Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to be fed up of hearing 'I've worked hard for my money'

945 replies

newbluesofa · 28/11/2025 15:41

Lots of chat on MN recently about taxes on high earners. So heard lots of 'we have this money because we work bloody hard for it' and honestly I'm sick of it and think the people who say it are selfish.

Nurses work incredibly hard, long shifts, difficult job. Carers provide absolutely essential service, again shift work, difficult hours, difficult job. Teachers provide essential work, I know multiple teachers and they all devote evenings, weekends, school holidays to the detriment of their own families. All of these jobs also have huge emotional tolls. So 'I've worked hard for my money' means nothing to me, because a lot of people work a lot harder for a lot less.

OP posts:
Christmascarrotjumper · 29/11/2025 08:52

Newbutoldfather · 29/11/2025 08:51

@GentleOlive ,

So, you come from a wealthy family where maybe Mum’s a City lawyer and Dad is in corporate finance.

You are sent to good private schools and, being reasonably bright (but far from brilliant), you get decent A levels and to a solid uni where you get a 2/1 or a 1st (who doesn’t with grade inflation?). Along the way you have been helped into a couple of internships at lawyers and investment banks.

And, in turn, you enter the City and climb up the ladder to an ED (say) on £250k per annum. Nothing extraordinary in that environment and your main skills are an ability to blend in and make connections.

And, if you get sacked, you will never really be in trouble as you are always welcome back at home by your supporting parents, as well as maybe having money in trust.

Where is the risk taking or entrepreneurship?

I just don’t really buy your argument.

Why assume the entrepreneur comes from privilege? Not all do.

SleeplessInWherever · 29/11/2025 08:53

Marshmallow4545 · 29/11/2025 08:52

Yes, but you can access government support if you are out of work or in a low paid job and want to upskill.

Yes. As in not be totally self sufficient.

Which is apparently the issue?

Christmascarrotjumper · 29/11/2025 08:53

SleeplessInWherever · 29/11/2025 08:49

There’s someone out there pays more. The woman who someone knows who earns £400k, she’s further up the “most” tree.

Perhaps she’ll turn up to humble brag!

I mean yeah, if you want to be absurdly literal to deliberately miss the point, then you're right.

cobrakaieaglefang · 29/11/2025 08:55

You would have thought the pandemic would have made people stop and think before they open their mouths about it wouldn't you. 'Hard working' is usually harder for the poorest paid.

SleeplessInWherever · 29/11/2025 08:58

cobrakaieaglefang · 29/11/2025 08:55

You would have thought the pandemic would have made people stop and think before they open their mouths about it wouldn't you. 'Hard working' is usually harder for the poorest paid.

It’s weird all these people were valuable when we were banging pans for them, but now they get paid exactly what they’re owed because their work is worth less.

GentleOlive · 29/11/2025 09:10

Newbutoldfather · 29/11/2025 08:51

@GentleOlive ,

So, you come from a wealthy family where maybe Mum’s a City lawyer and Dad is in corporate finance.

You are sent to good private schools and, being reasonably bright (but far from brilliant), you get decent A levels and to a solid uni where you get a 2/1 or a 1st (who doesn’t with grade inflation?). Along the way you have been helped into a couple of internships at lawyers and investment banks.

And, in turn, you enter the City and climb up the ladder to an ED (say) on £250k per annum. Nothing extraordinary in that environment and your main skills are an ability to blend in and make connections.

And, if you get sacked, you will never really be in trouble as you are always welcome back at home by your supporting parents, as well as maybe having money in trust.

Where is the risk taking or entrepreneurship?

I just don’t really buy your argument.

You don’t need to. You’ll learn the hard way, as the productive people are leaving this country in their tens of thousands.

GentleOlive · 29/11/2025 09:11

SleeplessInWherever · 29/11/2025 08:58

It’s weird all these people were valuable when we were banging pans for them, but now they get paid exactly what they’re owed because their work is worth less.

Edited

The people banging pans were not exactly high intellect either.

SleeplessInWherever · 29/11/2025 09:12

GentleOlive · 29/11/2025 09:11

The people banging pans were not exactly high intellect either.

To be fair, my sister was a care manager at the time and my SIL a senior nurse.

Both very clearly said not to bother as they’d have preferred PPE and fair pay.

