Partner and my dog

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My dog is big and liles to jump up when excited. My partber brought a parcel that had been delivered to the house.

My dog grabbed her toy and jumped at him and hit him right in his "privates" he let out a "ouch" then hit my dog with parcel.

He said it was an instant reaction to being hurt. I said it was an accident.

The parcel has a light rubber tube in it so was v.light.

He said aibu as it was a reaction and she needs trained and he doesnt appreciate being hurt. He then patted her and said sorry.

Aibu or is he?

Is this animal abuse?

Ta x

Partner has been jumped on by dog many times nevet hit in his privates. He really had to curl forward in pain. He is always telling her to come up on the couch for cuddles.this has been the only thing.

So your dog clearly hurt him very badly and you don’t actually seem to care.

Was going to say this.

Dogs do not tolerate shit from other dogs. It probably barely registered with the dog.

I love dogs but if people haven't trained/ won't discipline their animal and it's in danger of hurting me, I will shout /growl at it to let it know I won't be tolerating that crap.

If people get offended tough, train your dog or don't bring it out in public.

Yep. I have very little patience for people who know their dogs are badly behaved and do nothing about it.

This is human abuse FFS. You need to train your dog before it hurts someone again

Train your dog.

Abuse? No.
Train your dog Not to jump up. Being excited isn't an excuse.

It's never OK for your dog to jump up. Especially for a large dog. You've put your dog in this position by failing to train them in appropriate behaviour. If this happened in public, your dog could be considered dangerously out of control. And I say this as a fellow large dog owner (golden retriever and German shepherd) so it's not that I dislike dogs in any way!

@OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon "Ah rubbish ! he is making excuses now for his bad behaviour ! so what happens if you have a son with him, and son comes running to meet him and in his excitement runs directly into him and by accident head butts him in his balls, is he going to punch the child in his face
as he cannot regulate his emotions control his anger"

I agree. Do yourself a favour OP and keep the dog, get rid of the bloke. Much more loving and faithful in the long run anyway.

Never acceptable to hit a dog, untrained or not!

Will people stop comparing dogs and children?

They are NOT the same!

In any event, a child has never rushed up to me and bitten me somewhere sensitive.

And giving an animal a tap with a very light object is hardly abuse anyway. The comments on here!

Anyway, you are both at fault. You have a dog which you haven't trained adequately, and he doesn't like them - so it's hardly a match made in heaven, is it? Find someone who likes dogs (and potentially will train yours).

Even when it causes you immense pain?

Yes! How can anyone justify hurting any animal in retaliation?

Well, dog wasn’t hurt - OP said the parcel was light as anything.

And it’s often instinct to lash out when you’re in extreme pain - if a dog leapt at me and headbutted me I would shove them off or put my knee into their chest to keep myself safe.

Sorry, hitting anyone in response to being hurt is abusive. It doesn't matter that what he had in his hand was light, its his response that matters.

As for 'he touched it' - the OP said he HIT the dog. If she had said he hit her in response to her say, falling over and clouting him in the process, would you minimise that to 'touched her lightly'... would you fuck.

Yes, you need to train your dog - he needs to be involved in that, dogs need consistency and if one person is encouraging jumping or rewarding it when it happens and the other is teaching the dog not to jump, you end up with a dog who jumps at the one person and not the other. Proofing a dog to not jump even if someone is encouraging it is really really difficult and requires a lot of management and consistency in the early training.

It’s not abusive 🫣

Abusive is smacking hard out of anger - not responding to extreme pain caused by an out of control, untrained large dog.

I have excellent self control. I’m exercising it now.

Yes, I would definitely react if someone punched me in the face. But as that isn’t what happened here, I’m not sure what the point is that you’re trying to make. What I wouldn’t do is hit an untrained animal for doing what untrained animals do. And I know this because I used to foster dogs, 99% of whom were distinctly unsociable. I have been bitten, jumped up at, trodden on, walked over and clawed at. I managed not to hit any of them.

But OP says her partner is wary of dogs and doesn’t trust them - he’s not a dog lover with the patience and tolerance levels that you have, and that’s okay.

Mumsnet please remove my thread 😢😢😢

Why would you want this thread removed, with crying face emojis - has something happened to your dog ?

Animal abuse … fgs train the dog

Tad of an over-reaction. Most of us can tell a large dog from a human and modify behaviour accordingly. If dogs jump up at me I push them off, firmly, The cause of this nonsense is the badly trained dog.
I have friends whose dogs behave like this. I like the people and but the dogs' behaviour is a bloody nuisance. Speaking as a long term dog owner, I would never ever have let my dog do this. No one wants to be leapt at by 27kg of Labrador.

But it’s not ok for the dog, is it? The OP is failing her animal completely.

She absolutely is - but that’s her problem to solve, not her partners.

Or you could just train your dog 😉