of encouraging impressionable children into a lifestyle of being a permanent medical patient. And anyone who points out the actual truth gets shouted down

This

GreenGodiva · 16/12/2025 12:08

justpassmethemouse · 14/12/2025 13:26

Some kids will really benefit from
puberty blockers. How else will you ensure it is safe for use without tests?

Note: Not all families think like you, and they deserve to make the right choice for their family.

You are correct in that a pre schooler at age 3-4 that is undergoing previous puberty will indeed benefit from even 6-12 months of delayed puberty as their tiny bodies are not anywhere near ready. But to actively prevent puberty and delay and permanently prevent a typical biological process from ever happening patient is horrific. It results in tiny genitals that lack sexual function. Beans that never fully mature. It’s an awful thing to do

NewYearNewNameWhoKnew · 16/12/2025 12:10

Wes Streeting will never be PM if he continues to back this trial. It'll haunt him for the rest of his career - absolute gift to the Tories. He needs to grow a backbone and bin the trial until the longitudinal observational study is finished & analysed, and insist on follow up of people previously given puberty blockers. You can do anonymised clinical research without individual consent if it's ethically justified, and it definitely is here - all you need is their unique identifiers and access to medical records.

F1rstDoNoHarm · 16/12/2025 12:16

Jugjug · 16/12/2025 12:04

People are fucking ignorant and call us “ignorant” I was speaking to someone recently who thought a vaginoplasty resulted in a fully functional actual vagina. This is a person who scolds me on my “transphobia” 🙄

Id urge anyone who thinks that way to go check some vaginoplasty groups on Reddit, find out what “dilating” means. Then come back and scold us “transphobes” for not wanting to encourage impressionable kids to go down that route.

Alternatively, if reddit is too much with all the graphic content, then a more academic description of what these gender reconstruction surgeries really mean, is available on Nick Wallis's blog:
What exactly is a neovagina, then? – Gender Blog

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lifeturnsonadime · 16/12/2025 12:48

As so many others have said this is abuse.

We don't need to trial drugs that we already are harmful to treat a condition that doesn't exist in children who are unable to consent,

Parents who encourage this for their children should be investigated and prosecuted for abuse.

FunMustard · 16/12/2025 12:54

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 14/12/2025 17:10

As I understand it, it wasn't set up to facilitate that at all. It was a specialist clinic set up in the late 1980s for a tiny number of children and teenagers in England and Wales (about two thirds boys, one third girls) who were experiencing extreme distress related to their gender, i.e. feeling that somehow in spite of having a perfectly healthy male or female boy there was something about their personality that made them feel they couldn't actually be male or female. They felt more like the opposite sex. This makes no sense at all unless you think that there is only one valid way to be a boy/man or a girl/woman, which is obviously nonsense, given how different gender stereotypes are from one society to another and from one historical period to another.

At the time the standard treatment for gender dysphoria in children was watchful waiting. The child and parents/guardians would have many appointments. A detailed medical and developmental history would be taken. The psychiatrists and other clinicians would diagnose any other conditions that might be affecting the child, e.g. depression, anxiety, eating disorder. They would look for signs of neurodevelopmental disorders, e.g. autism, ADHD. They would ask about things that might have affected the child, e.g. medical problems, family break up, bereavement, witnessing domestic violence, experiencing abuse or bullying. There would be a lot of talking. It was important to talk to the adults as well as the children to try to get it across to them that if their little boy was a sensitive, quiet child who liked dressing up and playing with dolls that didn't mean he wasn't a real boy. How were they responding to his developing personality?

The rationale behind watchful waiting was that research showed that virtually all children and teenagers feeling like this became reconciled to their sex once they were through puberty. Only a tiny minority went to the adult gender clinics to ask for medical intervention to make their bodies look more like the opposite sex.

Unfortunately, however, a Dutch gender clinic decided to try a new approach, prescribing puberty blockers and then if the child and parents wanted it to put the child on cross-sex hormones. This was supposed to happen only in a tiny number of cases after exhaustive assessment. It didn't. The US medical industry spotted a huge moneymaking opportunity and very soon the standard treatment across all wealthy countries (oddly, gender dysphoria is not a big thing in poor countries, go figure) was to rush kids onto puberty blockers more or less on request.

Look at the numbers of children seen at GIDS many years ago. Look how fast they were going up and how quickly the balance swung from mostly boys to mostly girls. The clinicians who just accepted this without wanting to know why have failed in their responsibility. They really ought to be held to acccount.

Fuck me, a 3400% increase overall and a 6000% increase in girls?!

OP, have no arguments at all. I find it so upsetting - those of you who think it's a good thing should watch the episode about Jazz Jennings where his doctor says they can't do a penile inversion because he never went through puberty and thus at age 17 he only has a small boy's penis. He therefore had to have a "vagina" made out of his colon.

Human beings can't change sex. It is cruel in the extreme to allow children to believe they can.

Lovelyview · 16/12/2025 13:21

Jugjug · 16/12/2025 12:04

People are fucking ignorant and call us “ignorant” I was speaking to someone recently who thought a vaginoplasty resulted in a fully functional actual vagina. This is a person who scolds me on my “transphobia” 🙄

Id urge anyone who thinks that way to go check some vaginoplasty groups on Reddit, find out what “dilating” means. Then come back and scold us “transphobes” for not wanting to encourage impressionable kids to go down that route.

I think so many people trust the medical profession to act on clear scientific research. When you find out that they have been making it all up as they go along with no clear evidence of any benefit and no effective follow-up on outcomes it's quite mind-blowing.

Ivyy · 16/12/2025 14:25

@PencilsInSpaceI’ve not thought about that aspect before, do you have any reading revs on the Science of gametes not maturing / the body never actually going through puberty?

We have no idea what the long term consequences could be, this is all experimental and I find it baffling and terrifying that it has become so normalised by some, I just can’t get my head around experimenting on children.

Ivyy · 16/12/2025 14:39

WallaceinAnderland · 14/12/2025 18:55

Exactly. PBs are only licensed to suppress puberty until the appropriate age is reached which would be about 11/12, not 18+

They tend to stop them earlier for girls with precocious puberty now, usually 10, some girls continue til 11 if ND, but it would be very unusual to continue treatment beyond that and there would need to be a very good reason.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 16/12/2025 14:52

I assumed that would be the case. It's not unheard of for girls in normal health to start showing early signs of puberty at 8 or 9, is it? Given the nasty side effects and possibility of permanent health problems caused by taking puberty blockers, I would have thought clinicians would want children to take them for the shortest possible time.

MrsTerryPratchett · 16/12/2025 14:56

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 16/12/2025 14:52

I assumed that would be the case. It's not unheard of for girls in normal health to start showing early signs of puberty at 8 or 9, is it? Given the nasty side effects and possibility of permanent health problems caused by taking puberty blockers, I would have thought clinicians would want children to take them for the shortest possible time.

8 is early but within a 'normal' range. You wouldn't give an 8 yo girl showing signs puberty blockers.