Wishing14 · 29/11/2025 09:12

@SleeplessInWhereverto be fair most people (retrospectively) can see what happened with allowing ‘key workers’ do their work and halting everything else, the subsequent state of the economy and who/ what funds it (eg what is really ‘key’)

HostaCentral · 29/11/2025 09:13

There are different kinds of hard though. There's the physically and emotionally draining. Nurses, teachers etc. There's the jobs noone else would want to do, carers, bin men. There's jobs where you are responsible for hundreds of employees, looking after million pounds contracts, a different kind of stress. There's also different levels of education needed for jobs

All jobs are different.

DH is a high earner. Over the years he has worked away for weeks on end. Coming home Friday night, leaving again Sunday night. Available 24/7 when at home, at weekends. Literally taking his iPad onto the beach, and taking phone calls, whilst on holiday.... That pissed me off, I can tell you. He was paid well, but not THAT well!

Nurses, teachers and carers don't do that I would have thought.

Is that hard work? I would say yes, but in a different context. Ironically he was working on NHS contracts, who generally always expect their private contractors to do work over the holidays, and be ready for when they get back from theirs.

Newbutoldfather · 29/11/2025 09:15

@Christmascarrotjumper ,

‘Why assume the entrepreneur comes from privilege? Not all do.’

The hypothetical person I described isn’t an entrepreneur. He/she is just in a well paid job, as are most of the people on this thread claiming exceptional talent is required to earn decent 6 figure salaries.

Genuine entrepreneurs are rare and of more diverse backgrounds. I suspect very few people resent people like Branson or Dyson, however rich they are.

Superhansrantowindsor · 29/11/2025 09:18

You get people who say they have worked hard and assume others haven’t. This is wrong.
You get people who are envious of people with more money than them when the people with more money have worked harder than them. This is also wrong.
Most people work hard - some harder than others and get adequately compensated for this. Some work harder than others and are paid a pittance. It’s not anybody’s fault really.

MurdoMunro · 29/11/2025 09:19

GentleOlive · 29/11/2025 09:10

You don’t need to. You’ll learn the hard way, as the productive people are leaving this country in their tens of thousands.

Go on then, I have a lot of patience. Been hearing that one since the seventies and I haven’t missed anyone in particular yet. Except Noel Edmonds, to be fair to the lad, he is one of the half dozen that actually followed through with that threat.

SleeplessInWherever · 29/11/2025 09:21

MurdoMunro · 29/11/2025 09:19

Go on then, I have a lot of patience. Been hearing that one since the seventies and I haven’t missed anyone in particular yet. Except Noel Edmonds, to be fair to the lad, he is one of the half dozen that actually followed through with that threat.

Piers Morgan and James Corden. What a loss.

MurdoMunro · 29/11/2025 09:24

SleeplessInWherever · 29/11/2025 09:21

Piers Morgan and James Corden. What a loss.

Ay yes, always the most productive ones, such a loss, you’ve got me weeping and despairing now.

EveryDayisFriday · 29/11/2025 09:34

I don't work nearly as hard for my money now as I did when I was on min wage. I'm paid for my experience and job knowledge rather than solid hard graft. I'm in a company where my workload is really low (v lucky) but salaried. My work is done but I have at least 50% downtime and despite not being a high earner, my hourly rate on actual work must be pretty high.

rwalker · 29/11/2025 09:35

DressOrSkirt · 28/11/2025 23:23

No, I don't care how they got wealthy, it does matter, they don't need billions, or even 1 billion. It wouldn't make a difference to their lives to spend it, pay their employees more, or give it to charity. They are hoarding it.

But wouldn’t it be counterproductive
a lot of billionaires run businesses that employ people and support and contribute to the economy
if they weren’t allow to keep or earn that much why would you bother
so then the treasury would lose income and we’d lose jobs

