To ask whether to change my surname after divorce

[hayleyhales]

Currently in the process of divorcing STBXH after discovering he cheated on me throughout my maternity leave. Now I am out, I have realised he has been controlling for quite some time, and it’s very much for the best that this has happened now and while DC is so young

Toying with the idea of changing my surname back. We were only married a few years but I want the same surname as DC, though I can’t tell you why that is. I really can’t decide what to do and it makes titles awkward, I don’t like the idea of Ms. I don’t think of him when I think of the surname but equally want to be able to move forward with my life and identity separately to him. Any thoughts?

YABU - change back to maiden name 100%
YANBU - keep married name

I went back to my maiden name, but we didn't have DC. I did go back to using Miss as my title, though. I'm not a fan of Ms.

I never bothered changing my surname when I got married so I’ve a different surname to my husband and we gave the kids his name. Why does it matter if you have a different name ? It has never really affected me