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AIBU to claim UC with a 'high' income

444 replies

Loriclimbs · 28/11/2025 19:15

I am very conflicted about lifting the two-child cap. I know many would benefit from it but it would lead us back to more abuse of the system. I, however, have three children myself. I have gratefully received UC in the past but as my income has grown I am currently no longer eligible.

With the addition of my youngest child, I will now be eligible for approximately £200 per month. I an a higher rate tax payer abd Icurrently pay over £1200 in income tax alone per month. I have to repay the majority of the child benefit I receive.

AIBU to claim what I am entitled to?

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IDontHateRainbows · 28/11/2025 20:59

BettysRoasties · 28/11/2025 20:58

They won’t pay for a mortgage.

Yes, dont try to stand on your own two feet or have any form of property or savings, you'll be penalised for it.

HeyThereDelila · 28/11/2025 20:59

Are you confusing child benefit with the child element of universal/tax credits? It’s the latter that has been lifted.

There’s no cap on numbers for child benefit - the issue there is whether or not you earn over the threshold to repay.

Moonlightfrog · 28/11/2025 21:00

2x4greenbrick · 28/11/2025 20:53

What about once those children are in school?

Some parents of disabled DC sleep when their DC is in school because their DC doesn’t sleep much at night. Some disabled DC have lots of appointments &/or hospital admissions &/or meetings. Some parents need to do things they are unable to do when their disabled DC are at home such as paperwork, phone calls, laundry, etc. Some disabled DC aren’t in school/aren’t in school full-time. There are numerous other reasons why some carers cannot work even in school time.

This, especially if you’re a single parent. My dd doesn’t always sleep. I also spend a lot of time chasing up appointments, emailing placements, fighting LA for Change of placements, chasing up social services and adult social care (now dd is an adult),then there’s the days she’s unwell and at home, days I have to collect her early from her placement or attend meetings to discus her ECHP…..it’s really hard to hold down a job when your child/young adult is severely disabled. Sadly it’s not a case of dropping them off at school and going to work.

HPFA · 28/11/2025 21:00

Fairyladyonwheels · 28/11/2025 20:18

I have friends who don't work who get more money then me! I work full time. Crazy. After tax and everything my workless neighbours do better then me. 1 neighbour was bragging they had a new car paid by pip. My car is 20 years old. I am doing everything wrong and according to the calculator I woukd get more money not working, discounted council tax, freebie, free childcare on top. Wtf!

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If you have a severe disability then you might qualify for the enhanced mobility payment you can use for a new car.

Personally I think most ofvus would prefer not to have the disability.

BettysRoasties · 28/11/2025 21:00

IDontHateRainbows · 28/11/2025 20:59

Yes, dont try to stand on your own two feet or have any form of property or savings, you'll be penalised for it.

Pretty much. Then when you need care you can sell your house. If you rent it’s covered. Need house adaptions? You own you pay. You rent grants and such. Life line button you own. You pay. You rent it’s funded.

UserFront242 · 28/11/2025 21:02

IDontHateRainbows · 28/11/2025 20:59

Yes, dont try to stand on your own two feet or have any form of property or savings, you'll be penalised for it.

People are not denied UC and "penalised" for having property and savings.
They don't need UC if they have over £16k.

Viviennemary · 28/11/2025 21:03

Claim it if you like. Nearly everyone else is out for themselves to get as much as they can.

DaffodilValley · 28/11/2025 21:04

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 28/11/2025 20:38

Do you have dependants? Do you rent?

My partner who is on state pension and nothing else, I have a mortgage (and still 10 years left to pay on it).

Seymour5 · 28/11/2025 21:06

FroddyLoop · 28/11/2025 19:35

It’s the governments fault you are entitled to it. Claim it. Pensioners who are millionaires are still taking their state pension.