ForHazelTiger · 29/11/2025 09:39

whateverintheworld · 29/11/2025 06:47

I have no issue with paying my taxes. But I do take issues with people denying that I work hard for my money. My husband and I are in law - my husband works 80hrs+ a week as a partner and I work 60-80 a week in house. All day every day we either parent or work. No downtime. We do our very best to be fully present parents so our child never feels let down - we’ll be there for the carol service and the nativity etc. but that means we come home do bedtime and then work until we drop. Our work product is scrutinised and if we give wrong advice (even if it’s in the 18th hour working that day) we will probably be sued or under regulatory scrutiny. That is a huge amount of pressure. The rates of burnout and addiction in our industry are high. I know not every high earning job is the same, I have some friends in IT earning similarly who can do they job with their eyes closed and work about 4 hrs a day but let’s not pretend that’s everyone. For most people (not all) they are working c40hrs a week. The mental toll of working double that for 15-20 yrs and living on 4-5hrs sleep is huge. C40% of my time I’m working for the taxpayer. As I said I don’t resent that, I support the state, but I do disagree with anyone who won’t accept I’m working hard. I’ve worked other jobs eg retail as a student and when I clocked off I was off - now I’m never off.

You have chosen to do that though. I mean honestly, who cares if you or others on this thread work hard? I work hard but I consider myself lucky to be able to do that. I'd feel such an idiot going around saying 'I work hard'. Who cares? I'm not saving lives, unlike a nurse or even a carer.

Crispus · 29/11/2025 09:40

This reply has been deleted

This has been deleted by MNHQ for breaking our Talk Guidelines.

BunnyLake · 29/11/2025 09:43

Working hard certainly doesn’t in itself mean you get paid well for it, but I would think most people in very good paying jobs had to work hard in the first place to get to that position (not counting any high end nepotism situations). In a lot of cases the harder you work the less you get paid (manual workers, commercial cleaners, etc).

Christmascarrotjumper · 29/11/2025 09:46

This reply has been deleted

This has been deleted by MNHQ for breaking our Talk Guidelines.

And you can't have retail workers, food service workers and bar staff if people don't have the disposable income to shop and go out. Squeeze too hard, productivity drops and there's not enough money left to pay nurses or Costa Coffee staff.
Striking the right balance is important and ignoring high earners isn't going to help.

BunnyLake · 29/11/2025 09:47

whateverintheworld · 29/11/2025 06:47

I have no issue with paying my taxes. But I do take issues with people denying that I work hard for my money. My husband and I are in law - my husband works 80hrs+ a week as a partner and I work 60-80 a week in house. All day every day we either parent or work. No downtime. We do our very best to be fully present parents so our child never feels let down - we’ll be there for the carol service and the nativity etc. but that means we come home do bedtime and then work until we drop. Our work product is scrutinised and if we give wrong advice (even if it’s in the 18th hour working that day) we will probably be sued or under regulatory scrutiny. That is a huge amount of pressure. The rates of burnout and addiction in our industry are high. I know not every high earning job is the same, I have some friends in IT earning similarly who can do they job with their eyes closed and work about 4 hrs a day but let’s not pretend that’s everyone. For most people (not all) they are working c40hrs a week. The mental toll of working double that for 15-20 yrs and living on 4-5hrs sleep is huge. C40% of my time I’m working for the taxpayer. As I said I don’t resent that, I support the state, but I do disagree with anyone who won’t accept I’m working hard. I’ve worked other jobs eg retail as a student and when I clocked off I was off - now I’m never off.

Is it your family or friends telling you they don’t think you work hard?

whateverintheworld · 29/11/2025 09:52

BunnyLake · 29/11/2025 09:47

Is it your family or friends telling you they don’t think you work hard?

The OP any many others on this thread are saying they don’t agree with it and are annoyed by it…

whateverintheworld · 29/11/2025 09:53

ForHazelTiger · 29/11/2025 09:39

You have chosen to do that though. I mean honestly, who cares if you or others on this thread work hard? I work hard but I consider myself lucky to be able to do that. I'd feel such an idiot going around saying 'I work hard'. Who cares? I'm not saving lives, unlike a nurse or even a carer.

Our taxes are saving lives.

Dagda · 29/11/2025 09:58

rwalker · 29/11/2025 09:35

But wouldn’t it be counterproductive
a lot of billionaires run businesses that employ people and support and contribute to the economy
if they weren’t allow to keep or earn that much why would you bother
so then the treasury would lose income and we’d lose jobs

Apparently Even if most billionaires lost 99% of their wealth, they’d still be billionaires so obviously still better off than most.

Do you genuinely think that the monopoly of Amazon for example is a good thing because it creates loads of menial minimum wage jobs? Having all the wealth being concentrated at the top isn’t good for any of the rest of us.