When do I worry about pronoun reversal in a Toddler

[OneOliveKoala]

Hi everyone, I’d love some perspective on my daughter’s development. She’s 2 years and 9 months old. She speaks in full sentences, asks spontaneous “why” questions and answers /ask to all sort of questions with novel language (e.g., “Why are Mommy and Daddy Pig sitting at the table?” or “Why does Bunny like leaves? Etc She can use pronouns like I and my consistently whilst me and you inconsistently .. she does ask “ do you want or do you want to pick you up etc ? When she means herlsef but can ask “ can I have some milk ) . She has always done that No sensory issues of any sorts , no emotional dysregulation and can actually explain why she is sad , scared excited etc I know it can point to autism and GLP but there are literally no other concerns and can have a back and forth conversation with the correct pronouns . “

Sounds like a completely normal quirk of development.

She’s 2.

Not seen you round here for a while.

Pronoun reversal on its own does not point to anything, least of all Gestalt Language Processing.

That all sounds very normal, if anything that's actually quite advanced language for a 2-year-old. Don't worry about it

My eldest did that. She thought her name was “you” because I addressed her to her face and not in the third person. It was very cute, I thought, and sorted itself quickly. Thy are little language sponges. It didn’t happen with her siblings because there was less 1:1 attention l, suppose

Just keep repeating back the correct language use.

I agree, it's far more advanced than my eldest was!

Is this the poster who constantly asks for signs their perfectly normal toddler is autistic?

(Apologies to OP if I am wrong.)

Op pronoun reversal can indeed be a red flag. Have you run the MCHAT checklist on your dd as I would recommend this if not.

My ds pronoun reversed as a toddler and is now autistic. He is still and was then lovely, so please don’t worry unnecessarily but I would just keep an eye on development, as you are doing.

Well he’s not now autistic is he? He must have always had autism . I dont think you are helping the OP with this.

The style feels very similar. Long list of checklist items which are all fine, some tiny issue to ask about and then the worry about GLP which is what she always asks about.

All toddlers say “pick you up” when they want picking up

What an unpleasant response @Sidebeforeself. Disappointing.

Eh? I’m just saying a child doesn’t “become “ autistic

@Sidebeforeself there were so many things you could have said in response to me sharing about my ds. Correcting the way I put it wasn’t on. Not in the spirit

I work with 3 to 4 year olds in preschool and every year a handful of them do this. Perfectly normal. Asking why questions is really positive at this age, you'd be surprised how many children at 3 don't ask anything at all and just accept everything as is without thought.

Edited to add - your title - 'when do I worry..' implies you are determined to worry at some point or another. Honestly if this is the only worry then you are a very lucky parent.

okay. You can choose to be upset if you so wish . But I stand by my point

This sounds very normal - they are just copying what you say to them - "Should Mummy carry you?" "Mummy carry you!" (We had that for a while with DS)

She is two years old. Relax a little.

@Sidebeforeself i feel sorry for people you encounter in RL if you speak to them like that.

Now you are just being nasty.

Sounds like a smart child, and like my DD at that age, what's the problem? Mummy carry me, I can't I have a bag., I'll carry the bag for you, pause then now carry me. Bloody too smart child...

My LO did this at that age and younger, it was always ‘my’ instead of ‘I’, a couple of years on now and she’s rather advanced for her age in most areas. She stopped before 3.

That doesn’t mean she’s doesn’t have autism though, she’s actually very similar to me and I was diagnosed as a teenager. I was just good at masking and liked to learn.

If it helps you to feel better if your DC is talking the way you describe at that age, and happens to be autistic they’d probably fall into the “higher functioning” or lower support needs category. That comes with its own set of challenges but it isn’t something I’d change about myself, and would be something to embrace rather than fear.

I don’t think from what you’re saying I’d be worried yet, far from it actually.

She’s 2 years old.

Enjoy her for what she is and stop trying to find faults.