Only if they have the necessary contributions. Also, if their other income is high enough, they probably pay most or all back in income tax.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 28/11/2025 21:07

Claim it OP.
There are generational benefit families who have milked the system for decades and those that have never worked claiming for all they can.
Already now there will be those who have never worked eyeing up the benefits for extra children.
You are working full time, you deserve it.

littleorangefox · 28/11/2025 21:07

Holdonforsummer · 28/11/2025 20:05

Well that’s interesting as I just played around with the entitledto.com calculator again: I pretended I earned £68k, owned my own home with a mortgage, and had three kids aged 8,6 and 4 paying £1500 a year for childcare. This did not give me ANY universal credit entitlement. I wonder if you have other factors?? I think it’s really dangerous to whip up wrong information about this sort of thing as it opens the door to people wanting to vote for Reform at the next election.

Take home monthly pay for £68k salary after tax and NI - £4166 (but could be less if there are pension contributions)

Single over 25 Element - £400.14
Child element x 2 - £585.62 (will increase to 3 in April so add another £292.81 at current rates)
Childcare - £1275 (as they pay 85% of the actual costs up to a maximum of £1768.94 if 2 or more children are in childcare which includes after school etc)

Total UC before wage deductions - £2260.76

Take the £4166 of income. Deduct £684 as no housing costs. This makes £3482. Multiply this by 0.55. This makes £1915.10 which is the amount deducted from the total UC award.

This leaves a UC payment of £345.66.

littleorangefox · 28/11/2025 21:12

IDontHateRainbows · 28/11/2025 20:59

Yes, dont try to stand on your own two feet or have any form of property or savings, you'll be penalised for it.

I have a mortgage and claim UC.

HPFA · 28/11/2025 21:13

So for a family with a disabled child and having to rent what exactly do people here want to happen? Assume one parent has a minimum wage job and other parent can't work.

Take the child, stick them in a care home and tell both the parents to get a job? Withdraw the housing benefit and put them on the street?

This is going to be the end result of continually attacking the benefit system.

HappyNewTaxYear · 28/11/2025 21:14

zoemum2006 · 28/11/2025 20:23

It's funny how it works. We are entitled to nothing because we have savings but we have had virtually no income for years (establishing a new business).

I have to be super frugal so as not to run down our savings.

I think housing (and childcare) really is the great divide and really impacts how much people get/ need.

What are your savings for then?

Needmorelego · 28/11/2025 21:15

littleorangefox · 28/11/2025 21:12

I have a mortgage and claim UC.

But presumably not the "housing element" part?
This is what gets confusing. What used to be separate benefits (ie Housing Benefit was one type) is now all lumped together as UC and you might get some but not always all of the different parts.

Namechange4344 · 28/11/2025 21:17

BarkItOff · 28/11/2025 20:33

What about once those children are in school?

My disabled child is in school. I work. My partner works from home and has had to make career choices in order to manage the needs of the children such as this.

I don’t begrudge people with disabled children getting help. I’m just shocked to find that as someone with disabled children that if I left my £34k a year job I would be paid MORE in benefits. That’s on top of the DLA and PIP my children already get btw.

I feel exactly the same. I also have a disabled child who gets middle-rate DLA, but not entitled to UC as both DH and I work and have a mortgage.

However, if I didn't work and we rented, we'd be better off.

What I don't understand is why people on UC who get DLA then get an additional disabled child element as part of UC - the DLA is for the disability, so what's the disabled element for? My employer doesn't give me anything extra for having a disabled child!

rainbowsandraspberrygin · 28/11/2025 21:18

Coffeeandbooks88 · 28/11/2025 19:44

What's the point of this thread? Why didn't you just quietly claim instead of posting it here? Just gets people frothing.

I think it’s interesting actually and shows how messed up the system is

littleorangefox · 28/11/2025 21:21

Needmorelego · 28/11/2025 21:15

But presumably not the "housing element" part?
This is what gets confusing. What used to be separate benefits (ie Housing Benefit was one type) is now all lumped together as UC and you might get some but not always all of the different parts.

Yeah we don't get anything for housing. They only pay for rented properties. They used to pay the interest on mortgages many moons ago but stopped that. These days there is a loan for the interest portion of a mortgage that people can claim but the loan has to be paid back within a certain amount of time and there is interest charged on it.

