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Resentment at 100k

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Arseholeneighbours · 28/11/2025 00:49

Theres a lot of vitriol spilt towards people being “high earners” at 100k and over. As net contributors, and most likely having made sacrifices, stresses and difficult life decisions, there’s many judgements about life choices , expectations and living within one’s means. What is the motivation to push forward in a career and to try and be as successful as one can if there’s no personal gain? It’s all well and good saying those with the broadest shoulders should take on the most - but to what end?

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ruethewhirl · 28/11/2025 09:50

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Grow up.

HPFA · 28/11/2025 09:51

In a way I agree, I think we should move to society where you pay more in tax but also get more back.

So I'd restore child benefit for all, have free social care and massive investments in social housing.

BUT there's a reason why no political party is offering that and it's because an awful lot of people just think they can have low taxes and great benefits by eliminating "scroungers" and telling everyone to work harder. Of course when the government does raise the minimum wage we get "but employers can't afford that."

Just yesterday I was chatting to a colleague who was complaining about "people who have never worked" and then complained about her own pension being substandard because of all the years she hadn't been able to work! Although in her case for completely justifiable reasons. Of course!!

Minjou · 28/11/2025 09:51

Arseholeneighbours · 28/11/2025 01:06

I’m not whining about paying tax, I’m questioning the incentives to achieve. Falling into a tax bracket where you lose any child care support and personal allowance off a cliff. A surrounding cloud of resentment that of course you don’t need any support, whilst effectively taking a 20k pay cut

Such a weird attitude to have. You need incentives to achieve, financial rewards from the government? Don't you have any drive and ambition of your own?

I used to be a sahp, not out of choice, we got government help for low earning families etc. When I could eventually get back to work I was worse off for a while, then I got a pay rise but lost childcare subsidies so was again worse off. Did I care? No, I was so happy to be earning my own money and being self reliant and working for everything I had.
Grow up and have some pride and stop whining about being a poor little rich girl. 100k is a huge wage.

BlakeCarrington · 28/11/2025 09:52

Hard agree OP, there is no incentive at all. What is the point of in striving for that promotion when Reeves takes the extra income. Might as well not bother.

FlatusParticles · 28/11/2025 09:52

Is minimum wage enough to live off if you're childless and you just budget hard enough

Arseholeneighbours · 28/11/2025 09:53

Minjou · 28/11/2025 09:51

Such a weird attitude to have. You need incentives to achieve, financial rewards from the government? Don't you have any drive and ambition of your own?

I used to be a sahp, not out of choice, we got government help for low earning families etc. When I could eventually get back to work I was worse off for a while, then I got a pay rise but lost childcare subsidies so was again worse off. Did I care? No, I was so happy to be earning my own money and being self reliant and working for everything I had.
Grow up and have some pride and stop whining about being a poor little rich girl. 100k is a huge wage.

No the incentive provided by the government is to drop my hours

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HelmholtzWatson · 28/11/2025 09:54

HelenaWaiting · 28/11/2025 08:56

Of course I do, but your hypothetical scenario doesn't exist.

No hypothetical scenarios exist, that's what makes them hypothetical 🙄

BlakeCarrington · 28/11/2025 09:55

Same here @Arseholeneighbours - it actively incentivises me to drop to 4 days

FlatusParticles · 28/11/2025 09:55

Arseholeneighbours · 28/11/2025 09:53

No the incentive provided by the government is to drop my hours

Honestly the tax on the strivers does upset me. Family I know work very hard. But there are the crowd on MN who say "I work very hard. I only earn minimum wage."

HPFA · 28/11/2025 09:56

mindutopia · 28/11/2025 09:27

Because they can and we look after people in our society if we want a good life for ourselves too.

We are higher earners. Over £100k but not ultra rich and I have no problem paying taxes. We have a lovely life, are not feeling the squeeze at all.

And that’s probably because we do exactly what poor people are told to do all the time: we live within our means. We don’t have our dc in private schools. We don’t take £5000 holidays. We take packed lunches on a day out and coffee in a flask. We don’t regularly get takeaways or eat lots of convenience foods. We don’t have Sky or car finance or gym memberships. We have plenty of money left over every month such that a bit more on taxes is no big deal given we make good use of those public services ourselves.

You sound a lot like me.

I feel very lucky that my partner and I have so far been able to have a good life on a joint salary of about £60,000 thanks to house prices being more sensible when we bought and us not spending unnecessary money.

