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IVF worries and pregnant sis in law

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Discoprincess6 · 10/12/2025 21:03

Need to vent.

Im 39 and starting IVF soon. My sister in law doesn’t approve of my undergoing IVF, she doesn’t think we’ve been trying long enough (18 months), as her friend was turned down and had to go overseas (now pregnant.)

She has made digs and comments to me that are not obvious to anyone else, at best my other sis in law has said the comments are insensitive towards me.

She recently made a comment about the higher risk of stillbirth with IVF babies. I suffer from mental health issues and anxiety, so this comment has increased my stress significantly.

She recently announced that she was 4 weeks pregnant. Our group chat is incessant with baby talk 24/7. Baby names, pregnancy issues. I can’t escape it.

i tried talking to my MIL but she has said I need to move on from her comment. But I can’t as I know the comment was made to hurt me. All of the other digs and comments have been to upset me too.

just don’t know how to move on

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CandyCaneKisses · 11/12/2025 22:47

Mute her and don’t engage.

Uptightmumma · 11/12/2025 22:49

Firstly everyone’s IVF Journey and when/if you qualify is different. Depending on area, why you need the IVF, health, whether either partner has already had a child before this relationship.

I have 2 IVF babies, my friend had to go abroad for hers cos she didn’t qualify on the NHS and the cost for what she needed was too high!

stay stress free. Good luck

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