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To think it’s weird millions of people eat the same dishes on one day of the year?

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HelloCharming · 04/12/2025 07:30

I have Russian friends who visited one Christmas (when it was still easy for Russians to visit). When we asked them what they ate for Christmas they looked confused and said, we cook something we really like, usually a bit more expensive or luxurious than usual. They thought it was hilarious that practically a whole country cooked essentially the same dinner on one day of the year.

bit of a lightbulb moment for me. We are having beef this year, and will be having lamb the first year we aren’t hosting lamb dislikes (the rest of the family).

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ComtesseDeSpair · 04/12/2025 11:30

HelloCharming · 04/12/2025 09:04

It is a bit weird though - especially when a lot of people don't like turkey but still seem to have it.

Some things are best kept for Christmas though - if mince pies were readily available all year round I'd be the size of a house.

One of our best Christmases, when we had a sudden influx of unexpected guests, was a BBQ. Went down very well - luckily nice enough weather for the cooking outside. No turkey.

Many people have turkey because they’re large birds, they host family and it’s usually a more affordable meat for feeding a dozen people Christmas lunch and cold cuts for the next couple of days than the same quantity of other meats, but you can have what you want. Loads of people have beef or lamb or something else instead.

Pretty much every country has “the” traditional dishes or meals for major holidays, albeit with different regional variations or accounting for preferences, Russians included, so I’m surprised your friends found it hilarious.

PuppiesProzacProsecco · 04/12/2025 11:34

I mean, it's not as weird as putting a fake plastic tree in your lounge or half the other strange things we do at this time of year.

Missey85 · 04/12/2025 11:39

I've never had turkey for Christmas I hate it! I cook what I like 😊 last year I had roast pork ❤️ it's also summer here in Australia so I eat a lot of cold food last thing I want is to boil to death with the oven on all day! 😕

DialSquare · 04/12/2025 11:44

Another one that never has turkey. We usually have beef and cockerel with all the trimmings. House still smells like Christmas but the food is much more appealing.

Millytante · 04/12/2025 11:53

HelloCharming · 04/12/2025 09:04

It is a bit weird though - especially when a lot of people don't like turkey but still seem to have it.

Some things are best kept for Christmas though - if mince pies were readily available all year round I'd be the size of a house.

One of our best Christmases, when we had a sudden influx of unexpected guests, was a BBQ. Went down very well - luckily nice enough weather for the cooking outside. No turkey.

It’s no more weird than a majority of us preferring a Christmas tree like this 🎄rather than 🌵
We’re a social, tribal species, so a shared, time-honoured experience of major festivals (even though nowadays we are in discrete family groups) is pretty much hardwired.

This festival, above all of them on these islands, has been among us too long not to have imprinted significant attachment to it in most people.
If Christmas is anything, it’s a traditional festive time, whether Christian (religious and/or cultural) or a pagan-adjacent Yuletide/Mid-Winter solstice observation.
Many have a blended kind of feeling in their bones about it all: culturally Christian with an old pagan mid-Winter appreciation alongside.
The trappings are similar, and the old-style roast beef was only replaced by birds owing to £sd.

Growing up in an Irish family, we always had a goose, maybe a capon (though the latter is probably as lorst and gorn as the pteradactyl these days).
Though I live alone now, I still find it extremely difficult not to cook myself some version of the traditional fare.
(I did try lamb once and maybe it was some odd coincidence on the day, but Christ it was miserable! I’m a good cook, but it just felt wrong)

I love and cherish the connection I feel with everyone out there enjoying a similar feast, and I know the days of this common approach to the great meal must be numbered, and all traditional menus will fade away.

I must sound like Little Miss Tragic, 1934. 🤣

That isn't to say anything is prescribed or in any other way an obligation, but it’s certainly not an apt description of the usual goings-on to refer to them as “weird’!

Sartre · 04/12/2025 11:55

I mean, nothing is by force and I don’t think anywhere near every single family eats the classic Christmas dinner. We’ve never had turkey, we have a veggie alternative. My mum and her partner have had curry for the past few years, MIL does the same.

