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Resentment at 100k

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Arseholeneighbours · 28/11/2025 00:49

Theres a lot of vitriol spilt towards people being “high earners” at 100k and over. As net contributors, and most likely having made sacrifices, stresses and difficult life decisions, there’s many judgements about life choices , expectations and living within one’s means. What is the motivation to push forward in a career and to try and be as successful as one can if there’s no personal gain? It’s all well and good saying those with the broadest shoulders should take on the most - but to what end?

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Frequency · 28/11/2025 19:14

To make that work, we'd need to pay people in NMW jobs more, in line with the higher wages in other European countries that have the type of public services you're referring to; otherwise, you risk ending up like the USA, where children are dying of preventable illnesses because their parents can't afford basic medical care.

Frequency · 28/11/2025 19:16

It's the same with tax; if you want the burden to be more equally spread, like it is in other countries, you need to pay the people at the bottom and middle enough that they can afford to pay more tax.

Benjithedog · 28/11/2025 19:36

EligibleTern · 28/11/2025 19:13

Exactly. I've suffered far worse stress and worked longer hours in lower paid jobs than higher paid ones, plus the added financial stress on top. I don't know where this idea comes from that lower paid jobs are easy - people trying to convince themselves they deserve high salaries more than others?

No one has said that

cardibach · 28/11/2025 19:46

Dorisbonson · 28/11/2025 17:14

Teachers and nurses get whacking great pensions and can work anywhere.

A lot of high earners get clobbered with costs of being in the south east - expensive housing (2 bed flat for 500k on the outskirts of London versus a large 5 bed house in the Midlands or North). South east pays more stamp duty on buying houses and gets killed on train fares. I paid 56 for a return into London this morning for a 35 minute journey (35 effing minutes and standing room only), a season ticket for the same journey is 6k a year, a season ticket covering the whole of the West Midlands on train is 1k a year!!! That's 6k versus 1k for a train ticket. If you need tube plus train that 6k ticket is 8k - if you pay 40/45% tax that's 12-13k of salary!

Whilst south east on average earns more, everything is more expensive and so that 100k a year salary evaporates pretty quick! Genuinely think 100k in the south east is more like 65k elsewhere.

The teacher’s pension is good, but not as good as it was. I did 35 years full time and now take home about £1400 a month. And it’s supposed to compensate a bit for less good pay throughout. It’s part of the contract and decision making proces.

cardibach · 28/11/2025 19:48

FlatusParticles · 28/11/2025 19:07

Carers I accept. It's woeful due to the way the system is set up to be limited and reliant on government funding. But nurses and teachers don't get paid too badly.

All these jobs are linked to public sector and/or government pay. Maybe if we reformed and has a more public-private hybrid they'd get paid better? As they do in other parts of the world.

No classroom teacher is earning £100k

cardibach · 28/11/2025 19:49

Benjithedog · 28/11/2025 19:36

No one has said that

They have. I’ve responded to more than one post about how low stress eg retail apparently is.

CleverButScatty · 28/11/2025 19:50

CrazyGoatLady · 28/11/2025 00:52

I'm a higher earner - not quite 100k high, but I would consider my salary higher end - and I don't whine about paying tax. The sacrifices I've made to have a well paid senior management role are no better or more praiseworthy than the sacrifices low earners make to put food on the table and provide for their families.

Definitely. I'm a high earner and parents were very low earners. They definitely worked harder than I do.

Coolasfeck · 28/11/2025 19:55

The UK is an international outlier in that the low paid pay less tax than most comparable countries whilst those on £100k+ pay more than most. So we have a weird situation where as a country we have both a low and high tax burden.

The low and middle paid are a paying low American style tax levels and the £100k+ are paying Scandinavian tax levels whilst not seeing Scandi style social services which is unfair.

It’s completely topsy turvey The whole tax system needs to be reformed.

WhatMummyMakesSheEats · 28/11/2025 19:59

cardibach · 28/11/2025 19:49

They have. I’ve responded to more than one post about how low stress eg retail apparently is.

I don’t earn over 100k, but I am getting there. To this day the most stressful job I’ve ever had was KFC.

FlatusParticles · 28/11/2025 20:23

Coolasfeck · 28/11/2025 19:55

The UK is an international outlier in that the low paid pay less tax than most comparable countries whilst those on £100k+ pay more than most. So we have a weird situation where as a country we have both a low and high tax burden.

The low and middle paid are a paying low American style tax levels and the £100k+ are paying Scandinavian tax levels whilst not seeing Scandi style social services which is unfair.

It’s completely topsy turvey The whole tax system needs to be reformed.

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Wait. Scandi countries tax everyone highly?

TesChique · 28/11/2025 20:35

Climbingrosexx · 28/11/2025 14:23

You don't sound like you have ever worked in retail and aren't you the lucky one? Retail is anything but stressless, rubbish hours, rubbish pay, lucky to leave work on time verbal and now physical abuse. I have been in situations where we were afraid to leave work at night due to it all kicking off during the day. You never knew how real those threats to wait for you after work were. Yet these retail workers who you clearly feel are beneath you get off their backsides every day and go to work. I'm lucky I got out but there was a time I thought I was stuck in that line of work forever. I have no time for anyone who could work but won't work, but have complete respect for anyone who goes out and does their bit whatever they earn

I spent 5 years on a shop floor.