My partner's been able to retire at 64 which he's loving every moment of.

The reason couples like us (but thirty years younger) can't do the same is because of terrible decisions people have voted for over the years - the destruction of social housing, Brexit....

Owlbookend · 28/11/2025 09:56

Some people on high incomes work hard, but so do people on lower and middle incomes. Their work is important and contributes both to wealth generation and the support of essential services. Society needs refuge collectors, care assistants, nurses, social workers, cleaners and teachers. Nursery workers are low paid. Without them.high earners with young children cant work. Businesses that generate tax dont function without their middle and lower paid workers. We are all part of an economic and societal ecosystem, reliant on each other.

My DP earns well below 100k. He works long hours and does very chalenging work. It is needed for society to function. I dont doubt that many on 100k+ work very hard, but surely those on 100k also recognise that others work hard as well? A functioning society needs a wide range of job roles that contribute in different ways? The tax income of the higher paid is important, but so is the work contribution of low and middle earners.
I dont resent people who earn 100k+ and i do understand that there can be circumstances and 'pinch points' when people on these much higher than average incomes can feel.their disposable income incomes are constrained. However, in the medium and longer term people on higher incomes (& 100k+ is well above average) have access to more money than those on lower and middle incomes.

MidnightPatrol · 28/11/2025 09:56

Minjou · 28/11/2025 09:51

Such a weird attitude to have. You need incentives to achieve, financial rewards from the government? Don't you have any drive and ambition of your own?

I used to be a sahp, not out of choice, we got government help for low earning families etc. When I could eventually get back to work I was worse off for a while, then I got a pay rise but lost childcare subsidies so was again worse off. Did I care? No, I was so happy to be earning my own money and being self reliant and working for everything I had.
Grow up and have some pride and stop whining about being a poor little rich girl. 100k is a huge wage.

I don’t think you understand.

Use me as an example. Earn over £100k and I now lose £22,000 in childcare subsidies. I also pay 62% tax on the next £25k of income.

This means if I earn a penny less than £150k… I’m worse off than earning £99k.

So you basically cannot increase your income above £100k with kids in childcare (using pension contributions to stay below it) - unless you are earning a lot more.

Even then, with my example you have an effective 80% tax rate all the way up to £200k. For the amount of extra work needed to achieve this, for many it’s just not worth it. I know people on these kind of incomes working part time hours exclusively because of the tax situation relating to childcare.

People won’t work for free.

MidnightPatrol · 28/11/2025 09:57

Arseholeneighbours · 28/11/2025 09:53

No the incentive provided by the government is to drop my hours

It’s a double saving on dropping your hours too as you can do one less day of childcare!

Arseholeneighbours · 28/11/2025 09:58

Owlbookend · 28/11/2025 09:56

Some people on high incomes work hard, but so do people on lower and middle incomes. Their work is important and contributes both to wealth generation and the support of essential services. Society needs refuge collectors, care assistants, nurses, social workers, cleaners and teachers. Nursery workers are low paid. Without them.high earners with young children cant work. Businesses that generate tax dont function without their middle and lower paid workers. We are all part of an economic and societal ecosystem, reliant on each other.

My DP earns well below 100k. He works long hours and does very chalenging work. It is needed for society to function. I dont doubt that many on 100k+ work very hard, but surely those on 100k also recognise that others work hard as well? A functioning society needs a wide range of job roles that contribute in different ways? The tax income of the higher paid is important, but so is the work contribution of low and middle earners.
I dont resent people who earn 100k+ and i do understand that there can be circumstances and 'pinch points' when people on these much higher than average incomes can feel.their disposable income incomes are constrained. However, in the medium and longer term people on higher incomes (& 100k+ is well above average) have access to more money than those on lower and middle incomes.

How does it ever make sense to be paying £4K a month in childcare?

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Arseholeneighbours · 28/11/2025 09:59

MidnightPatrol · 28/11/2025 09:56

I don’t think you understand.

Use me as an example. Earn over £100k and I now lose £22,000 in childcare subsidies. I also pay 62% tax on the next £25k of income.

This means if I earn a penny less than £150k… I’m worse off than earning £99k.

So you basically cannot increase your income above £100k with kids in childcare (using pension contributions to stay below it) - unless you are earning a lot more.

Even then, with my example you have an effective 80% tax rate all the way up to £200k. For the amount of extra work needed to achieve this, for many it’s just not worth it. I know people on these kind of incomes working part time hours exclusively because of the tax situation relating to childcare.

