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Concerned about DDs financial position

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Clinkanddink · 28/11/2025 03:40

Long story short without being too identifying ideally, my DD is in her late 20s, she earns an amount that most would class as a high earner, lives in a flat share, is paying a high amount into her pension (12%, employer matched), has a significant amount of savings in a low interest savings account (from inheriting her grandparents property as they decided to skip a generation for various reasons), she maxes out her stocks and shares ISA every year but this is the extent of her investments.

Today she came to me for advice. She told me was feeling a little worried as she isn’t doing much with the money she has her reasons were as follows
She is likely to buy in the next 5 years and need the money for a deposit (London living so while it would buy a family home outright in much of the country or a flat in many parts of London, it’s likely to be used as a deposit by her) so doesn’t want to invest incase it loses value and her research suggested any money needed in 5 years or less shouldn’t be invested as it’s not long enough for any market dips to recover.
She doesn’t want a buy to let as she feels it ties her down, and the new renter reforms scare her.
She doesn’t want to buy now and get a lodger as she likes the flexibility of renting and is undecided on if she will move abroad.

Basically she has a lot of money doing not a lot and every month that amount grows as she earns significantly more than she spends.

She seems extremely reluctant to change any of this and frankly I’ve never been in her situation so don’t know how to advise. She said “I feel like I have money right now, that I haven’t matured enough to use”.

Im now worried she is effectively losing money due to inflation and will realise when the time to buy does come she doesn’t have the spending power she hoped she would.

AIBU to be concerned by this? Does anyone have any advice?

OP posts:
Solerina · 29/11/2025 10:46

AgentJohnson · 28/11/2025 05:28

I’m confused, she’s done her research and therefore doesn’t need an independent financial advisor but she’s seeking the advice from her unqualified mother who in turn, seeks the unqualified advice of internet randoms on a relationship advice reform.

My advice, leave her to it.

Absolutely this.

mcmuffin22 · 29/11/2025 11:25

Clinkanddink · 28/11/2025 14:03

For DD it’s not even just the what ifs. She’s 27, has lived in London for almost a decade and still moves to a new area every 2 years with her friend. She said she doesn’t know where she wants to buy and doesn’t want to commit to somewhere just because she can. She also wants the flexibility to take a sabbatical, moved abroad etc. at very short notice. Her industry does realistically mean she could get a call from a recruiter in another country and have 3 months to move her entire life.

What's going to change in 5 years then? She could still be in the same position and her money worth a lot less. To put it in perspective, if she is currently paying say 1k a month rent, over 5 years she will be 60k worse off, not to mention the possibility of being priced out of certain areas. 60k is stamp duty on a property worth £1.2million.

Clinkanddink · 29/11/2025 11:40

mcmuffin22 · 29/11/2025 11:25

What's going to change in 5 years then? She could still be in the same position and her money worth a lot less. To put it in perspective, if she is currently paying say 1k a month rent, over 5 years she will be 60k worse off, not to mention the possibility of being priced out of certain areas. 60k is stamp duty on a property worth £1.2million.

Yes that is true, but she doesn’t know where she wants to live yet, she doesn’t want to lock herself into a property when she has confirmed that she does want to continue the life she is currently living. She values you the flexibility and mobility of renting, buying involves knowing where you want to live at least over a medium term, taking on the responsibility of repairs etc. and she just isn’t ready for that as of yet, as she doesn’t know where she wants to live or if she even wants to stay in the UK.
You could view it as her wasting money on rent or view it as her spending money on freedom and mobility.

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mcmuffin22 · 29/11/2025 11:55

Clinkanddink · 29/11/2025 11:40

Yes that is true, but she doesn’t know where she wants to live yet, she doesn’t want to lock herself into a property when she has confirmed that she does want to continue the life she is currently living. She values you the flexibility and mobility of renting, buying involves knowing where you want to live at least over a medium term, taking on the responsibility of repairs etc. and she just isn’t ready for that as of yet, as she doesn’t know where she wants to live or if she even wants to stay in the UK.
You could view it as her wasting money on rent or view it as her spending money on freedom and mobility.

In which case she can't really have it all ways so I would just leave her to do as she pleases. She may regret it in future or not. But she need sto make peace with her decision and stop worrying about it because i'm sure her grandparents did not want the inheritance to become a burden.

(It may just be me but I don't see late 20s as particularly young to be making these decisions).

FastTurtle · 29/11/2025 13:48

Clinkanddink · 29/11/2025 11:40

Yes that is true, but she doesn’t know where she wants to live yet, she doesn’t want to lock herself into a property when she has confirmed that she does want to continue the life she is currently living. She values you the flexibility and mobility of renting, buying involves knowing where you want to live at least over a medium term, taking on the responsibility of repairs etc. and she just isn’t ready for that as of yet, as she doesn’t know where she wants to live or if she even wants to stay in the UK.
You could view it as her wasting money on rent or view it as her spending money on freedom and mobility.

So what’s the problem then?

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