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Resentment at 100k

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Arseholeneighbours · 28/11/2025 00:49

Theres a lot of vitriol spilt towards people being “high earners” at 100k and over. As net contributors, and most likely having made sacrifices, stresses and difficult life decisions, there’s many judgements about life choices , expectations and living within one’s means. What is the motivation to push forward in a career and to try and be as successful as one can if there’s no personal gain? It’s all well and good saying those with the broadest shoulders should take on the most - but to what end?

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Frequency · 29/11/2025 13:14

I don't think anyone has been told to shut up, but there is an element of reading the room. We're living in a time where food bank use is on the rise, and people working full-time are unable to afford basics like heat, and period poverty exists.

It's shortsighted to expect to post about struggling on £100k when people working their arses off for a fraction of that wage are having to choose between food or heat and not expect to incite a reaction from them, especially when they're being told it is their own fault, not only that they are struggling but that people earning money they could only dream of are struggling.

They're told constantly to work harder, budget better, and take personal responsibility. The same advice could be applied to higher earners. If a small tax hike is enough to break your finances, then maybe you should take some personal responsibility, live within your means, and learn to budget better. No one is forced to take on private school fees and massive mortgages; they are all choices. Choices that are out of reach for the majority.

Maybe those on £100k plus who are struggling should take in some ironing instead of asking for handouts like free childcare.

LoudBrickTiger · 29/11/2025 13:31

Every human has problems and it's in our nature to try to find solutions.

E.g. some people in parts of the world are dying of hunger and lack of water. They will find the complaints about motability etc out of touch.

High earners may have issues too, they may just have landed a good job and now want to pay off debts etc. Extra taxes prevent them from doing that.

Wowwee1234 · 29/11/2025 13:48

Thoseslippers · 28/11/2025 04:36

I think it's just that lower earner cannot understand how someone on 100k could mismanage their money enough to be struggling.
I'm on minimum wage and my DH is on 50k. We have 3 young kids. We are not struggling. We are not in receipt of any benefits apart from the standard child benefit. We definitely aren't wealthy however we have a good life.
It does absolutely boggle my mind when I see people who earn 6 figure salaries complaining about how hard they have it..
I just don't really understand what they mean by that.. especially if its a couple and both are earning over 50k.
I just think you've really overstretched yourself if you are sat there complaining. Either that or you don't live in reality whatsoever and to you struggling means not being able to afford a cleaner twice a week any more or having to get some of your food shop from Lidl.
I just find it very odd.
And then to expect sympathy from people who've genuinely struggled??
No.
I only own my own home due to an inheritance that helped me build a deposit. And I understand how phenomenally lucky I am to have that. I'm lucky to have had a good education. I'm lucky to have a job. I'm lucky to be able bodied etc etc
There's so many things in our life that are due to luck that unfortunately some other people do not have.
I find it so ridiculous when people are out here complaining about how hard they worked and how they deserve all the money and shouldn't pay whatever tax it is they are asked to pay..
You think people working 12 hr shifts for minimum wage in factories don't work hard?
You think A&E nurses on 40k don't work hard?
And so on and so on..
Many people are working very hard.
If you are lucky enough to earn over 100k then a lot of that will be down to luck not just hard work. I'm sorry but there are very very few people out there who started at rock bottom with nothing and ended up earning a six figure salary.
Most people will have had luck play into it just like I'm a homeowner partially due to luck. Not that I didn't work hard as I work 12hr shifts in healthcare. But let's be honest I've been helped by generational wealth.
My DH was born to a teenage mother on a council estate where she still lives now. Never worked in her life. He was the first from his family to go to uni and has worked so hard to get to where he is..
But if you ask him as well he will tell you about how luck played into that. He went to uni under a labour government grant. Worked as a nurse with a bursary. Legs up. Paid for by tax!!
I personally think we all need to look at what we have achieved in life realistically. You can be all woe is me about it. Or you can think about how perhaps you have such a high standard of living now you've lost sight of what thousands of people are going through in this country and what millions are going through world wide.
You'll be sat there thinking it's normal to have two cars and go on foreign holidays twice a year and have kids in schools that cost more than some people's yearly wages. These things aren't normal. You are living a life of luxury compared to most people on the planet.
Even I know that I am living a life of luxury compared to most people on the planet and I earn minimum wage!!

