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To think if you’re a slightly more mobile BB holder you should park in the further accessible bay?

192 replies

FlooredByKindness · 05/12/2025 16:44

My late mom had a Blue Badge as she used a walking stick so I do have experience of accessibility issues

Quite frequently I see people getting out of a car with a badge displayed and then heading easily into stores etc after parking in the closest bay.

if you have a reasonable levels of ability within the realms of BB wouldn’t it be more considerate to park in one of the furthest bb spaces in case the next bb holder who turns up is less able?

seems reasonable to me

OP posts:
CassandraWebb · 06/12/2025 10:58

PermanentlyExhuastedPigeon · 06/12/2025 10:35

Unless you want people to display their personal medical conditions on their blue badges for all to see I can't see how this would work.

I don't think op is talking about enforcing this?
It's more than we should all be mindful to not take more than we need.

If I am having a good day or to the converse am flaring so badly that DH is driving me and I am in my electric wheelchair (which is lightweight and lifts out of the boot) then I wouldn't use a blue badge space because I don't need it

That's just basic human decency

TigerRag · 06/12/2025 11:01

I'm one of those who have a BB who are slightly more mobile. But I've had days where I've come out of the shop or hospital and needed my parents arm / hand because I'm suddenly unable to see due to my severe photophobia or I've gone dizzy. But I have no way of knowing when that will happen. We park where we feel is best for us

Coffeeishot · 06/12/2025 11:05

CassandraWebb · 06/12/2025 10:58

I don't think op is talking about enforcing this?
It's more than we should all be mindful to not take more than we need.

If I am having a good day or to the converse am flaring so badly that DH is driving me and I am in my electric wheelchair (which is lightweight and lifts out of the boot) then I wouldn't use a blue badge space because I don't need it

That's just basic human decency

Why just Bb holders though do you not think Disabled people or carers have enough on their plate without having to be "mindful" of badge useage !

HeadNorth · 06/12/2025 12:02

Coffeeishot · 06/12/2025 11:05

Why just Bb holders though do you not think Disabled people or carers have enough on their plate without having to be "mindful" of badge useage !

As previous posters have said, this doesn’t just apply to BB holders. As an able bodied person without young children I tend to park further away, as it is easy for me to walk and extra steps are good for me. It also frees up spaces nearer the shop for those who might need them for any reason. We should all try to be mindful when we park.

Noseyoldcow · 06/12/2025 12:03

LadyKenya · 06/12/2025 10:29

Sigh. Some posters have already explained how it may sometimes appear as if a person may present as not necessarily having a need of a BB. But you are only seeing a fleeting glimpse, and should not be making judgement, on what you don't know. That person may have walked perfectly fine, but could struggle 5 minutes later. You don't know. If they have a BB that is all you need to know.

You have misunderstood me. I understand totally that some disabilities are not obvious, and providing they have a blue badge, I would never criticise those people for parking in disabled spaces. The men I saw bounding out of cars were either parked in parent and child spaces, with no child nor child seat to be seen, or parked in disabled spaces but did not have blue badges on display. The point I was trying to make was that people who don’t need those spaces should not be lazy selfish gits and park in them to the detriment of those who genuinely need them.

Coffeeishot · 06/12/2025 12:07

HeadNorth · 06/12/2025 12:02

As previous posters have said, this doesn’t just apply to BB holders. As an able bodied person without young children I tend to park further away, as it is easy for me to walk and extra steps are good for me. It also frees up spaces nearer the shop for those who might need them for any reason. We should all try to be mindful when we park.

This thread is about BB holders yes it is lovely to be mindful of others but this is aimed at disabled people/children and their carers expected to be extra mindful .

NeverDropYourMooncup · 06/12/2025 12:19

CassandraWebb · 06/12/2025 09:50

When I was fit and well I always parked at the far side of the car park. It's much better for us to walk as much as we can, and considerate to those who need closer spaces more

Same as stopping using parent and child spaces once mine weren't in car seats

It's interesting to me how people say that they park at the other side of the car park as an act of self sacrifice, altruism or self discipline.

When I did it, it was because there was more chance of a space and no twat parking within 10cm of our car doors or taking out the front wing because they didn't know how to look where they were going.

CassandraWebb · 06/12/2025 12:20

NeverDropYourMooncup · 06/12/2025 12:19

It's interesting to me how people say that they park at the other side of the car park as an act of self sacrifice, altruism or self discipline.

When I did it, it was because there was more chance of a space and no twat parking within 10cm of our car doors or taking out the front wing because they didn't know how to look where they were going.

