To ask if a 47 year old woman is seen as very different frI’m a 37 year old woman in dating terms?

[SaintlyLady]

Its based on my own life situation but - is a 37 year old woman considered a ‘better’ dating prospect than a 47 year old?

I'd imagine that if a man's primary aim was to start a family, and he was in the fortunate position to be picky, neither would be ideal age wise. I'd imagine he'd go younger than both. However if children weren't a big deal, it would depend on other factors. An attractive, solvent, 47 year old with no responsibilities will have a bigger dating pool than a conventionally unattractive 37 year old with lots of personal issues/commitments.

i met and married a man who lied about his age (yes should've run the other way) on a dating site, said he was 45 when really he was 50 and there was a 10 year gap between us. He sold it to me as he has nothing in common with women of his age (yes again I should've ran the other way)

but this is a good thing for 47 year old women as the rubbish takes itself out. If a 50 year old man is not interested in a 47 year old woman then that woman wouldn’t want a man like him anyway.

Most middle aged men would choose the 37 over the 47 year old simply because, younger, perkier tits, more of a goer, more of an ego boost for them

My exH is now 50 and his GF is 38. She doesn't even want kids but his moronic brother said (apparently) when they got together five years ago "Oh I want a 33 year old". This was in front of his 50 year old wife and teenage kids.

They never change unfortunately.

'47 is beyond what most people think of as childbearing age'.

No op it IS beyond childbearing age. What are you talking about?

Speaking only for myself, at 37 I could have passed for late 20's, was fit and healthy, could fall pregnant and have kids, was pretty much in a good mood all the time. At 47 I was looking every single day of 47, infertile, fat and furious.
Absolutely worlds apart as far as I'm concerned.

I met H early 30s we are the same age.
We got cracking with having kids because “he didn’t want to be an old dad” aligned with my values.

I am suspicious of older males now “ready to settle down” - old sperm - and likely to be at or looking at 60 before primary school finishes. No thank you. This is just data not including the assumed entitlement that there would be a queue of women waiting for their faulty seed. Just no.

Date people as individuals not data. And always always always have a get out of jail card.

The reality is some people have had their own biological children at this age and beyond - my grandmother for one

This is me completely

Brutal years 😉

No man, who wants children, is going to take that chance with a 47 year old woman though.

no - understandable

Considered by whom?

If you're asking this for personal reasons OP, I'd strongly advise that you turn it on its head and stop worrying if you're going to be acceptable to men, and start thinking about what type of man would be acceptable to you.
You are the buyer not just the seller in this market to put it bluntly.
You will have much to offer to a man who is right for you, I'm sure. So focus on what you want. If DC are not on the cards, then you filter out men who want them. The ones who want to try for a much younger partner can also be ignored (they are often quite deluded about themselves so you will miss nothing!)
There will be men who want precisely what you have to offer. The real challenge will be finding one acceptable to you. So do beware of writing yourself off as 'too old', as this puts you in danger of believing you have to accept whatever scraps come your way.
Lots of women past their 40s are very desirable to men and attract suitable partners.

Absolutely!! Please take me back to my 37th birthday so I can start there !

Presumably, a man who wants children, isn't who you're looking for at this stage in your life though?

There are plenty of child free men around, who could be a perfect match.

What are you looking for, OP? That's the point.
I'm 47, looking ok, teenage DC. I'm the perfect woman for some men, because I'm not having more kids, mine are reasonably independent, I'm not in a rush to get married (if ever), I don't play games. I'm not right for men who want kids, or want a stepmother for his DC, or want someone to merge lives quickly. So, I'm more desirable than a 37 year old woman in some cases, not others.

As already detailed above, there are lots of differences between the two ages.

Someone also quite possibly won’t be attracted to a woman going or about to go through the menopause.

This.

I think that’s absolutely true. I know a friend of mine who’d had one child young and didn’t want more, was being annoyed by men asking her on first dates if she was potentially open to more while she was still perceived to be in the age range capable of conceiving. She said it was a big relief once that stage was past, and in fact she’s now with someone fabulous.

I think it totally depends on what all parties are looking for

Yes. It depends on the person seeking of course but 37 is at the top end of ‘young’ whereas 47 is middle aged.

Interesting - and j totally agree with your definitions!

37 isn’t middle aged but it’s not young young iyswim but it’s sort of still young

"better" is the wrong word.

"different" is more appropriate.

Just for the benefit of this discussion, thought I would add my experience.

I am/was an attractive 55 year old in good shape, and I’m happy to confirm that I got/get a lot of attention from men - both younger and older. I only went a year older when I was looking btw, but went up to 20 years younger.

I had a brilliant time dating younger men, am now happily settled down with a man my own age.

I went on dating apps at 46 and met my now DH who was 51. I actually wasnt interested much in men around 45/46 and was looking at fifties, as men my age werent that mature (beleive it or not). My DH was specifically looking for women who;

• didnt have children or who had older children
• owned own home
• was financially secure
• wanted to enjoy life in the same way as him (ie travel)

not because he was a man child who needed looking after but because he was financially secure and didnt want to look after anyone else in that way. some of his experiences of OLD were women with young children who wanted a instant step dad