So this is a slightly complex one - bear with me.
I’ve been going through the divorce process with my awful, abusive ex husband (of 22 years) for the past 4 years. It has been a truly horrible, dragged out process due to many episodes of ill-health and a lot of lying, manipulation and financial lies from his side. During our relationship, he beat me black and blue many times, broke my arm, my nose, I’ve had three surgeries and countless therapy sessions due to his abuse.
we are FINALLY around a month away from the divorce being finalised and everything being completed - thank goodness.
Around 3 years ago I met my new partner. He is EVERYTHING I could have ever, ever wished for. Kind, caring, loyal, loving, and I absolutely adore him and truly do count my lucky stars every day for him having come into my life, after such an awful relationship before.
Anyway - onto the main question.
My partner and I are traveling for Christmas this year, and a couple of times over the past few weeks, my sister has been giving some hints which have lead me to believe that there is a potential proposal on the cards.
My partner knows my situation r/e the divorce, I have been absolutely honest and transparent about everything - timelines, what’s happening when etc. He knows I adore him and I do truly feel he’s my happy ending.
I would absolutely say yes to his proposal in a heartbeat, but I am worried about how it may come across to others. I’ve always been a worrier, and often think people think the worst of me and judge my situation.
I have been through so much in my life and I really
just want some happiness. I feel like perhaps I deserve that now.
Should this proposal happen (I could be getting the complete wrong end of the stick!!) do you think I’d be crazy to say yes, given TECHNICALLY I am still ‘married’?
For context, my ex husband has a partner now and they have recently had two baby twins together. He’s fully moved on, just enjoying controlling me until the last step.
Thank you all. Sorry for my ramble!