When do I worry about pronoun reversal in a Toddler

[OneOliveKoala]

Hi everyone, I’d love some perspective on my daughter’s development. She’s 2 years and 9 months old. She speaks in full sentences, asks spontaneous “why” questions and answers /ask to all sort of questions with novel language (e.g., “Why are Mommy and Daddy Pig sitting at the table?” or “Why does Bunny like leaves? Etc She can use pronouns like I and my consistently whilst me and you inconsistently .. she does ask “ do you want or do you want to pick you up etc ? When she means herlsef but can ask “ can I have some milk ) . She has always done that No sensory issues of any sorts , no emotional dysregulation and can actually explain why she is sad , scared excited etc I know it can point to autism and GLP but there are literally no other concerns and can have a back and forth conversation with the correct pronouns . “

It’s you again, isn’t it. <<sigh>>

Get help. Not for your DD, she’s fine, but for your DD’s sake.

Not in the spirit of what? This is AIBU in case you’re forgetting 😉

Why do people act like autism is a terrible thing, though? Talking about it and stressing about it won’t help anyone. Understanding your child is what will help, whatever their neurotype.

Just so you know, eloquent speech can be a feature of autism in some children and is for my dd who is now nearly 6 - she was diagnosed earlier this year. She uses words like ‘chronological’

As a toddler, I would always refer to myself as ‘she’ and would say ‘is she hungry?’ When I meant ‘I’m hungry’ and I’m autistic.

it can mean something or it can not. Emotional disregulation isn’t always a feature of autism, either. One of my other autistic kids is actually very laid back and chill.

My eldest was like that. She always referred to herself as “you” and me as “I”. So if she wanted a sweet she’d be like “you want it” to refer to herself.
I wasn’t worried, pretty sure she grew out of it by the time she started school. All 8s and 9s for GCSE’s, A’s for A-levels and a 2:1 degree. Doing absolutely grand.