This. And a million times this.

FlatusParticles · 29/11/2025 13:54

Frequency · 29/11/2025 13:14

I don't think anyone has been told to shut up, but there is an element of reading the room. We're living in a time where food bank use is on the rise, and people working full-time are unable to afford basics like heat, and period poverty exists.

It's shortsighted to expect to post about struggling on £100k when people working their arses off for a fraction of that wage are having to choose between food or heat and not expect to incite a reaction from them, especially when they're being told it is their own fault, not only that they are struggling but that people earning money they could only dream of are struggling.

They're told constantly to work harder, budget better, and take personal responsibility. The same advice could be applied to higher earners. If a small tax hike is enough to break your finances, then maybe you should take some personal responsibility, live within your means, and learn to budget better. No one is forced to take on private school fees and massive mortgages; they are all choices. Choices that are out of reach for the majority.

Maybe those on £100k plus who are struggling should take in some ironing instead of asking for handouts like free childcare.

People on £100k are the ones funding the things around here. We pay enough tax as it is and now we are being forced to pay even more. In most (but I admit) not every single scenario people should be financially responsible for themselves and take personal responsibility. I totally understand this isn't the case where people are disabled, or have suffered a loss of a partner and need time and support to find a way to back to being self sufficient again. But at some point (if you're not chronically disabled or looking after a disabled relative) you should make a plan to be self sufficient and not rely on the state. At some point you deal with what life gives you and you make the best of it.

People on £100k are funding free childcare for everyone on £99k and below and yet are expected to go without.

HPFA · 29/11/2025 14:02

FlatusParticles · 29/11/2025 13:54

People on £100k are the ones funding the things around here. We pay enough tax as it is and now we are being forced to pay even more. In most (but I admit) not every single scenario people should be financially responsible for themselves and take personal responsibility. I totally understand this isn't the case where people are disabled, or have suffered a loss of a partner and need time and support to find a way to back to being self sufficient again. But at some point (if you're not chronically disabled or looking after a disabled relative) you should make a plan to be self sufficient and not rely on the state. At some point you deal with what life gives you and you make the best of it.

People on £100k are funding free childcare for everyone on £99k and below and yet are expected to go without.

That might be fine if we hadn't made housing unaffordable to anyone without parental help in large swathes of the country.

I tend to think that a couple in their early thirties who are working hard in useful jobs (let's imagine a delivery driver and teaching assistant) should be able to have a home and start a family.

And if society decides that it won"t allow them the means to do that by prioritising the interests of existing property owners then it's right that couple should be supported by benefits.

FlatusParticles · 29/11/2025 14:21

HPFA · 29/11/2025 14:02

That might be fine if we hadn't made housing unaffordable to anyone without parental help in large swathes of the country.

I tend to think that a couple in their early thirties who are working hard in useful jobs (let's imagine a delivery driver and teaching assistant) should be able to have a home and start a family.

And if society decides that it won"t allow them the means to do that by prioritising the interests of existing property owners then it's right that couple should be supported by benefits.

Both of them together would be earning how much? The two incomes combined would be enough to pay rent.

EligibleTern · 29/11/2025 14:22

FlatusParticles · 29/11/2025 13:54

People on £100k are the ones funding the things around here. We pay enough tax as it is and now we are being forced to pay even more. In most (but I admit) not every single scenario people should be financially responsible for themselves and take personal responsibility. I totally understand this isn't the case where people are disabled, or have suffered a loss of a partner and need time and support to find a way to back to being self sufficient again. But at some point (if you're not chronically disabled or looking after a disabled relative) you should make a plan to be self sufficient and not rely on the state. At some point you deal with what life gives you and you make the best of it.

People on £100k are funding free childcare for everyone on £99k and below and yet are expected to go without.