BarkItOff · 28/11/2025 21:22

Needaglowup · 28/11/2025 20:51

@BarkItOff that dont sound right , with 2 children on high rate that premium alone should be nearly £900, do you rent ?if so add that on ,if you don’t , your work allowance is over £ 600 before they take off the 55 p in every pound .Plus x2 children, plus couples allowance, I’d put your details through the UC calculator again

1 of the children is an adult, he’s my child so I said children but he gets benefits in his own right now.

2x4greenbrick · 28/11/2025 21:23

Namechange4344 · 28/11/2025 21:17

I feel exactly the same. I also have a disabled child who gets middle-rate DLA, but not entitled to UC as both DH and I work and have a mortgage.

However, if I didn't work and we rented, we'd be better off.

What I don't understand is why people on UC who get DLA then get an additional disabled child element as part of UC - the DLA is for the disability, so what's the disabled element for? My employer doesn't give me anything extra for having a disabled child!

For many, DLA/PIP alone does not cover the cost of disability related expenses. According to Scope’s latest disability price tag research, disabled households need an extra £1,095 each month on average to have the same standard of living as non-disabled households.

Viviennemary · 28/11/2025 21:26

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 28/11/2025 20:56

So everyone who is encouraging the OP to claim is happy for wealthy pensioners to accept the winter fuel allowance?

Wealthy pensioners aren't getting winter fuel allowance. No payment if you earn over £35k.

Moonlightfrog · 28/11/2025 21:26

HPFA · 28/11/2025 21:13

So for a family with a disabled child and having to rent what exactly do people here want to happen? Assume one parent has a minimum wage job and other parent can't work.

Take the child, stick them in a care home and tell both the parents to get a job? Withdraw the housing benefit and put them on the street?

This is going to be the end result of continually attacking the benefit system.

Exactly….and how much would it cost to put a child/young adult into residential care? A lot more than what it does to pay the family UC so they can care for their child/adult.

I have asked social services several times to put my dd into residential care (she is now an adult so not as a child) so I can work and not be so tired all the time. My own health has suffered due to lack of sleep and stress. Every time I have asked they have begged me to keep her here with me, have promised more support and asked what they can do for me to continue caring for her. Because the costs of her getting 24 hour care elsewhere would be extortionate.

pocklechip · 28/11/2025 21:27

We are a high income household and claim DLA (which isn’t means tested) I have been told we are greedy on MN for this previously, but we are only taking what we are legally entitled to. I’m not rich enough or too proud to turn down money!

BarkItOff · 28/11/2025 21:30

2x4greenbrick · 28/11/2025 20:53

What about once those children are in school?

Some parents of disabled DC sleep when their DC is in school because their DC doesn’t sleep much at night. Some disabled DC have lots of appointments &/or hospital admissions &/or meetings. Some parents need to do things they are unable to do when their disabled DC are at home such as paperwork, phone calls, laundry, etc. Some disabled DC aren’t in school/aren’t in school full-time. There are numerous other reasons why some carers cannot work even in school time.

This isn’t the case for all though.

I’ve had to call in sick to work when my child has been up all night or take unpaid carers leave. My partner works from home in a flexible job, purposely chosen to manage the needs of the children, so someone is available if my daughter can’t go into school.

It’s not easy but if there are 2 parents to share the load and the child has appropriate support in place it is possible. Of course it’s not possible for some. But should we be really be paying benefits that mean it’s better for people to be at home than earning a £34k salary because that seems insane to me. Again remember that’s on top of the DLA and PIP. I was £400 a month better off leaving work.

Of course don’t leave these families in poverty but for those that struggle to hold down jobs around their children’s needs it’s pretty galling to realise it’s all for nothing and I shouldn’t bother.

Raggededges · 28/11/2025 21:31

You can if you want. I wouldn't if you don't need it. DWP can be quite intrusive. You'd have to be happy to give them access to your bank accounts for example, if they request it.