about in laws constant burping?

[Pollisto]

They are staying and the burping is CONSTANT. From both of them. I'm not uptight and really don't mind the odd burp but this is just excessive and it's setting my teeth on edge.

They've always been like this but I think I've just got less and less tolerant to annoying noises the older I've got.

AIBU???

What does your DH say about it? Do they apologise/cover their mouth and acknowledge it or just blurt it out? I'd want to say something like 'Gosh Bob, don't you even say excuse me when you burp'. In reality- I'd likely say nothing. Do you have kids that could point out how rude it is?

MIL talks with her mouthful. I made the mistake of making sausage rolls one time and ended up covered in sprayed out bits of pastry. Utterly grim.

Have they got a medical reason for this, like H Pylori or something ?!

Another thought- are they on mounjaro? Apparently that can make you burp alot more than normal.

No mounjaro, no medical issues as far as I'm aware and even if there were surely they wouldn't affect both of them to the same degree.

DH just seems oblivious tbh. When they do it they just say ooh pardon me and laugh.

They do it when they haven't even been eating!!!

If they kept drawing notice to it by saying pardon or excuse me I would be unhappy!If they don't draw attention to it it is easier to cope with as that was others around the table completely ignore it.

It's the laughing after they do it as well

Even my 3 year old doesn't do that!

Are you the same OP with the farting in laws?! Same family different gas?

This was my MIL, medical issue, she couldn’t help it.

I don’t suppose they’re doing it deliberately. What exactly is it you want them to do?

I'm not. Thank god 🤣

What do you expect them to do? I’m sure they’re not doing it on purpose.

Maybe hold it in as most of the rest of us would do in company?

I have a friend who does this to an extreme degree, following bariatric surgery. Even though there’s a medical reason it’s still extremely off-putting. I no longer meet up with her for meals. She asked to stay here for a few days and I really don’t want to say yes.

Neither of them are ill.

How the hell do you hold in persistent burping? Don’t be daft.

I manage to hold in a burp if I need to.

Or, you know, I cover my mouth because I'm not gross?

You don’t know that. We don’t all “share” our private details.

Trust me, they do.

I sympathise, it’s gross. If you’re the sort of person who doesn’t mind it, I think it’s difficult to understand how horrible and intrusive it is for someone who does find it disgusting. My dad does it all the time - he does a really foul belch, then goes “Aaaaah” in satisfaction afterwards and it turns my stomach. He also spits constantly in public which I find embarrassing and revolting. He has Alzheimer’s and can’t help it, so I have to suck it up as it would be cruel to make him feel uncomfortable at this point, and he lives with me so there’s no escaping it. I would take a very, very dim view of someone who could help it just letting loose all the time with no consideration for others.

Culture? Some cultures a big burp after a meal shows the host the meal was good.

White British, so no.

Yes, this is exactly it!!

I couldn’t bear this, however unreasonably. My mum was very keen on table manners etc, perhaps sensitive herself, and I’ve grown up unable to tolerate noisy eating and burping. It not only puts me off eating and disgusts me, it actually makes me irrationally furious and knowing there are cultural or medical reasons doesn’t stop that. It stops me being unpleasant about it but it doesn’t stop my reaction.

You have my sympathy. It would make seek to avoid spending time with them and particularly sharing meals. Does DH spend much time with them alone? Could he pop round once a week or something?

Sadly they live about three hours away so when they come and stay it has to be for a few days.

It's attention seeking if they are finding it funny, have you asked them why they do it or if they've seen a doctor, it's not normal.does your dh support you in asking them to be a bit more discreet