To let DH have whole day in bed ...

[wonder456]

...when hungover? I had both kids from lunchtime yesterday and took them overnight to grandmas for us to stay ..kept them out away from home so DH could rest.. just got home and asked if I could have some downtime this afternoon but DH says he's still not feeling good and can't help out this afternoon.. I feel it's a bit unfair AIBU?

The problem is that there's no teamwork if you're picking up all the parenting.

Thats not at all what she is saying—she says he wouldn’t reciprocate for her. Also she feels the marriage is bad so she “has” to do this for him.

He is taking the P

From the OP, it sounds like he went out drinking Fri night, she took the kids out yesterday, then overnight to grandmother's, and kept them away until she got home today, Sunday, and posted.

Either he's drinking so much he's got a 2 day hangover or he drank again last night and is hungover again. Either way sounds like he's got an alcohol problem that's interfering with his family life. She has to keep the kids away from their home so he can 'recover' from his drinking.

I had both kids from lunchtime yesterday and took them overnight to grandmas for us to stay ..kept them out away from home so DH could rest.. just got home and asked if I could have some downtime this afternoon but DH says he's still not feeling good and can't help out this afternoon.

Depends on your relationship.

I would be completely ok with DH taking an entire weekend off "parenting" but only because I often go away and he's in sole charge regularly.

I wouldn't be impressed by wasting a weekend because of a hungover, but as a one off, I'd roll my eyes and ignore him

As long as you share the kids, it's a non issue. If you never have weekends away, then you have a problem

Hi @outerspacepotato he left for the lunch yesterday lunchtime and I guess the lunch went out until the evening... (update I just found out it was his Christmas party with friends so I feel like a muppet 🤦‍♀️)

@ForZanyAquaViewerteamwork- he can be amazing but can but the opposite. Usually if I go out there's an argument of some sort... last time I went out was a month ago x

She’s stated that if she tried this, it wouldn’t fly and that there’s usually an argument if she goes out. So, the ‘bad DH’ comments weren’t far off the mark.

So, he went to lunch and just stayed out? Did he let you know he’d be doing this?

he can be amazing but can but the opposite.

In what ways?

Usually if I go out there's an argument of some sort

That’s obviously unacceptable, is it not?

Thankyou@ForZanyAquaViewer I didn't ask but I was were going to stay the night at mums with the kids so just left him to it.

TBH there's a lot going on that's very hard to deal with - a lot to write in here... the easiest way I can put it is... it's kind of extremes.... when things are good he is above and beyond the most amazing partner in every way... but then the flip side...

Yes it's not acceptable.... one of the issues.. idk it's very complicated x

I’m not going to press you to share more than you’re comfortable with, but a lot of the things you’re saying are a bit worrying. I hope you’re okay and that you’ve got a support network around you. 💗

Thankyou @ForZanyAquaViewer ❤️ I really appreciate it xx