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Christmas card from neighbour..

231 replies

NewandBlue · 10/12/2025 06:55

Ive received a card from our neighbours two door down and it states all,the family’s name. To NewandBlue and husband from Pam, Pete, then also has their two adult children names on with their partners and kids names?

As it’s only Pam and Pete that are our neighbours I can’t see the point in putting all the families names on the card. Am I unreasonable?

OP posts:
deeahgwitch · 10/12/2025 15:17

Love it @KilkennyCats 😂

Edenmum2 · 10/12/2025 15:23

….and a happy new year 🙄

333FionaG · 10/12/2025 15:33

How pathetic, starting a thread about something so minor.

KilkennyCats · 10/12/2025 15:33

deeahgwitch · 10/12/2025 15:17

Love it @KilkennyCats 😂

Dia duit to you too Wink

SparkleSpriteDust · 10/12/2025 15:40

Entirely normal behaviour from the neighbours. Not so much from the OP.

Nevernonono · 10/12/2025 15:52

NewandBlue · 10/12/2025 07:02

No, not new to the street. There are a lot of neighbours and their children’s and partners names (and their little ones names) so quite long to write!

It seems a bit pointless to me, also I don’t know their family.

It seems pointless making this it, but there you go!

Nevernonono · 10/12/2025 15:53

Nevernonono · 10/12/2025 15:52

It seems pointless making this it, but there you go!

*making this post

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 10/12/2025 15:54

Honest to God I can’t believe someone is bothered enough to even start a thread on this.

abracadabra1980 · 10/12/2025 15:55

Think yourself lucky - on the odd ones I still send to people I don't see, they get my dogs names added on.

MySilentLions · 10/12/2025 15:58

MerryGuide · 10/12/2025 06:56

They'll be writing on autopilot, accept the nice gesture

I assumed that as well, just in the habit after writing a dozen cards.

A good way to know the names for sure if you’re ever saying hello in the street to the adult kids?

My friend moved to a new house and her new neighbours introduced themselves (she thought) as Paul and Chris, she assumed the Chris was short for Christine or something. It wasn’t until she got their Cmas card that year that she realised it was PaulA and Chris, and the Chris was the bloke!
she had to go apologise for calling them the wrong names for the last five months Grin

Friendlygingercat · 10/12/2025 16:01

Jf you are wondering what to put on the return card just put "Best wishes to all at no 43 from Peter, Katie and children"

Bemused89 · 10/12/2025 16:09

I mean there are weirder things... Like taking the time to write this post... This is one of those things that you go. Huh. You have time on your hands. And move on.

Nevernonono · 10/12/2025 16:13

Catpiece · 10/12/2025 12:59

I’d put it in the bin. Pointless random names

Full of festive cheer 🎄 🤶

Ho ho ho

Just why would you put it in the bin?

Boomer55 · 10/12/2025 16:18

Neighbours often send cards. No need for drama. 🤷‍♀️

Catpiece · 10/12/2025 16:21

Nevernonono · 10/12/2025 16:13

Full of festive cheer 🎄 🤶

Ho ho ho

Just why would you put it in the bin?

I am actually. I’d bin it because it’s crap from someone I don’t know with random names scrawled in it. Means eff all to me. HTH

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 10/12/2025 16:29

You'd bin it? No no no, surely the only right and proper thing is to set fire to it, gather up the ashes and post them through said neighbours letterbox. That'll teach them.

DottyLottieLou · 10/12/2025 17:45

It's not really worth posting this on mumsnet. Have you not got a friend you can bitch to instead.

LBFseBrom · 10/12/2025 18:01

What makes me laugh is people who write, 'Merry Christmas and a happy new year', in a card that already has that printed inside. They will literally repeat it either above or underneath where it's printed.

Just put your name, no family names if they've left home and even more so if you don't know them, the family can do their own cards or not. Resident pets are allowed, including the goldfish :-).

Nevernonono · 10/12/2025 18:32

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 10/12/2025 16:29

You'd bin it? No no no, surely the only right and proper thing is to set fire to it, gather up the ashes and post them through said neighbours letterbox. That'll teach them.

Oh rubbish!!

it should be put through still alight!!

Nevernonono · 10/12/2025 18:33

Catpiece · 10/12/2025 16:21

I am actually. I’d bin it because it’s crap from someone I don’t know with random names scrawled in it. Means eff all to me. HTH

Ho ho ho!

Good job you told me you were full
of Christmas cheer, because I never would’ve guessed!

You clearly play your cards close to your chest!

Mydadsbirthday · 10/12/2025 18:50

SparklyGlitterballs · 10/12/2025 07:04

I think it's a bit of a minefield once circumstances change. Me and my NDN both have young adult children, hers slightly older than mine. Every year we'd send each other a card with the four names on it. This year her son has moved out and got married. They're not white British heritage and I don't even know their surname, let alone the son's wife's name. Now it's time to send them a card and I'm not sure what to write. It feels weird somehow to leave the son off, as I've always included him, but at the same time it would be weird to write his name and not acknowledge the wife. Do I put all their names and then after the son put 'and wife'? That seems even more odd. They haven't sent me their card yet so I'm unsure what they'll write.

I agree though, odd for them to include the whole family and their children if they don't even live there. I think once the kids move out they should be responsible for their own cards and dropped from the NDN card.

In this circumstance I would just write to the neighbours and put "and family" so Bob, Sue and family
If you don't know the wife's name.

Mydadsbirthday · 10/12/2025 18:56

My neighbours are pretty much the only people I still write cards to and I like it seeing as hardly anyone sends cards now!
In recent years I have taken to getting DD to write them though 😂
I think it's a nice tradition. I wrote cards to all the houses in our cul de sac the year we moved in, with a note introducing ourselves and got one back from almost all the houses (about 20). It was a good way of saying hello. Our neighbours are lovely and we have had street parties etc in the past so have socialised a bit.

Theslummymummy · 10/12/2025 19:00

Wtf is this post

Jllllllll · 10/12/2025 19:42

What? Are you seriously posting to ask this? If you don’t like it throw it in the bin. Too much time on your hands

AmyDudley · 10/12/2025 19:53

My neighbour puts a variation or near variation of my name on my card every year. He knows my name, I've lived here 10 years, we speak frequently, he uses my correct name.
Come Christmas that all goes out the window and we get all sorts of madness. It's become a tradition for me 'what will Tomy call me this year'. I look forward to it hugely and would be very disappointed if he ever wrote my real name.

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