To ask if a 47 year old woman is seen as very different frI’m a 37 year old woman in dating terms?

[SaintlyLady]

Its based on my own life situation but - is a 37 year old woman considered a ‘better’ dating prospect than a 47 year old?

Sorry for typos in title - it should spell ‘from’

I think it depends if the other person wants children then yes 37 there is a possibility of this 47 there isn't really.

I wouldn’t have thought definitely so. It will depend entirely on what the man is looking for, mostly around children. If he wants children, the 37 is desirable if she also does, if he doesn’t, the 47 is more desirable if she also doesn’t.

lots of men are very interested in older women simply BECAUSE they don’t want children.

Obviously.

A 37yr old may still be able to have children. A 47yr old won't.

A 37yr old is possibly on their first go around settling down and forming a family. A 47yr old is usually on their second go around with more 'baggage' (past marriage/children)

It depends on what the individual wants but there's a much bigger gap between 37 and 47 than there is 27 and 37.

Definitely seen as different. A guy going on a first date with a 37 year old knows that she isnt there it piss about, wants to get ball rolling on kids etc.

Whereas a 47 year old, he will view her as beyond all that.

And the 47 again is more desirable, going by average ages, if she already has children, as hers are likely to be older and not need childcare. There isn’t very many people - man or woman - who would actively seek to date someone who has young children already.

If you’re dating men all the evidence seems to suggest younger is better as far as they are concerned. There will be outliers, but it’s generally true. Though I think other factors will play a bigger part for casual dating: general looks, physical fitness, wealth and caring responsibilities. An attractive 47 year old in good shape will still be desirable to a lot of people. I say this as a 47 year old who doesn’t have any of those things going for me!

Depends on if they want children or not.

It also depends on the age and maturity of the bloke. I'd date a 47 year old as a 51, but not a 37 year old

Really there's too many variables.

What's going on, why are you asking?

Thank you yes - I agree - while children at or after 47 is hugely unusual but by no means UNKNOWN and I’ve known of an instance where a 51 had a child naturally but unexpectedly and all worked out very well - 47 is beyond what most people think of as childbearing age

Good point

Ah you make an interesting point about the gaps

Yes, frankly. Men who want children won't be looking at a woman in her 40s and even men who don't want children tend to believe they have the right to younger and more attractive partners. You'll be looking at men in their 50s and older on the dating sites. There will be a few men your age who would be interested but not the majority.

Just for the benefit of this discussion, I guess I am/was the attractive 47 year old in good shape, and I’m happy to confirm that I got/get a lot of attention from men - both younger and older. I have no desire for kids, my kids need no attention, I’m solvent, independent…we, all of us, can be very appealing.

To be fair, a man wanting children will likely be looking for a partner younger than 37 too.

I would assume so.

This is the problem with dating apps and picking dates based on data

If a 47 year old is more financially secure, own house, no dependents, decent salary - there will be useless men waiting to move in and be taken care of

Then again the 47 year old might have a difficult ex, teenagers in the house, ex in-laws drama. Parents to start caring for.

A 37 year old might be up for children, younger body, less baggage, not quite as settled so open to moving, travelling

Or the 37 year old might have young children already, be absolutely skint, have to drop everything including dates at short notice

And flip it around, males, a 37 year old might still be wanting to be the eternal bachelor and a 47 year old thinks is old sperm is ready to father children (so they are very much still in school as he enters his 60s fuck that)

Interesting points here - your first paragraph on 37 year olds was definitely me at 37

Wanting or not wanting children aside most men on dating site IME want a younger woman. Not sure where the entitlement of that has come from but it seems common. If you are a 47 year old woman you are looking at a man well into his 50s as ones in their 40s will want a woman in her 30s.

I met and married a man who lied about his age (yes should've run the other way) on a dating site, said he was 45 when really he was 50 and there was a 10 year gap between us. He sold it to me as he has nothing in common with women of his age (yes again I should've ran the other way). The one good thing about this though was his DC were all adults and so no step parenting, whilst mine were teens.

I'm quite confused by the question - of course they're seen differently? That doesn't mean every man would want the younger woman, or that no other personal characteristics would come into play, but a decade is a big gap! If I were on dating sites I would very much see a 47 year old man and a 37 year old man as different prospects, which isn't to say I would instantly rule either in or out.

I think lots of men are conditioned by social media to look for youth and will date younger if they realistically can as this is seen as a win for them.

Just not my experience at all as a mid 40s woman, I haven’t had to go older at all.

It totally is. If a man wants to start a family at some point, a 47 year old is non-starter.

To be fair, as a PP said, 😊 at 47 I would NOT bother with "dating" a man anymore. Speaking for myself, obviously.

I would have thought so, on the dating scene I can imagine a woman in her thirties is seen as miles different to a woman who is almost 50? However maybe seen as an advantage to a man who definitely doesn’t want children and likes a perceived more mature woman?