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Aibu neighbours parcels

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ParcelGrinch · 10/12/2025 12:44

My neighbour keeps getting all their parcels delivered to me, not a problem I work from home so I am always around. Bit annoying when I am in the middle of something though and need to stop to answer the door!

The problem I have is that their parcels keep piling up, it can be weeks till they collect them.
Twice now when collecting them - they have told me that the delivery drivers aren’t telling them where the parcels are despite the drivers telling me they will pop through a card or text them!
I have had ten parcels here sitting here for a fortnight and they haven’t bothered to collect them.. today another parcel turns up so I tell them I can’t take any more parcels, I don’t have the room and they aren’t telling the neighbours were to collect!
for them to tell me they are telling them to bring them to mine through their ring door bell!!

I find this really bizarre that they are lying about not knowing where their parcels are, and then just letting them all mount up! Are they expecting me to take them round? Confused

aibu to not take anymore? i literally have no space in my hallway from all their parcels!

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Frogbear · 10/12/2025 12:45

No, just refuse them.

Burnout50 · 10/12/2025 12:47

Do they know you have their stuff, are you expecting the delivery people to let them know or have you asked them yourself to collect it?

But regardless, if you don't want to, don't.

OhDear111 · 10/12/2025 12:48

Tell them it’s not possible! They are using you and they need to nominate a safe space at their property. Put a notice on your door! Do not leave parcels addressed to X house here.

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ParcelGrinch · 10/12/2025 12:49

Burnout50 · 10/12/2025 12:47

Do they know you have their stuff, are you expecting the delivery people to let them know or have you asked them yourself to collect it?

But regardless, if you don't want to, don't.

Yes, they know as they are the ones telling the delivery people through their doorbell to send them here & then lying saying they don’t know where they are. I have told them mutiple times before that their parcels will be at mine if they can’t find it yet they keep mounting up.
Not sure if I should be taking them round when there in, but it’s not my job too.

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Burnout50 · 10/12/2025 12:53

ParcelGrinch · 10/12/2025 12:49

Yes, they know as they are the ones telling the delivery people through their doorbell to send them here & then lying saying they don’t know where they are. I have told them mutiple times before that their parcels will be at mine if they can’t find it yet they keep mounting up.
Not sure if I should be taking them round when there in, but it’s not my job too.

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Then give them a time frame to pick it up or you'll leave it out for the passers-by/ send it all back.

And don't take any more.

if you want to, explain that your hospitality has been abused and you've had enough. Bye...

looselegs · 10/12/2025 12:54

I work from home and I find that, because of that, people think it's ok to ask delivery people to leave parcels with me. It got to the point a few years ago where neighbours I don't even know or speak to were telling drivers to leave them at mine. One even tried to leave an oven with me!! I stopped it before it started- the only parcels I take are for my immediate neighbour who actually talks to me!

FuzzyWolf · 10/12/2025 12:59

I would put a sign on your door saying that you are busy working and are unable to take in any parcels for anyone else, and to only ring if the item is addressed to your property.

FairFuming · 10/12/2025 13:02

Id stop accepting them. They obviously think you will just store them until they need them. You're not unreasonable to not accept anymore. What bat crap crazy behaviour from your neighbours

Nearly50omg · 10/12/2025 13:04

Tell them to come and get their parcels or they will be going in the bin as you don’t have the space for them and are a storage facility!!! You realise that they will be using you to store Xmas presents so they don’t have to hide them from the kids don’t you?
fotnnhebr th

Nomoresilly · 10/12/2025 13:07

I have had ten parcels here sitting here for a fortnight

pic!!

HelenaWaiting · 10/12/2025 13:07

Nomoresilly · 10/12/2025 13:07

I have had ten parcels here sitting here for a fortnight

pic!!

Grow up.

TimeToStopLurking · 10/12/2025 13:08

Every week I kept getting my neighbours food delivery box. He knew I was on maternity leave and likely home. The delivery would frequently wake the baby/me or catch me in the shower. One day I lost it at the delivery driver (always the same guy) and said to stop coming to my door and it wasn't my delivery. Turned out cf neighbours put me down on the delivery notes as they were never in. That massive box would be with me for days sometimes.