But we have a system set up so that below a certain level of income, it's very hard to take to full responsibility because of the ridiculously high cost of housing (that other things are making a good go of rapidly catching up to). It's not the fault of people on low incomes that they don't earn enough from their employers not to need top ups, when the whole economy is set up in that way. I can't remember the statistic but I'm sure I read that most people claiming some form of benefits are in work.

FlatusParticles · 29/11/2025 14:44

EligibleTern · 29/11/2025 14:22

But we have a system set up so that below a certain level of income, it's very hard to take to full responsibility because of the ridiculously high cost of housing (that other things are making a good go of rapidly catching up to). It's not the fault of people on low incomes that they don't earn enough from their employers not to need top ups, when the whole economy is set up in that way. I can't remember the statistic but I'm sure I read that most people claiming some form of benefits are in work.

I would say that if you're healthy. Make your own success, up skill, get a better job. But it's been done to death already in this thread. So I'll leave it at that.

HPFA · 29/11/2025 16:18

FlatusParticles · 29/11/2025 14:21

Both of them together would be earning how much? The two incomes combined would be enough to pay rent.

Well that's OK then.

Obviously a couple wanting to start a family don't need a secure home.

HPFA · 29/11/2025 16:21

FlatusParticles · 29/11/2025 14:44

I would say that if you're healthy. Make your own success, up skill, get a better job. But it's been done to death already in this thread. So I'll leave it at that.

So in other words people doing jobs that we'd all agree are vital to society shouldn't expect to have a normal adult life as a result.

cardibach · 29/11/2025 16:21

FlatusParticles · 29/11/2025 14:44

I would say that if you're healthy. Make your own success, up skill, get a better job. But it's been done to death already in this thread. So I'll leave it at that.

And who does the unskilled but totally necessary jobs? And why shouldn’t those people have a normal standard of living wit( a home, heating, food and leisure activities?

Imdunfer · 29/11/2025 16:34

FlatusParticles · 29/11/2025 14:44

I would say that if you're healthy. Make your own success, up skill, get a better job. But it's been done to death already in this thread. So I'll leave it at that.

Jesus do you have any idea how entitled you sound?

I used to earn a lot more than £100k today's values but I never lost sight of the fact that not everybody is lucky enough to be born with the skills and/or into an upbringing, to enable this.

And that even if they were we would still have the same number of people having to work at mopping floors and bottoms.

Imdunfer · 29/11/2025 16:36

FlatusParticles · 29/11/2025 13:54

People on £100k are the ones funding the things around here. We pay enough tax as it is and now we are being forced to pay even more. In most (but I admit) not every single scenario people should be financially responsible for themselves and take personal responsibility. I totally understand this isn't the case where people are disabled, or have suffered a loss of a partner and need time and support to find a way to back to being self sufficient again. But at some point (if you're not chronically disabled or looking after a disabled relative) you should make a plan to be self sufficient and not rely on the state. At some point you deal with what life gives you and you make the best of it.

People on £100k are funding free childcare for everyone on £99k and below and yet are expected to go without.

People on £100k are funding free childcare for everyone on £99k and below and yet are expected to go without.

Go without what, exactly? Your £50 a head meals out? Your second foreign holiday? An even smarter house?

There IS a problem with unfair off-a-cliff tax breaks. There isn't a problem with people on £100k a year going without.

FlatusParticles · 29/11/2025 16:42

HPFA · 29/11/2025 16:21

So in other words people doing jobs that we'd all agree are vital to society shouldn't expect to have a normal adult life as a result.

They don't have to have a kid if they can't afford it? What do you mean by a normal adult life?

Kleeneze · 29/11/2025 16:52

Imdunfer · 29/11/2025 16:36

People on £100k are funding free childcare for everyone on £99k and below and yet are expected to go without.

Go without what, exactly? Your £50 a head meals out? Your second foreign holiday? An even smarter house?

There IS a problem with unfair off-a-cliff tax breaks. There isn't a problem with people on £100k a year going without.

Edited

This is EXACTLY why the young professionals are fleeing the country. Attitudes like yours.

FlatusParticles · 29/11/2025 16:58

Imdunfer · 29/11/2025 16:36

People on £100k are funding free childcare for everyone on £99k and below and yet are expected to go without.