Millytante · 04/12/2025 12:29

Millytante · 04/12/2025 11:53

It’s no more weird than a majority of us preferring a Christmas tree like this 🎄rather than 🌵
We’re a social, tribal species, so a shared, time-honoured experience of major festivals (even though nowadays we are in discrete family groups) is pretty much hardwired.

This festival, above all of them on these islands, has been among us too long not to have imprinted significant attachment to it in most people.
If Christmas is anything, it’s a traditional festive time, whether Christian (religious and/or cultural) or a pagan-adjacent Yuletide/Mid-Winter solstice observation.
Many have a blended kind of feeling in their bones about it all: culturally Christian with an old pagan mid-Winter appreciation alongside.
The trappings are similar, and the old-style roast beef was only replaced by birds owing to £sd.

Growing up in an Irish family, we always had a goose, maybe a capon (though the latter is probably as lorst and gorn as the pteradactyl these days).
Though I live alone now, I still find it extremely difficult not to cook myself some version of the traditional fare.
(I did try lamb once and maybe it was some odd coincidence on the day, but Christ it was miserable! I’m a good cook, but it just felt wrong)

I love and cherish the connection I feel with everyone out there enjoying a similar feast, and I know the days of this common approach to the great meal must be numbered, and all traditional menus will fade away.

I must sound like Little Miss Tragic, 1934. 🤣

That isn't to say anything is prescribed or in any other way an obligation, but it’s certainly not an apt description of the usual goings-on to refer to them as “weird’!

Oops….I thought had erased that final, short paragraph. Rather hectoring in tone (and not for the first time)
Apologies

Millytante · 04/12/2025 12:30

Myoldbear · 04/12/2025 11:28

I think it's about relationship.

As we sit down to a meal knowing so many other households are eating the same thing, and have done on that particular day for years, can give a deep feeling of community across time and space.

Exactamente. You've put it neatly and completely. 🎄

Maybeishouldcrochet · 04/12/2025 12:42

We don't have turkey but choose two meats instead
Last year pork and lamb
And then lots of side dishes- again everyone chooses a favourite....
And then have a buffet of puddings everyone chooses a favourite
Yule brownie log
Banoffee cheesecake
Mince pies
Frangipane tart
And three or four traybakes like millionaires shortbread, rocky road, biscoff blondies and ice cream and sauces on offer

OtherS · 04/12/2025 12:46

SugarPlumpFairyCakes · 04/12/2025 08:20

Bellinis?

That's a cultural tradition I could get behind! 😁

We have chicken now, but that's because our family is small now. It's sad, even though I'm not much of a fan of turkey.

But what I find weirder than eating something I don't massively enjoy for Christmas lunch is not eating stuff I do massively enjoy all year round - why do I only eat pigs in blankets at Christmas? Or potted stilton, Christmas pudding with sherry sauce, yule logs?!

And the whole country eating the same thing one day a year is completely normal, most people have this. What's more interesting is everyone having the same thing one day a week; I'm not sure anyone else has a Sunday roast equivalent?

BauhausOfEliott · 04/12/2025 13:49

I don't think it's weird - most nations/religions/cultures have foods that they traditionally eat on certain days or for certain celebrations. Not necessarily Christmas, but certainly for other festivals or special days.

It's not just food, either, is it? There are lots of traditional celebratory things that millions of people all do on the same day in certain cultures because it gives them a feeling of connection and comfort in relation to their heritage or nationality. People like traditions because they're reassuring to us.

NameChanger20252 · 04/12/2025 14:25

I don’t think it’s weird but we’re having steak and chips this year 😋 Not because we don’t love a Christmas dinner, it’s just that we’re going out for two dinners with friends and family prior to the day and it’s just us on Christmas Day so we thought we’d have that 🤷‍♀️ We’ve had pizza before when it’s just been the two of us…why not?!!

BertieBotts · 04/12/2025 14:37

I taught English in Germany and made this discovery as well - I had the assumption that "Christmas dinner" would be a universal thing even if the actual dishes were different, but apparently not! They do tend to have a special meal, but no specific popular dish. Although they often have raclette for New Years' Eve.