People won’t work for free.

Exactly!

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RedTagAlan · 28/11/2025 09:59

Arseholeneighbours · 28/11/2025 09:39

My exact circumstances aren’t really the issue are they? It’s a policy problem

But you are still earning a pretty decent wage. I honestly don't see the problem.

When the Tories get in again they will likely promise tax cuts, extend child care to 200k, and put another 20 billion into the NHS.

You just gotta vote Tory, and maybe knock on doors for them, come next election time.

Arseholeneighbours · 28/11/2025 10:00

See @MidnightPatrol post above

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RedTagAlan · 28/11/2025 10:06

Arseholeneighbours · 28/11/2025 10:00

See @MidnightPatrol post above

"....and I now lose £22,000 in childcare...."

So you are FOR the benefits system, and government paying.

As the Tories would say, who pays for that ?

Arseholeneighbours · 28/11/2025 10:08

RedTagAlan · 28/11/2025 10:06

"....and I now lose £22,000 in childcare...."

So you are FOR the benefits system, and government paying.

As the Tories would say, who pays for that ?

I’ve never been anti benefits!

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FlatusParticles · 28/11/2025 10:08

I feel when discussing salaries and wages everyone gets try and plays on heart strings. "Oh I work hard. I did all this." "Oh I work hard. But I only get paid this". "Oh these jobs are essential for society"

We live in a capitalist and relatively free market economy. Wages and incomes are predominantly set by supply and demand. Low earning jobs are usually easily replaceable and low skilled. Yes we might need them. But if people were to leave they'd probably be replaced very quickly.

Skill, knowledge, intelligence and drive all play a part. At some point YOU have to take responsibility for your own job, salary and career? Remember that when you agree to start a job, you enter that wage contract voluntarily.

MidnightPatrol · 28/11/2025 10:08

RedTagAlan · 28/11/2025 10:06

"....and I now lose £22,000 in childcare...."

So you are FOR the benefits system, and government paying.

As the Tories would say, who pays for that ?

I pay for it, through the vast amount of tax I pay.

Im just not eligible to use the services I’m funding.

Hence the annoyance.

Benjithedog · 28/11/2025 10:09

Owlbookend · 28/11/2025 09:56

Some people on high incomes work hard, but so do people on lower and middle incomes. Their work is important and contributes both to wealth generation and the support of essential services. Society needs refuge collectors, care assistants, nurses, social workers, cleaners and teachers. Nursery workers are low paid. Without them.high earners with young children cant work. Businesses that generate tax dont function without their middle and lower paid workers. We are all part of an economic and societal ecosystem, reliant on each other.

My DP earns well below 100k. He works long hours and does very chalenging work. It is needed for society to function. I dont doubt that many on 100k+ work very hard, but surely those on 100k also recognise that others work hard as well? A functioning society needs a wide range of job roles that contribute in different ways? The tax income of the higher paid is important, but so is the work contribution of low and middle earners.
I dont resent people who earn 100k+ and i do understand that there can be circumstances and 'pinch points' when people on these much higher than average incomes can feel.their disposable income incomes are constrained. However, in the medium and longer term people on higher incomes (& 100k+ is well above average) have access to more money than those on lower and middle incomes.

Of course those who are on higher income realise that those who are not and who are working, work hard. It is those who don’t work at all or work the minimum hours so benefits aren’t affected are the ones who are resented which is a perfectly normal feeling to have

MidnightPatrol · 28/11/2025 10:09

RedTagAlan · 28/11/2025 09:59

But you are still earning a pretty decent wage. I honestly don't see the problem.

When the Tories get in again they will likely promise tax cuts, extend child care to 200k, and put another 20 billion into the NHS.

You just gotta vote Tory, and maybe knock on doors for them, come next election time.

The Tories created this situation with childcare at £100k - and made it vastly worse by making it more generous and keeping the cut off.

Really strange move from them - alienate all high earning younger adults.

WithDiamonds · 28/11/2025 10:10

As much as the welfare state promotes care for people and attempts to tackle inequality it’s there just as much to stop civil unrest.

Arseholeneighbours · 28/11/2025 10:11

RedTagAlan · 28/11/2025 10:06

"....and I now lose £22,000 in childcare...."

So you are FOR the benefits system, and government paying.

As the Tories would say, who pays for that ?

In what world would you accept a promotion which causes you a 22k loss?

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