Scared about my involvement….

[Nocluegardener]

So this is a random one, I have been chatting to a man online for a while now we get on great. Then out of the blue I got a message from another woman saying she was also talking to him. I didn’t really think a lot of it but I did ask him about it, he then admitted he knew her and yes they had been talking.

We werent serious so we kept on talking. Then I started getting weird number calls on my phone (withheld numbers) and then one day it was her number that called me (he saw it on my phone)

shes adamant she hasn’t done it at all to the point she’s now reported it on action fraud to the police and apparently there’s no transactions of this on her phone record. She’s reported it for spoofing and her Facebook being hacked.

I’m genuinely very confused but also scared as I don’t want the police turning up or calling about this I just want to forget it’s ever happened.

Sounds like triangulation, be very wary of him

www.verywellmind.com/what-is-triangulation-in-psychology-5120617

The only thing that struck me how old are ? My own teens know that chatting to someone online and getting on great is superficial. You need to meet them and actually resonate on a face to face level, it’s this dangeous naivety of making out you get on great with people online that can become problematic Come on anyone can say stuff online, and make out they are on your level. There is much more to this than just some random lady.

Too many complications, best to move on from this one.

Just...walk...away.
It is worrying that you are devoting this much head space to a guy you've been chatting to online and some random woman he knows.
They'll be asking you to transfer money soon to 'help them pay to access phone records ' etc.
Are you vulnerable in some way @Nocluegardener ? Just get rid of them both.

Block them both and move on. He'll be loving the attention and the thought of being fought over.

I can almost guarantee he used her phone to do it and he is playing you off against one another for some weird thrill. Block him and leave him and his drama to himself and forget all about him.

This is so easy to solve. Block them both and get on with your life.

Do people still get itemized phone bills?

Do people still have landlines?!

Are u even sure this woman exists ? I think the boyfriend is behind it to make u think u have competition. I’d walk (run) and block him and (her)

This is the wisdom you seek!

Block them both.

I agree..... you sound naive and vulnerable.

You're worried about the police and/or Action Fraud getting in touch with you about something that she's clearly lying about. Yet haven't once mentioned what your relationship is with this man (and I use that term loosely) or if you're going to stop seeing him.

I hope you've read the link that a pp posted about triangulation, at the very least this is red flag territory and you need to just cut contact. And block them both!

has this been edited or something? I don’t understand it. Why would the police action fraud or anyone else be interested in someone making (unanswered?) phone calls?!?

I have a landline but can't remember the last time I saw an itemized phone bill

I can't see that the OP has mentioned a landline though

Action Fraud and the Police won't give two hoots. A person called your phone, she said she didn't, yet your call log says she did. That's essentially the issue. No one has committed fraud and no one has committed a crime. I doubt very much this woman has reported anything to the police. She may have reported it to Action Fraud, but they're not going to be interested. The common interest in this whole saga isn't you, but this man! You stated that he saw this woman's number come up on your phone. Have you met in person? It's just the impression I had was that this was an online friendship only? Are you in a relationship, as in a physical one? I don't believe for one moment that this woman's phone number happened to be spoofed and you were randomly called - it would be one huge coincidence wouldn't it????!! Too much of one! As you're a dog walker, and your details are available online, then it seems plausible that's how she got hold of your number. The rest is all her. She called you, there's absolutely no doubt on that. Call logs can be deleted. An itemised bill will only show a number if the call was answered. This woman can deny all she likes, but it's obvious who call you..she did!! Take absolutely no notice of her at all. You haven't done anything wrong. The police won't be knocking on your door and neither will Action Fraud. I would however, question how truthful this man is being. The woman only contacted you to tell you she is also talking with this man, because she hoped you'd be angry and stop. When that didn't work, she decided to find out your contact details and call you. That's also backfired on her, so she's trying to worm her way out of the situation. I suspect there's much more to her relationship with this man, as far as she's concerned, than he's telling you. I'd be getting rid of him, he's not worth all the hassle.

She's lying. Action Fraud would not even ask for this information.

Stop worrying.

Block her.