Yes there's that benefit too!
But mainly I did it because it's better for our health to walk as much as possible

CassandraWebb · 06/12/2025 12:23

Coffeeishot · 06/12/2025 11:05

Why just Bb holders though do you not think Disabled people or carers have enough on their plate without having to be "mindful" of badge useage !

Fgs.
I just mean if we can then we should. Eg people like me with very fluctuating conditions. That applies in all areas of life.
I also only use the disabled loo when I need to, it I can just as easily use the non disabled facilities then I use those

If you don't have the ability/headspace then this doesn't apply. That's surely obvious

LadyKenya · 06/12/2025 12:28

Noseyoldcow · 06/12/2025 12:03

You have misunderstood me. I understand totally that some disabilities are not obvious, and providing they have a blue badge, I would never criticise those people for parking in disabled spaces. The men I saw bounding out of cars were either parked in parent and child spaces, with no child nor child seat to be seen, or parked in disabled spaces but did not have blue badges on display. The point I was trying to make was that people who don’t need those spaces should not be lazy selfish gits and park in them to the detriment of those who genuinely need them.

Oh I see, I thought you meant that they were using a BB space, with a BB on display.

Coffeeishot · 06/12/2025 12:29

CassandraWebb · 06/12/2025 12:23

Fgs.
I just mean if we can then we should. Eg people like me with very fluctuating conditions. That applies in all areas of life.
I also only use the disabled loo when I need to, it I can just as easily use the non disabled facilities then I use those

If you don't have the ability/headspace then this doesn't apply. That's surely obvious

I mean you can be annoyed with me as you like ! , you can choose what you do and of course it is individual but threads like these lump every one together and it has negative effect on the perception of disability and use of services,

CassandraWebb · 06/12/2025 12:34

Coffeeishot · 06/12/2025 12:29

I mean you can be annoyed with me as you like ! , you can choose what you do and of course it is individual but threads like these lump every one together and it has negative effect on the perception of disability and use of services,

I disagree, I think ops statement that she can see who needs a space more has been rightly called out and hopefully that's been educational for op and others.
But the principle of not taking more than we need is a good one to apply in all areas of life.

Ihad2Strokes · 06/12/2025 12:58

Noseyoldcow · 06/12/2025 09:52

Well, maybe some were. But not for the 2 able bodied 50 year old or so men I saw park and bound out of their cars.

Funny how you didn't mention that in your first post, just empty cars without car seats. Hmmm

HaloDolly · 06/12/2025 14:20

x2boys · 06/12/2025 08:16

And how would you police that?
BB spaces are limited enough anyway
Can we not just accept that if someone has been issued a blue badge it will be for a very good reaon.

I should have RTFT I agree. Where I’m coming from is the experience of helping my sister in and out of the car - we use a hoist to get her from passenger seat into the wheelchair and it needs a lot of room, and it takes time. It’s getting increasingly difficult to park. I’m not blaming anyone, I just think it would be good to have one or two spaces dedicated to people that need the extra room to manoeuvre.

NameChanger20252 · 06/12/2025 14:27

So unreasonable OP, shame on you. I look ‘able bodied’ as I have epilepsy and am
fine a lot of the time. However, after a seizure I can barely walk and shops have had to get a wheelchair for me before. Because of that risk, we will always park in the closest one as it suits my needs.

TheAutumnCrow · 06/12/2025 14:42

Wordsmithery · 06/12/2025 09:28

Disabled spaces are like gold dust, especially at our local hospital. The idea that you can pick and choose your space is ludicrous.

Oh god, don’t get me started on hospitals. Could the BB bays actually BE any further away from the main doors?

I’m about to suggest to OH that next time we have to go, he lets me out by the main doors with my own fold-down camping chair and goes and parks.

There’s nowhere to sit outside bar one small bench that always has people using it as it’s the taxi pick-up point.

There’s also nowhere to sit inside in the lobby. It’s very odd, as if they’ve done the design and impact assessments for wheelchair users and fully ambulatory people only.

Wordsmithery · 06/12/2025 14:54

TheAutumnCrow · 06/12/2025 14:42

Oh god, don’t get me started on hospitals. Could the BB bays actually BE any further away from the main doors?

I’m about to suggest to OH that next time we have to go, he lets me out by the main doors with my own fold-down camping chair and goes and parks.

There’s nowhere to sit outside bar one small bench that always has people using it as it’s the taxi pick-up point.

There’s also nowhere to sit inside in the lobby. It’s very odd, as if they’ve done the design and impact assessments for wheelchair users and fully ambulatory people only.

Our eye hospital doesn't even have a lobby at street level, just a lift. So I can't even drop my elderly, very poor-sighted mum off and park elsewhere. Goodness knows where she'd end up if she got into the lift without me 😭

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