Neighbours have decided that myself and NDN park some of our cars in another street to make it fairer for everyone. AIBU to ignore the request?

[SumoFarah]

I live on a street with unrestricted parking and few driveways. I know it might sound excessive but my family and NDN family have 7 cars between us. I can’t get a drive out in as the street is really narrow so I would need the space opposite to be empty in order to exit.

A neighbour on the street knocked on my and NDN to explain that our six cars take up too much space and means that:

1. neighbours who finish work late can never get a space so have to park on another street and walk
2. their weekend visitors can never get a space
3. on weekends they sometimes have to park in the middle of the road to unload their shopping and then go and find somewhere else to park

We we’re told that ‘they all’ think everyone should agree to use a maximum of 2 spaces to use as they wish and any further space needed should be used in the free car park about 1/2 mile away.

Also that the two teenagers (one mine, one NDN) don’t need cars as they are still in school so should have no need for cars anyway.

I get that parking spaces are at a premium, and can be frustrating when all the spaces are taken, but I don’t want myself or my dc to walk 1/2 mile in the dark (or the light, for that matter) just to placate the neighbours when there’s a space available. All our cars are pretty much used on a daily basis.

NDN told the messenger neighbour that it’s first-come-first-served. I do understand the annoyance but don’t agree with the suggestion because some houses only have one car and some houses don’t have a car, so should balance out in theory, but obviously doesn’t in practice.

Would I be unreasonable to ignore the ‘request’?

Suggestions welcomed.

Your neighbours are telling you in a really polite, cooperative way with a compromising and friendly suggestion that they are upset with your selfishness. Currently, in order for your two households to park 7 cars and not walk for a few minutes, every other neighbour struggles to park and has no choice. The number of cars you have isn’t an issue if you have a private driveway, but you don’t. What they are suggesting is completely reasonable. It’s really not a good idea to annoy an entire street of neighbours. It’s hard to believe that your initial post shows that you think you don’t need to cooperate here.

Why is every other neighbour struggling but OP's household isn't? They have three adults with three cars that are used daily, so any of them is just as likely to find nowhere available to park when they get back and have to park a distance away from their home - just like anybody.

It's not like they're running a business and/or are car enthusiasts who leave a raft of barely-used vehicles permanently parked up in spaces on the street so that nobody else gets a look in and they have to constantly trudge back and forth from their homes when they use their cars on a daily basis.

You're actually saying that a person who has a car but doesn't have a drive should not be allowed/feel entitled to park it on the public street - a very long-established legal and social practice - because other people who also have a car but don't have a drive believe that they should get permanent priority to do exactly the same.

Whether or not they live with other people who also have cars is completely irrelevant. You may as well say that, if you live in a household with other keen runners or leisure enthusiasts, only half of the residents should be legally/morally allowed to use the public park!

I can't people like you who seem incapable of reading the OP.

@Politicians247UnderwearExtinguishingService

"You're actually saying that a person who has a car..."

Not A car.

That's the point.

eh? did you miss a word?

I couldn't really give a monkeys if the op answers or not, but i do have an issue with posters being told off just for asking, its rather imperious

Honestly, I think there should be a car tax. Paid per car, per household, with the tax increasing substantially for each subsequent car.

There already is a tax on car, in the form of VED.

Parking should be limited to two cars per house.

Yes, absolutely: A car.

Each person has A car, which they use daily; the fact that they happen to live together in one house is irrelevant, as the house itself doesn't own any cars.

Why should there be a hierarchy of people who are or who aren't allowed to use a public facility - when they only have one each, like many other people - based purely on what housing situation they need and can afford? Aside from specific council-dictated restricted parking areas, either we have a freely-available public facility for everybody to have a chance at using or we ban everybody from parking cars on the road; how can there be any meaningful middle ground?

😂

Two cars per house?

LOL

Love to see how the heck that would be enforced!

You just limit permits to two per house.

The child benefit cap for 2 children didnt prevent families from having a 3rd, 4th or 5th child...

2 cars per household is completely unenforceable - always ways round it.

Especially if someone is a landlord with multiple properties, for example....

But at least they would find parking elsewhere!

I know some "residents only" parking streets where the residents are issued with permits. And in some cases a carnet of one-day vouchers for guests.

Most places outside big cities don't have permits - it's just spaces along the street for anybody and first come first served.

I think it would be a really backwards step if we were to start enforcing all public on-street parking. Costs for establishing and enforcing the zones would be huge, to pay for all the staff and/or cameras and monitoring that would be needed - and they would all be loaded straight on to the residents, along with all of the admin. It's also not always a utopia, as people can fall foul of the rules if they have visitors, hire/borrow a car, change their car and forget to register the new one etc.

In general, you either have to accept that you have the same FCFS access opportunities to a finite public resource as everybody else, or otherwise you ensure that you only ever live somewhere with a private drive that's big enough for your vehicles.

But it is A car per driver. I think @Politicians247UnderwearExtinguishingService makes a good point, why should the OP driving her one car not park on her street so someone else who also has one car and lives on the street but arrives later can park on the street? The OP said the neighbour with an issue with it was also concerned that visitors who don’t live on the street should be able to park on this street, as a priority over the people who live on the street. This is nonsense.

if there are multiple adults living in a house, then it’s likely they will have a car each.

Says who?

Anyone can park anywhere. Thats the whole point of this thread.

Whether the OP and their NDN had 7 cars between them or none, anyone can park and use those spaces.

The whiny neighbour is an entitled crybaby cunt.

They can park there but will have to cough up a £60 fine.

Now you're just making shit up.

No where in the OP's post does it refer to fines for parking on a free for all road that can be used by any vehicle.

If you follow the chain of posts:

• I suggested limiting cars to 2 per household
• if you only give permits to two cards per HH, other cars in the HH have to park without a permit
• If you don't have a permit, you get a fine

Our neighbour has a 2 car drive and 3 cars. They don’t always use the 2 car drive. Selfish fuckers.

No interest in your woke suggestions.

This thread is about the OP, not your off topic twaddle.

Lol why did you comment then.

I did so because your "2 car per house" remark was a spectacularly stupid comment.