I've had a big carpet/rug arrive at mine. Also here for days. Aaaargh. I feel your pain.

I refuse the big parcels now. One cheeky courier slid it through my door, after I said I had no room for it! I slid it back out and said I wasn't taking it, and didn't care if it had me as an alternative delivery address as I hadn't agreed to it.

I don't mind doing favours but all the time as default is too much

EINSEINSNULL · 10/12/2025 13:08

Frogbear · 10/12/2025 12:45

No, just refuse them.

This. Put a note on the door 'only parcels for this address please'.

Cherrysoup · 10/12/2025 13:14

Tell your neighbour to get their parcels or they'll be left outside (and do it) then refuse any more. Interrupting you at work is unacceptable.

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ParcelGrinch · 10/12/2025 13:20

Nearly50omg · 10/12/2025 13:04

Tell them to come and get their parcels or they will be going in the bin as you don’t have the space for them and are a storage facility!!! You realise that they will be using you to store Xmas presents so they don’t have to hide them from the kids don’t you?
fotnnhebr th

Yep thats what I gathered, they arent very big houses so I guessed they were trying to store them at mine. Going to give them one more chance to collect this evening, if they don’t bother I will just chuck them over the fence into their garden.

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BringBackCatsEyes · 10/12/2025 13:25

If this was me I would take them all round when I know they are in and then ask them to find an alternative delivery method as it's too disruptive for you during the working day.

At this stage, I wouldn't tell them I'm putting them in the bin or leaving them outside or sending them back as that's very immature.

IF they continue the use you then refuse delivery.

mondaytosunday · 10/12/2025 13:40

Jeez just stop! On very rare occasion I’ve taken a parcel for my neighbour, and usually they ask if it’s ok (they travel a lot). My son took a large box in for a neighbour I don’t know and they took ages to collect it. Turns out they didn’t actually live in the house. Then two more large parcels arrive for them and I refused to accept them - turns out they had put my address as an acceptable alternative. Well F that! I refused and I guess they got the message as no more have turned up. I also make sure any packages I’m expecting are not delivered to neighbours.
You are not a post depot. I also have found that RM NEVER leaves a card. It’s only when I try tracking an expected parcel that I see it’s at the depot - which is not a neighbour!

surreygirly · 10/12/2025 13:41

Do not answer the door

AwakeNotThruChoice · 10/12/2025 13:43

Just leave them outside their door?

Nomoresilly · 10/12/2025 13:53

ParcelGrinch · 10/12/2025 13:20

Yep thats what I gathered, they arent very big houses so I guessed they were trying to store them at mine. Going to give them one more chance to collect this evening, if they don’t bother I will just chuck them over the fence into their garden.

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Bloody hell… don’t “chuck” them!

Needingtoanewjob · 10/12/2025 14:06

Ten would annoy me if they'd built up.

We had two the other day for a neighbour and she sent one of the kids to pick them up.
We must have three a week for them.

We also had a parcel for another neighbour but only cos the delivery guy mixed the numbers up and he'd got ours. That cheeky-so-and-so had opened our parcel though.

JoshLymanSwagger · 10/12/2025 14:11

Nomoresilly · 10/12/2025 13:53

Bloody hell… don’t “chuck” them!

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Why not?
They'll have been chucked around in the back of a van to get to OPs house.

@ParcelGrinch If you're feeling kind, get a bin sack, stick all the parcels in and dump them over the fence, then text the NDN to tell them where they are and that you won't be accepting any more parcels for them.

ednaclouda · 10/12/2025 14:57

10 parcels and you’ve been stuck with them for 2 weeks
that is really taking the p**s

one or 2 is the limit

briq · 10/12/2025 17:03

They've abused your goodwill and are lying to avoid looking lazy. I'd assume they're just too 'busy' (lazy) to collect them, though it could be a space issue, but surely if you're ordering things, you'll have to make room for them sooner or later.

I'd stop accepting their parcels, and if they ask why, say whatever suited me, since they have no problem lying to you. I'd probably just say you're too busy to answer the door. You are working, after all!

InMyOodie · 10/12/2025 17:05

There's one of these posts every few days lately. Just don't take parcels in for them!

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