Go without what, exactly? Your £50 a head meals out? Your second foreign holiday? An even smarter house?

There IS a problem with unfair off-a-cliff tax breaks. There isn't a problem with people on £100k a year going without.

Edited

Go without the government funded childcare that they pay for everyone else. That is what I meant.

Imdunfer · 29/11/2025 16:59

Kleeneze · 29/11/2025 16:52

This is EXACTLY why the young professionals are fleeing the country. Attitudes like yours.

No, they are fleeing the country because they can work in lower tax regimes without the threat of even higher taxes hanging over them. They aren't fleeing the country because they been called out about whinging that they are "going without" when it's clear that they aren't.

You can earn a lot of money, you can recognise the unfairness of off-the-cliff taxation changes without also being an entitled, whinging dick who says everyone could earn more of only they tried hard enough.

PeonyPatch · 29/11/2025 17:00

Imdunfer · 29/11/2025 16:59

No, they are fleeing the country because they can work in lower tax regimes without the threat of even higher taxes hanging over them. They aren't fleeing the country because they been called out about whinging that they are "going without" when it's clear that they aren't.

You can earn a lot of money, you can recognise the unfairness of off-the-cliff taxation changes without also being an entitled, whinging dick who says everyone could earn more of only they tried hard enough.

Edited

It is unfair though.

FlatusParticles · 29/11/2025 17:00

Imdunfer · 29/11/2025 16:36

People on £100k are funding free childcare for everyone on £99k and below and yet are expected to go without.

Go without what, exactly? Your £50 a head meals out? Your second foreign holiday? An even smarter house?

There IS a problem with unfair off-a-cliff tax breaks. There isn't a problem with people on £100k a year going without.

Edited

We've been on a couple of foreign holidays already this year and will be going away in over Christmas.

Imdunfer · 29/11/2025 17:03

PeonyPatch · 29/11/2025 17:00

It is unfair though.

What?

Being taxed more because you earn more? Disagree.

Tax changes at around the £100k mark that make the effective rate of taxation on a pay rise enormous? Agree, it needs changing, it's skewing everything.

PeonyPatch · 29/11/2025 17:05

Imdunfer · 29/11/2025 17:03

What?

Being taxed more because you earn more? Disagree.

Tax changes at around the £100k mark that make the effective rate of taxation on a pay rise enormous? Agree, it needs changing, it's skewing everything.

No, losing the childcare.

Imdunfer · 29/11/2025 17:10

FlatusParticles · 29/11/2025 17:00

We've been on a couple of foreign holidays already this year and will be going away in over Christmas.

I worry for your self esteem that you feel the need to boast like this, but I suspect you're actually just being a bit of a baiting troll. I do hope you have a lovely time at Christmas.

I personally could afford to fly to a top resort for Christmas skiing but I'm going to Blackpool on a coach because I love mixing with the people who actually keep the country running day to day and being crapped on by seagulls trying to nick my chips 🤣

Imdunfer · 29/11/2025 17:13

PeonyPatch · 29/11/2025 17:05

No, losing the childcare.

It is, very unfair, as is losing the tax allowance. It's creating crazy skews in the market, people refusing promotions, people reducing their hours. It should be tapered.

SleeplessInWherever · 29/11/2025 17:21

FlatusParticles · 29/11/2025 17:00

We've been on a couple of foreign holidays already this year and will be going away in over Christmas.

Why, do you not like your house?

Heres that round of applause you ordered 👏🏻👏🏻

FlatusParticles · 29/11/2025 17:48

cardibach · 29/11/2025 16:21

And who does the unskilled but totally necessary jobs? And why shouldn’t those people have a normal standard of living wit( a home, heating, food and leisure activities?

I feel shops, cafes etc can be done by students, teens, maybe those who are retired and want some extra cash. Mothers who were sahm and now want to do something.

I feel that people get paid what the economy says the job gets paid and that's that. And then live within your means.

I admit however that the social care system needs a complete change. Caring for the vulnerable unfortunately doesn't pay well.