Just wanting to get perspective from someone else about this. My sister is quite intense at the best of times. We are just back from Disneyland and have been told more than once not to mention it to her kids that we were there or bring anything back from Disney for them as she doesn't want her kids to be "sucked in" to the whole Disney commercialism. Quite frankly I'm happy to respect that (although inwardly grinning as once they start going to school it'll be a whole new ball game). But after having to declare giving Disney-free presents for Christmas I told her exactly what I had got them. Because she had already said what she wanted me to get them to get, and I had added in one or two things extra, she goes into sulk because I bought more than she had wanted for them. I do understand it can be annoying if someone buys too much for your children but surely it's rude to complain about such a thing? I only see her and her kids about once a year due to distance so didn't think it would be such a big deal. Now I honestly don't feel like buying any future birthday/Christmas gifts for them if the parents are going to be so ungrateful! So what i would like to know is it unreasonable to complain about getting bigger presents than you asked for or is she right?! Her kids, her rules?