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To dislike male cleaners in female public toilets?

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GarliceGran · 04/12/2025 12:46

I travel a lot with work, mostly via train. For some bizarre reason, a huge amount of train stations have male cleaners for the female toilets. Worse yet, these men are often doing non-urgent cleaning, such as washing mirrors etc.

This makes me very uncomfortable. If I’m not desperate, I’ll often just walk out.

AIBU?

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Helleofabore · 07/12/2025 12:26

Muffsies · 07/12/2025 11:39

I would question "often". But sure, I've had to spot-clean things in the loo from time to time. If I've been soaked (happens a lot as I cycle) I just stick myself under the dryer.

I have never seen a woman stripped-down in a public loo, I would say that would be extremely rare. If it did happen I'm sure a male cleaner would give her a moment - they are bound to get training on things like that.

I come across them often at pubs and restaurants. And I have had to do this myself, including mopping up a child’s vomit and leaking breastmilk.

I don’t want male people in the female toilet.

But I also agree that if it is clear that there is a male cleaner or maintenance person present, that female people can ask them to leave for a moment. However, I also fully understand that some women don’t even want male cleaners or maintenance there and if they want this, I will support their need not belittle them for that need.

Helleofabore · 07/12/2025 12:37

LVhandbagsatdawn · 07/12/2025 11:41

I'm another who would question "often"...

Depends where you spend a lot of time, doesn’t it?

bananastraightener · 07/12/2025 14:23

I'm yet again mystified by all these claims about intimate things people are supposedly doing at the sinks in toilets and in communal changing areas. I use public toilets almost daily and have never seen this. If I have to sort myself out, I do it in the cubicle and in the real world, nobody gives a shit who is cleaning the toilets, as long as they do their job and are professional.

It's very entertaining.

Helleofabore · 07/12/2025 15:38

bananastraightener · 07/12/2025 14:23

I'm yet again mystified by all these claims about intimate things people are supposedly doing at the sinks in toilets and in communal changing areas. I use public toilets almost daily and have never seen this. If I have to sort myself out, I do it in the cubicle and in the real world, nobody gives a shit who is cleaning the toilets, as long as they do their job and are professional.

It's very entertaining.

What an uncomplicated life you lead. Good for you.

GarliceGran · 07/12/2025 19:59

FairCat · 07/12/2025 00:33

Excellent, another thread linked on X to convince people that Mumsnet is a refuge for batshit crazies.
They're TOILETS, not sacred shrines to womanhood. Like most people, I know a lot of women and not one of them cares to waste their life stressing over the gender of toilet cleaners.

Can you link to the Twitter thread?

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