Neighbours have decided that myself and NDN park some of our cars in another street to make it fairer for everyone. AIBU to ignore the request?

[SumoFarah]

I live on a street with unrestricted parking and few driveways. I know it might sound excessive but my family and NDN family have 7 cars between us. I can’t get a drive out in as the street is really narrow so I would need the space opposite to be empty in order to exit.

A neighbour on the street knocked on my and NDN to explain that our six cars take up too much space and means that:

1. neighbours who finish work late can never get a space so have to park on another street and walk
2. their weekend visitors can never get a space
3. on weekends they sometimes have to park in the middle of the road to unload their shopping and then go and find somewhere else to park

We we’re told that ‘they all’ think everyone should agree to use a maximum of 2 spaces to use as they wish and any further space needed should be used in the free car park about 1/2 mile away.

Also that the two teenagers (one mine, one NDN) don’t need cars as they are still in school so should have no need for cars anyway.

I get that parking spaces are at a premium, and can be frustrating when all the spaces are taken, but I don’t want myself or my dc to walk 1/2 mile in the dark (or the light, for that matter) just to placate the neighbours when there’s a space available. All our cars are pretty much used on a daily basis.

NDN told the messenger neighbour that it’s first-come-first-served. I do understand the annoyance but don’t agree with the suggestion because some houses only have one car and some houses don’t have a car, so should balance out in theory, but obviously doesn’t in practice.

Would I be unreasonable to ignore the ‘request’?

Suggestions welcomed.

I think you’re being a bit selfish sorry. Why is it ok for them to have to walk half a mile but not you?

I don’t understand your point about the driveway. Do you mean you have a driveway you don’t use?

Technically you’re not doing anything wrong but I think you should consider their request.

Also not sure why you have included your NDN in this. How many cars do you actually have? I think it’s quite inconsiderate to have more than about 3 cars per house if you don’t have off road parking, unless it’s absolutely essential.

up to you but I wouldn’t want to be the car-prick on my street. We have one opposite. More cars than people. Likes them all lined up outside their house… most aren’t used regularly, or used one at a time.
It’s annoying but he can park his 6 cars like that and we just all think they’re a bit twatty. Theres the ‘old’ car, the people carrier car, the one the wife prefers to drive ( not often) the one the bloke likes to drive, then the 2 other random cars…

Yabu

7 between 2 houses sounds excessive but you only need a couple of adult children to live at home and you've got 3/4 cars in a single house.

Anyway, you are all a bit unreasonable. They can't force you to park elsewhere but equally, knowing that you are taking up a lot of road space you are being a little inconsiderate of the needs of others.

I get that it’s annoying. I do. It’s just become an issue more recently because the nights are darker earlier.

NDN has a partner who doesn’t live there but stays on and off.

I am happy we don't live on your street.

More details are needed.

Are you using all of your cars? 2 parents and 2 young adults in a household each with a car that they drive regularly, then obviously they need 4 cars.

2 drivers in a household each with 1 main car and then second cars they don't really drive, then that's a bit off especially if there is no driveway.

I know some people who have several cars but they have big driveways and garages to keep them in.

Can you make changes to your drive layout do that it's useable? It would add value to your house if you could.

Are you and the NDN connected in some way, ie extended family? Otherwise I’m not sure why you mentioned them.

So ndn has 1 car and you have 6?!

I’d be annoyed if my neighbours were taking up 3/4 spaces on the road each and we couldn’t park. We have 3 cars and so does the ndn, but we both have driveways. The majority of our road is on street parking. We chose our house specifically due to our parking needs. You can ignore their request, but it would be neighbourly to consider it. You are wanting none of your family to be inconvenienced, but the neighbours all have to be.

How many cars are yours? NDN isn’t really relevant I suppose. You can only control your own situation. Do you have a drive?

Yeah, 7 cars is taking the piss.

If you have a drive then you should use it. If you don’t you are being unreasonable.

So you have 5 cars?

You’d have to sort the housing issues out to do that. I imagine a lot of the homes with lots of cars are either house shares of young adults, or a family with adult children who still live at home and need to drive to work. I’m sure they’d all love to live in their own flat or house with parking.

Yes. Yes, you are being unreasonable. And I feel as if there’s a massive drip feed incoming, regarding either the number of cars you own, or the fact that your DP is an on-call kitten rescuer or something.

Why are you giving a total of you and your NDN's cars? That's really odd! How many cars do you have in YOUR household?

I can’t get a drive out in

What does that mean?

Suggestions welcome

Don't tempt me OP😂

Obviously legally you are not doing anything wrong but I can see your neighbours’ point of view. How would you feel if you could never get a single parking space on your road because you happened to finish work a bit later and had to walk in the dark every day?

Legally speaking, I guess you and NDN are in the right.

but morally, I don’t think so.

but it’s up to you how important neighbourly relations are. 🤷🏼‍♀️

i’m interested to know how many cars are from your household, how many from NDN.

How many people live in each house and how many cars belong to each house? Do you have a drive?

7 cars between two households is easily done given how long young adults stay at home these days. It’s not 7 for one house. But…nicely, if you don’t use your drive / have a garage, taking up all the space on the street between you is inconsiderate.

since we can't vote - YABU

You sound completely selfish and entitled. I would never park more than two cars in a street and don’t know anyone who’d pull such a dickhead stunt.

YABU we have a similar issue on our road and the teens park their cars up the road, so we don’t take up all the parking near the houses. It’s called not being a dick to your neighbours. You never know when you might need a neighbour’s help, it really is worth maintaining a good relationship with them.