BertieBotts · 04/12/2025 14:37

I like the traditional English Christmas dinner anyway :D

Ouchthatcutdeep · 04/12/2025 14:41

The Japanese custom of having a KFC will blow their mind then!

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eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 04/12/2025 15:06

We will have beef shins, red wine sauce, Yorkshire puds and red cabbage.

No turkey, no stuffing, no gravy...

Papyrophile · 04/12/2025 15:26

In NYC, many Jewish people eat Chinese on Christmas Day!

This year, I hope to buy two guinea fowl (note to self to see butcher tomorrow). I've ordered a ham for Christmas Eve, and may look for a few oysters in a nod to my French ancestors, then we'll eat rib of beef on Christmas Day. On Boxing Day, we'll take a leftovers smorgasbord to friends.

Boutonnière · 04/12/2025 15:26

Millytante · 04/12/2025 11:53

It’s no more weird than a majority of us preferring a Christmas tree like this 🎄rather than 🌵
We’re a social, tribal species, so a shared, time-honoured experience of major festivals (even though nowadays we are in discrete family groups) is pretty much hardwired.

This festival, above all of them on these islands, has been among us too long not to have imprinted significant attachment to it in most people.
If Christmas is anything, it’s a traditional festive time, whether Christian (religious and/or cultural) or a pagan-adjacent Yuletide/Mid-Winter solstice observation.
Many have a blended kind of feeling in their bones about it all: culturally Christian with an old pagan mid-Winter appreciation alongside.
The trappings are similar, and the old-style roast beef was only replaced by birds owing to £sd.

Growing up in an Irish family, we always had a goose, maybe a capon (though the latter is probably as lorst and gorn as the pteradactyl these days).
Though I live alone now, I still find it extremely difficult not to cook myself some version of the traditional fare.
(I did try lamb once and maybe it was some odd coincidence on the day, but Christ it was miserable! I’m a good cook, but it just felt wrong)

I love and cherish the connection I feel with everyone out there enjoying a similar feast, and I know the days of this common approach to the great meal must be numbered, and all traditional menus will fade away.

I must sound like Little Miss Tragic, 1934. 🤣

That isn't to say anything is prescribed or in any other way an obligation, but it’s certainly not an apt description of the usual goings-on to refer to them as “weird’!

Beautifully said 👏

TheIceBear · 04/12/2025 17:34

I kind of agree with you in a way. Like I never eat turkey apart from Xmas . In fact I think I prefer chicken. If turkey was that great I’d be eating it more often.

sprigatito · 04/12/2025 17:58

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 04/12/2025 15:06

We will have beef shins, red wine sauce, Yorkshire puds and red cabbage.

No turkey, no stuffing, no gravy...

No roasties?

CoffeeCantata · 04/12/2025 20:05

It’s not weird. Human cultures the world over have their special foods with ritual and historical significance.

Eating turkey and plum pudding is not compulsory and many people vary the meal in all kinds of ways, but personally I like the idea that so many people are eating/doing the same things on the same day.

God knows - there’s little enough to bring us all together these days!

Ladyingreen999 · 04/12/2025 20:31

I think it's similar to other parts of EE, so they have traditional Christmas Eve food (although there is more variety and region specific dishes), and on Christmas Day it can be anything really like you said.

Spacemoon · 04/12/2025 20:37

I personally love the tradition of having the same meal every Christmas. I also love turkey and I swear blind 90% of people who say they dislike it simply can't cook 🤣! For me, Christmas IS tradition, that's the whole point. I'm an atheist, so to me Christmas holds zero religious meaning. Instead it is all about family, food, togetherness and traditions. I also absolutely love cooking and look forward to cooking my turkey and all the trimmings!

To each their own, but I really do think it's a shame so many Brits are losing their connection to our long standing traditions.

38thparallel · 04/12/2025 20:40

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · Today 07:35

I think it’s weird they were seemingly unaware of the concept of particular foods being traditional on certain days, it’s hardly unique to the UK and Christmas

This. Also I think it’s rude and patronising of the Russian guests to describe a tradition of their hosts’s country as ‘hilarious’.