To think my niece doesn’t really get a say on how good or bad she thinks the budget is

[Dennien]

I’m a single mum, I work full time, I have 3 children and I just about get by.
My niece is 26, she makes almost 100k (got lucky, was in the right rooms either the right people), and inherited 500k from her paternal grandparents.
She doesn’t have uni debt, she doesn’t have childcare costs. She happily pays £500 a month for a fancy London gym, lives in a flat share with her best friend etc.
Today she told me she didn’t think the budget went far enough etc. that Labour are useless and so on. She is a Lib Dem/Tory voter and very against reform too.

AIBU to say that young people in a privileged position shouldn’t really get to comment as they aren’t facing the same difficulties others are.

Last I checked people were still allowed an opinion, on account of living in a democracy with free speech. Who do you actually think you are?

Is it all young women who shouldn't get to have an opinion, or just those who earn a higher salary than you?

Honestly, good for her.

So your niece grew up in and out of care, lost her dad and paternal grandparents at a young age, then literally hauled ass to make something of herself…. And you think she’s not entitled to an opinion about the budget.

The classic "only poor people get to whinge and complain" argument. Great!

But she must of worked hard to get the job she has you don’t by luck gets jobs like that. As she sees it she got out why shouldn’t others do the same.

Everyone gets a say. It does not matter about their earnings, be it £100k or on benefits.

From the drip feed from OP, it sounds like her niece is a very successful dancer.
There is certainly an element of luck in creative industries, in that you have to be in the right room at the right time, and noticed by the right people.
Yes, she will have worked hard to get where she is, but there will be people just as talented as she is that will never get anywhere because they are not seen. A lot of success in creative industries is down to networking.

Only on page 4 of the thread

hers will be a short lived career she certainly won’t be doing it at 50, she will have to restart again.

Not necessarily, I said her career was related to dance but I didn’t say she was still a dancer. Shes an in house choreographer at a very successful production company and is now moving into management. She did start as a professional dancer but this was at 18 and she has worked her way up from there.

On another thread it was confirmed that a single mum with 3 kids can now get £6142 per month made up from work + CB -UC top ups- which is a gross salary equivalent of £113k.

So, I'm with your niece tbh.

Of course privileged people get a say, MN is chock full of privileged people having z say.

Was this in the Daily Mail?

Of course she gets a say. Every person in the country gets a say. That's how democracy works.

Yeah. But can be verified using the various apps- eg 'entitled to'. Just plug in the deets and it spits out numbers.

So she has permission to earn money off other people but is not allowed to have an opinion on anything to do with the money she earns of these people?

Everyone is allowed a view. The people earning are the ones paying for the ones getting welfare.

You sound jealous of your niece.

Just strive to create wealth and to do well, Op.
Your children will benefit from your hard work.
Your niece is a great example of how working hard and creating wealth helps everyone in that family and also helps pay taxes so others less fortunate can go to school, give birth in a hospital and eat food.

Honestly you just sound like a jealous old person, who needs enemies with family members like you?

You don’t sound very nice and this thread is now extremely identifying. I hope your niece doesn’t read it as she will know you are writing about her.

Even more reason to be proud of her….you still have to be good at your job to stay in that position.
your title you give yourself single mother of 3 that doesn’t have to be everything you can change that.
i saw someone the other day on TV who I knew vaguely in my 20’s she went to uni in her 50’s & is now a published author how great is that.. isn’t that not something you would want to teach your children. We live in a country where opportunity is available if you want it. You are never going to get an inheritance or be a dancer but rather than dampening someone’s success you could aim to improve yours.

Your niece contributes over £40k in tax and NI each financial year, which is set by the government. If that alone doesn’t entitle her to comment on the budget, also set by the government, then I’m not sure what would!

Oh dear, of course you are wrong.

It's not "luck" that she spent thousands of hours as a child and adolescent becoming a professional dancer.

She has earned it.

I think there is an element of luck in terms of your talents being noticed to start with.

I would say dancing is one of those jobs where people can pretty much immediately tell if you are stand out good, I can’t imagine there are many people in that industry being paid that much. She’s got her job not because she just knew people she got it for being good and having the common sense to network. She wasn’t just lying in a gutter somewhere and someone plucked her out of obscurity.

Also many people from modest backgrounds improve their own circumstances through sheer hard graft and sensible decision making, they may not be as sympathetic to people who seemingly make decisions that hurt them. Like having more children than you can afford or not getting a career before starting a family, not finishing school etc etc. My family were skint growing up, lots of hard work and they are all fine now, it tends to shape your view around dependency.