Arsey grandparents in the queue

[Hungryhippos123]

I am expecting to get my arse handed to me but anyway.
Went to Childs Christmas show- I work shifts so had to dash there after swapping with a colleague. There were a few people queuing (maybe 10?) and about 4 people ahead was a good friend of mine so I went and said hi. Later another friend arrived with her crying baby in a pram, it was raining for context. I said just jump in here and get inside as baby was cold.
some grandparents behind us starting going ‘Eugh another pusher in’ etc etc. I said sorry you go ahead then but everyone will get a seat easily and she’s got a small baby?
I think I’m just grumpy as I’ve dashed from work to watch my child. They’ve had their kids I know they want to see their grandkids but if it was me (and I know my parents would) I’d let the mums and dads sit closer so they can see. As it was they were front and centre anyway so don’t know why they were moaning.
for context the child’s parents had been the day before so they aren’t the main carers.

The baby was cold? Why?

Usually babies in prams are the most warm, snug people in a queue.

She was in a sling and crying, maybe she wasn’t cold but it was wet and horrible and I was trying to help get her inside.

I'm a grandparent and I find standing in the cold and rain a LOT harder, more tiring and more painful than I did in my child-rearing days.

Er, OP, I’m not saying anything about the situation because enough people have, and we all make mistakes when rushed, cold, overwhelmed, and it sounds like life is difficult for you right now.

But that said, this person is quoting directly from your OP:
I said sorry you go ahead then but everyone will get a seat easily and she’s got a small baby?

IF you indeed said that entire sentence and NOT just “you go ahead,” it does make you sound more rude. But like I said, we all have bad days. We all feel grumpy sometimes and make mistakes, or wish we’d dealt with something differently. I’m sure they’re not thinking about it anymore, and I think you should let it go, too.

Thank you. Yes I promise I’m not a nasty arrogant self obsessed person pushing in and not caring. And I was incredibly polite back to them

Are you for real?
You jump in the queue and then let someone else in
And the people behind you were arsey?

Yes I’ve acknowledged this and apologised and I let the people ahead of me. What else can I do. Find out who they were and go to their house? I feel like absolute shit.

Asshole move.

I’ve asked Mumsnet to delete this post but they have said no. Please I understand I shouldn’t have done it now, I wasn’t rude please don’t pile on any more. I’ve had a bad day I was being unreasonable

Sorry but agree you were rude going and joining a friend and then getting another person to jump the queue too. What you should have done is just waved at the friend ahead in the queue and if you wanted to chat with them then hoped they would have a seat free beside them or speak to them after.

I would also say that actually for some grandparents standing and waiting a long time is harder. I have seen parents ask staff to let their elderly parents in first because they are unable to stand for any length of time, and that has been accommodated.
It doesn't sound like mum was that worried about the baby and there could have been many reasons why they were crying. Also surely once the queue starts to move you all get in soon enough, but obviously the first row seats will have gone which is what you were clearly aiming for.

Forget it then. Hide the thread. Dont look again and move on. We all do wanky things sometimes.

Dont come back to this thread. It'll run for hours.

Your OP literally says a pram. But never mind. Best left now.

We've all had our moments of being a bit of a dick op. Don't stress, just hide the thread.

Tomorrow is a new day.

It would annoy me too if people pushed in. In fact they did just last week when I went to watch my DD. I stood for ages in the cold to get a good seat. Luckily I still did get a good seat but I could easily not have done and it’s not fair.

Just hide the thread OP. Tomorrow is a new day.

I hope you and the bairn enjoyed the show

Anyone jumping the queue is an utter dick.
If it's that important, take annual leave and get there early.
I can't stand this level of entitlement and I am also happy to challenge it.

So this thread didn't go your way, or as you'd hoped. Did you want us all to agree that pushing in, and encouraging others to do the same is good behaviour?

If you'd just made a straightforward AIBU, I'd be more likely to feel kindly towards your situation.

But you were so clear from the outset that grandparents should give way to parents, that they were "arsey" and you are quite sure that when you are a grandparent you'll give way to parents.

It sounds as though you have a deeper-seated resentment of older people in "your" space. You might want to to rethink that attitude.

Was the baby taken out of the pram and put in a sling?

You made a mistake OP. You’ve admitted that. Hide the thread now and forget it. No point reading more posters piling on.

You were being a nob OP, but I think we’ve all been guilty of that at some point. Seems that you’ve now realised that, so don’t beat yourself up about it. Tomorrow is a new day.

Well following your logic, there should be no first come best served queuing anywhere. We should all turn up when we feel like it and file in strictly in age order. After all, octogenarians will have seen and done loads of stuff already, so its only fair to let the 20 somethings have the first pick and the best view.

But they already were ahead until, you pushed in front. It's also not up to the people directly behind you to speak on behalf of everyone.

Like lots of other people.