Im just not a victim.

TesChique · 28/11/2025 20:36

Benjithedog · 28/11/2025 19:36

No one has said that

I said that.

I stand by it.

Frequency · 28/11/2025 20:43

FlatusParticles · 28/11/2025 20:23

Wait. Scandi countries tax everyone highly?

Kind of.

The tax burden is more evenly spread, but their top % of earners pay a higher proportion of their income in tax than we do, and their wages overall are higher. Employers in Scandinavian countries also pay more in tax and social security.

It's not really fair to compare low iearning ndividuals in the UK with low-earning individuals in Scandinavian countries because they earn more than we do, therefore, can afford to pay more tax.

The second we rise the NMW to more closely match other European countries, there is hysteria over businesses closing and billionaires upping sticks and moving to Dubai because they are no longer allowed to exploit their cleaners/nannies.

Teenyweenymeee · 28/11/2025 20:45

Arseholeneighbours · 28/11/2025 01:06

I’m not whining about paying tax, I’m questioning the incentives to achieve. Falling into a tax bracket where you lose any child care support and personal allowance off a cliff. A surrounding cloud of resentment that of course you don’t need any support, whilst effectively taking a 20k pay cut

Pay some more into your pension?

Benjithedog · 28/11/2025 21:04

cardibach · 28/11/2025 19:49

They have. I’ve responded to more than one post about how low stress eg retail apparently is.

Sorry but I have seen that.

Benjithedog · 28/11/2025 21:05

TesChique · 28/11/2025 20:36

I said that.

I stand by it.

I stand by what I said

Crikeyalmighty · 28/11/2025 21:07

pottylolly · 28/11/2025 00:55

I agree with you. Also, this government has someone earning £50k a year down as a high earner. This is only a couple of grand a year more take home pay than someone on the full benefits cap (and can be less if the person is working a few hours too).

The government should be encouraging everyone to work. Nobody should ever need to claim benefits while working & they certainly should never be better off not working.

Well in all fairness so did the Tory’s and that’s only 16 months ago and the Tory’s had already frozen banding levels . It’s not as if the Tory’s had it at £65k and Labour had reduced it back

whittingtonmum · 28/11/2025 21:16

Arseholeneighbours · 28/11/2025 05:18

I believe it creates a barrier to women in the workplace

There are many, many barriers for women in the workplace - this isn't one of them.

Ludicrous to suggest this.

EasternStandard · 28/11/2025 21:21

whittingtonmum · 28/11/2025 21:16

There are many, many barriers for women in the workplace - this isn't one of them.

Ludicrous to suggest this.

What the childcare cut off? Why not?

cardibach · 28/11/2025 21:22

EasternStandard · 28/11/2025 21:21

What the childcare cut off? Why not?

Because if you are earning that much you haven’t been blocked from the workplace - and there are lots of ways to mitigate the issue the OP and you are complaining about.

Littleworm23 · 28/11/2025 21:58

I completely agree. I earn around £50k, my husband earns around £120k. I’m not saying we’re poor not do we object to paying tax or to paying benefits to those in desperate times. However, between us we pay over £40k tax a year. We are already paying waya more than our ‘fair’ share.

Frugalgal · 28/11/2025 22:21

Arseholeneighbours · 28/11/2025 00:49

Theres a lot of vitriol spilt towards people being “high earners” at 100k and over. As net contributors, and most likely having made sacrifices, stresses and difficult life decisions, there’s many judgements about life choices , expectations and living within one’s means. What is the motivation to push forward in a career and to try and be as successful as one can if there’s no personal gain? It’s all well and good saying those with the broadest shoulders should take on the most - but to what end?

The only vitriol is towards those earning that much who are moaning and crying about having to pay a bit more.

Btowngirl · 28/11/2025 23:41

Arseholeneighbours · 28/11/2025 01:43

I guess this is the crux of it though - the choices that financial
security allow. Is a person on 100k with a large mortgage and commitments more secure than one on 33k in a secure tenancy and universal credit coming in.

Of course they are in the long term. Do you think the housing association tennant will have a lovely retirement & sleep well knowing they’re leaving their children a nice inheritance via the house? I get what you’re trying to say, it’s all relative etc but we are all surely playing the long game, otherwise why bother buying a house at all?

CrazyGoatLady · 29/11/2025 08:16

Frugalgal · 28/11/2025 22:21

The only vitriol is towards those earning that much who are moaning and crying about having to pay a bit more.

Agree. People earning 100k+ need to have the self awareness to understand how this comes across to those who earn a fraction of that. Even if you don't perceive yourself as well off, those on minimum wage certainly will.

TheaBrandt1 · 29/11/2025 08:29

Hmm I can see both sides. Another thing to factor in is risk. If a professional cocks up the stakes can be very high. If a retail worker does frankly they are not. That pressure can be wearing and stressful over the years particularly as you get older.

Every professional I know lives in dread of being sued. If you’re taxed to hell I can see plenty getting to midlife and thinking sod this it’s not worth the risk. If we are all going to essentially be paid the same due to tax I’ll be a florist or something.