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Christmas card from neighbour..

231 replies

NewandBlue · 10/12/2025 06:55

Ive received a card from our neighbours two door down and it states all,the family’s name. To NewandBlue and husband from Pam, Pete, then also has their two adult children names on with their partners and kids names?

As it’s only Pam and Pete that are our neighbours I can’t see the point in putting all the families names on the card. Am I unreasonable?

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Burnnoticed · 10/12/2025 06:56

They did a nice thing. You are being ridiculous.

MerryGuide · 10/12/2025 06:56

They'll be writing on autopilot, accept the nice gesture

WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 10/12/2025 06:56

You’re being unreasonable and a bit miserable too.

youalright · 10/12/2025 06:58

Seriously I think the word you're looking for is thankyou

verycloakanddaggers · 10/12/2025 06:58

They sent a nice card and you're picking fault!

Loads of people put their kids' names on.

beasmithwentworth · 10/12/2025 06:58

Is this real?

MummytoE · 10/12/2025 06:58

Are you new to the street? Perhaps the children have grown up there and are known to the other neighbours and are still included on cards despite moving away.

tilypu · 10/12/2025 07:00

So cards should only be sent from people that live in the same house?

Is this some sly way of trying to extort more cards from people, so it looks like you have more friends? Or is this going to be the latest Hallmark campaign in order to increase sales?

Are you the CEO of card factory?

NoXmasPudding · 10/12/2025 07:00

Are you asking if you should put all their names on the return card? Or are you just criticising them?

Butterflywings84 · 10/12/2025 07:01

I would find that odd.

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NewandBlue · 10/12/2025 07:02

No, not new to the street. There are a lot of neighbours and their children’s and partners names (and their little ones names) so quite long to write!

It seems a bit pointless to me, also I don’t know their family.

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GoldenPineapple15 · 10/12/2025 07:02

My neighbours even put their little dog’s name on . It’s sweet .

AlwaysAFaithful · 10/12/2025 07:03

You write on yours “To Pam, Pete and family “.

maybe they write all the names because they are enjoying writing them - almost an act of gratitude.for the family they have

Original poster
NewandBlue · 10/12/2025 07:03

tilypu · 10/12/2025 07:00

So cards should only be sent from people that live in the same house?

Is this some sly way of trying to extort more cards from people, so it looks like you have more friends? Or is this going to be the latest Hallmark campaign in order to increase sales?

Are you the CEO of card factory?

Eh?

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PollyBell · 10/12/2025 07:03

But which bit is unreasonable or not? sure i think it is odd but not sure why there is an actual problem attached to it? Enough for it to be considered reasonable or not

SparklyGlitterballs · 10/12/2025 07:04

I think it's a bit of a minefield once circumstances change. Me and my NDN both have young adult children, hers slightly older than mine. Every year we'd send each other a card with the four names on it. This year her son has moved out and got married. They're not white British heritage and I don't even know their surname, let alone the son's wife's name. Now it's time to send them a card and I'm not sure what to write. It feels weird somehow to leave the son off, as I've always included him, but at the same time it would be weird to write his name and not acknowledge the wife. Do I put all their names and then after the son put 'and wife'? That seems even more odd. They haven't sent me their card yet so I'm unsure what they'll write.

I agree though, odd for them to include the whole family and their children if they don't even live there. I think once the kids move out they should be responsible for their own cards and dropped from the NDN card.

HollyChristmas · 10/12/2025 07:07

We've lived here over 10 years and received a Christmas card the first year addressed to our house number " To new neighbours at No. 6 from Steve & Amy No. 23 "
So popped one in their door to them , obviously from our name .
Since then we have received one every year . We've sent back but tbh , even if I passed them in the street , I wouldn't know it was them , we've never met them !
This year we are not going to respond by sending a card and hopefully they won't bother next year.

Raggededges · 10/12/2025 07:12

Yeah that is strange. I wonder if these people know they have wished you a merry Christmas 😂

ChaToilLeam · 10/12/2025 07:13

You're really overthinking this!

Cherrysoup · 10/12/2025 07:13

My neighbour used to send one ‘To all at number 20 from all at number 26’. After 20 odd years, I have no idea of their names.

Sending from adult children/grandchildren who don’t live in the same household is odd, imo. I’d send back to Pam and Pete only.

TangoWhiskeyAlphaTango123 · 10/12/2025 07:15

Some folk clearly have no worries in their lives. Lucky them.

Dfg15 · 10/12/2025 07:15

Just write to Pam, Pete and all the family

CypressGrove · 10/12/2025 07:16

I love how weird the world is. Imagine even giving a second thought to this, let alone posting about it!

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NewandBlue · 10/12/2025 07:16

Cherrysoup · 10/12/2025 07:13

My neighbour used to send one ‘To all at number 20 from all at number 26’. After 20 odd years, I have no idea of their names.

Sending from adult children/grandchildren who don’t live in the same household is odd, imo. I’d send back to Pam and Pete only.

Just seems a waste of ink for a family I don’t even know 😂
Ive just put to Pam, Pete and family, it will have to do as I’ve lots to write out.

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Daysgo · 10/12/2025 07:17

Paper never refuses ink