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To think if you’re a slightly more mobile BB holder you should park in the further accessible bay?

192 replies

FlooredByKindness · 05/12/2025 16:44

My late mom had a Blue Badge as she used a walking stick so I do have experience of accessibility issues

Quite frequently I see people getting out of a car with a badge displayed and then heading easily into stores etc after parking in the closest bay.

if you have a reasonable levels of ability within the realms of BB wouldn’t it be more considerate to park in one of the furthest bb spaces in case the next bb holder who turns up is less able?

seems reasonable to me

OP posts:
Thisiswhathings · 05/12/2025 16:47

It would be unworkable, what if the next BB was more able and they parked in the spot you left for the less able.
It's a non starter.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 05/12/2025 16:48

I think that people should be more courteous in all walks of life

If I saw that someone needed the disabled bay more than me, I would definitely let them have it, as long as there was another suitable space available, as long as they weren't acting entitled or demanding

I also make sure that when parking on a street side for example, I leave enough room for others to park

But others dont do this, which silently irks me, so often its like 'what's the point'

People are very selfish and often other sen mums are like this

CareerConfusion16 · 05/12/2025 16:49

I think if you’re more mobile and able to park further away you shouldn’t necessarily have a BB

TheSmallAssassin · 05/12/2025 16:50

Ooh, another thread bashing disabled people, we haven't had many of those recently! 🙄

PandoraSocks · 05/12/2025 16:51

TheSmallAssassin · 05/12/2025 16:50

Ooh, another thread bashing disabled people, we haven't had many of those recently! 🙄

My thoughts exactly.

EveryKneeShallBow · 05/12/2025 16:51

I’ve had a blue badge for two months and actually only used it once or twice. I really hate busy, crowded places and I’m lucky to be able to shop/travel at less busy times, so I can usually park in a normal space fairly near the entrance anyway.

Beserkering · 05/12/2025 16:53

I’m not sure how a disabled person parking can assess where to park based on a comparison of their disability with the unknown disabilities of disabled people who are already parked (who they can’t see) and those of disabled people who might hypothetically park there after they themselves have parked.

Also how much of an advantage is it? All the spaces are usually together in one space next to the door.

TomatoSandwiches · 05/12/2025 16:53

How are they to know that anyone with higher needs is to turn up?

Stompythedinosaur · 05/12/2025 16:54

No, I think if you have a badge you can park in any bay.

I don't think someone with mobility issues should tie themselves up in knots about whether they are allowed to park in a specific bay in case someone else comes along who might need it more.

SerendipityJane · 05/12/2025 16:55

As a carer, I've sometimes dropped my charge off at the front of a store, and then parked in a normal bay, precisely because I can see the OPs point.

PandoraSocks · 05/12/2025 16:55

I predict the benefit bashers and Motability scheme bashers will be along very soon.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 05/12/2025 16:55

TheSmallAssassin · 05/12/2025 16:50

Ooh, another thread bashing disabled people, we haven't had many of those recently! 🙄

Yes, but this one is different - it's telling people who do have a blue badge that they should rank themselves against somebody who might decide to drive to the same location and might have a slightly different level of need on that particular occasion - and then the logic follows that if they can park further back, they clearly don't need the disabled parking space at all, really. And in any case, they've got a free Porsche off THE TAXPAYER so should be relegated to the back of the carpark with the craters in the concrete, insufficient lighting and the detritus around the recycling centre - and what's more, if they're driving and going shopping, they clearly aren't disabled at all, really, they just felt bored and asked the GP to give them a car to look pretty at Tesco's and on the driveway of their massive council mansion they get for 2p a week.

Egglio · 05/12/2025 16:55

BB parking space Top Trumps? Unworkable.

Hello39 · 05/12/2025 16:56

I don't know how you can tell how easy it is for them? Disabilities aren't necessarily visible

CandyCayne · 05/12/2025 16:56

No, it's unworkable.

Lets say there are 4 BB bays.

Each person who uses them has a walking stick but not a wheelchair.

The first 2 people use the marginally further away bays.

The next 2 are just going to park in the nearer ones because they're the only ones available 🤷‍♂️

Davros · 05/12/2025 16:56

DS is completely mobile , TOO mobile. But he has severe learning disability, no understanding of danger and can be across a car park in a flash. We use his BB in whichever space is available. I can usually herd him if I have to but it’s hard work, he’s bigger and stronger than me and I have to hope he’s feeling relaxed which he isn’t always

PandoraSocks · 05/12/2025 16:57

CandyCayne · 05/12/2025 16:56

No, it's unworkable.

Lets say there are 4 BB bays.

Each person who uses them has a walking stick but not a wheelchair.

The first 2 people use the marginally further away bays.

The next 2 are just going to park in the nearer ones because they're the only ones available 🤷‍♂️

Excellent point.

BobbyShaftoWentToSeeSilverBucklesOnHisKnee · 05/12/2025 16:58

Yes there should be a points system for sure.

A guard should be waiting at the accessible spaces, and you have to fill out a form and you get a spot appointed for you just so some of those pesky - dare I even say fake - disabled people won't get one singular thing in life made remotely easier for them.

It's only fair.

Hello39 · 05/12/2025 16:59

If you want something to really annoy you...
I go to a lunchtime exercise class. Up a flight of stairs and 45 minutes of movement.

Someone in the class always parks in the Disabled spots right at the front door. I assume it's not her BB. (And illegal to do that I know).

NorthFace47 · 05/12/2025 16:59

Attitudes like this are exactly why I hate using my blue badge. I have MS, you (usually) can’t tell from looking at me. But some days using the badge is the difference between me having the energy left to shower, make a meal etc that evening or not. But I bloody hate using it because I’m scared everyone is thinking exactly this.

CandyCayne · 05/12/2025 17:00

BobbyShaftoWentToSeeSilverBucklesOnHisKnee · 05/12/2025 16:58

Yes there should be a points system for sure.

A guard should be waiting at the accessible spaces, and you have to fill out a form and you get a spot appointed for you just so some of those pesky - dare I even say fake - disabled people won't get one singular thing in life made remotely easier for them.

It's only fair.

They should set up a consortium of healthcare experts and solicitors at the side of the car park.

FlooredByKindness · 05/12/2025 17:00

CandyCayne · 05/12/2025 16:56

No, it's unworkable.

Lets say there are 4 BB bays.

Each person who uses them has a walking stick but not a wheelchair.

The first 2 people use the marginally further away bays.

The next 2 are just going to park in the nearer ones because they're the only ones available 🤷‍♂️

Yes I think you’re right, I hadn’t thought it through thoroughly.

OP posts:
XenoBitch · 05/12/2025 17:00

No. If you have a BB then you can park in a BB space. There is no hierarchy of who can park the closest. I really hope you don't try and police this sort of stuff in real life.
There is already a lot of hatred towards disabled people right now without trying to turn them on each other.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 05/12/2025 17:01

Oh apologies all, I wasnt benefit bashing, just speaking about my own experience, definitely dont think anyone is more entitled to a blue badge than any one else xx

thebear1 · 05/12/2025 17:01

If an individual thinks they don't need a space as much as someone else then that's down to them, but it shouldn't be policed and people shouldn't be making judgements on other people's level of ability. We don't have any idea about anyone else's circumstances

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