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The housing catastrophe has ruined lives

175 replies

Croydonishell · 26/11/2025 20:09

The real terms rocketing in house prices since the mid 90s, particularly in desirable cities in the UK & elsewhere, have been a social catastrophe.
Young and many middle.aged people without rich and donarion inclined parents, people doing jobs they hate and working all hours just to afford basic accommodation, putting off life decisions.
Then on here you get this casual comnenting like "you won't get much in X for £800k".
People who were just born atbthe right time or inherited rich way beyond necessity. Probably caused Brexit and a lot of the hate towards immigrants too.

OP posts:
Bushmillsbabe · 27/11/2025 13:04

AntiHop · 27/11/2025 11:17

So your house is now worth £850k. How much did you buy it for?

745k, 7 years ago. And we have spent around 25k on doing it up. Interest paid on mortgage over that time around 30k, total expenditure around 800k. Not quite sure why you are asking - I'm guessing it's to tell me that I haven't actually earnt the money my house is worth, but am the recipient of good fortune through sheer luck?

pocketpairs · 27/11/2025 13:17

Jellycatspyjamas · 27/11/2025 08:04

As with everything it depends on where you live. I don’t feel like you at all. Where I am house prices are fine and achievable, and my life doesn’t feel ruined by any means.

Define achievable..

pocketpairs · 27/11/2025 13:20

The real problem was Thatcher who sold off council stock, where houses went from being a place to live to an investment. Before this 80% of the population lives in council properties. Owning homes isn't a thing in much of Europe.

pocketpairs · 27/11/2025 13:23

BerryTwister · 27/11/2025 08:43

There are too many people on this small island. Hopefully the falling birth rate and stricter immigration laws will correct that. Then there’ll be enough housing for everyone and the prices will drop. It’ll take a while though.

Should have finished those GCSEs..

Jellycatspyjamas · 27/11/2025 13:27

pocketpairs · 27/11/2025 13:17

Define achievable..

Achievable for me is being able to buy somewhere to live at a reasonable multiple of your salary.

The starting salary for teachers, nurses, social workers (as an example of a starting professional salary) range between £31-£40k. A multiple of three times salary gives a mortgage of £93k on the lowest of those wages, add in a 10% deposit and the £100k homes currently on Rightmove are easily achievable.

I know it’s not the case in many parts of the UK, which is why I said the feelings of “life being ruined” are very location dependent. If you want a four bed in a prestige area or are trying to buy in Edinburgh of course it looks different, buying in rural communities looks very different again. But there are ways to get on the housing ladder here without ruining your life in the process.

GarlicHound · 27/11/2025 13:37

GentleOlive · 27/11/2025 09:07

House prices started increasing after 1997 when new labour came to power. 11.3million net migration into the country since that time. Thats like adding a city and a half the size of London in just over 25 years. Immigration since 2000 has been higher in this country than upto that time in entire history. Has it benefitted the country. No. It has suppressed wages and caused a housing shortage. So that he government could do a social experiment.

People start crying racist, but numbers are not racist. 28 years later, the country is run down, economic growth non-existent, housing shortage, 10 million working age on benefits and the cultural fabric totally divided and segregated.

It’s too late for this country. We have entered the final stages of terminal decline, as a country.

House prices started increasing after 1997 when new labour came to power.

So, after Labour had been in for all of three years, prices stopped rising? Did the next FOURTEEN years see the Conservatives ensuring house prices didn't rise faster than wages?

11.3million net migration into the country since that time.

Again, you're implying that Bad Boy Blair is responsible for this. Who's been in government "since that time"?

I think all your arguments are daft and you're ignoring a whole slew of things like fiscal policies, a global financial crisis, a pandemic and a gigantic act of economic self-harm. Just picking up on your first two daft statements, though.

Pollyanna87 · 27/11/2025 13:41

k1233 · 27/11/2025 09:04

Mate, I'm not a boomer but I'm sick of the petulant, foot stamping, give it to me now I deserve it generation.

People have worked hard. The depression era and world wars were austre to the extreme. Austerity is not common these days, consumption is.

Boomers didn’t live through the depression or war.

everyoldsock · 27/11/2025 13:42

Jellycatspyjamas · 27/11/2025 11:21

There are no leasehold issues in Scotland, and it’s common to buy a flat as a first step on the ladder. My first purchase was a lovely old tenement flat - solid and spacious and sold easily. And while some will be in more deprived areas many aren’t. The housing market in Scotland is very different.

Quite right about the leasehold difference, although my points about flats losing value more than houses and are harder to sell are still valid I was making. I see that the average price for a house in Glasgow is £194k (and it was you who first mentioned houses, which is what I originally replied to). Looking on Rightmove, I see that to buy an average two bed terrace in an OK area of the city with good travel links into the centre you're looking at £140k - out of reach for many.

Florencesndzebedee · 27/11/2025 13:45

I agree with house price inflation putting homes out of the reach of normal workers, particularly in the South East. However, I often see posts on Mumsnet saying £400k budget , looking for a house in London (obviously a lot of money).People pile in saying not possible or posting mikes away or with a big commute that adds the cost of another mortgage. It is possible in the outer boroughs like Bexley or Bromley (perfectly nice areas). It’s what me and my friends had to do when we were younger (Woolwich for eg). Expectations seemed to have increased with the rise of social media. Young people want the bouji place in Camberwell straight away.

Luckyingame · 27/11/2025 14:06

twiddleit · 27/11/2025 09:56

My DF is in a 4 bed house that he bought. Why should he move, and even if he wanted to the smaller houses around here are tiny. He has a lifetime of memories that he wants to keep, however house builders think that if you’re old you want a minuscule bungalow where you couldn’t swing a cat. As long as he’s happy and can afford it then people can have their opinions and he can ignore them.

Agreed! (With this principle. Not referring to my own father).

Luckyingame · 27/11/2025 14:12

@k1233 Brilliant posts. I'm not a boomer, either.
Neither do I contribute my personal wealth to "luck", but to hard work and self discipline.

Jugendstiel · 27/11/2025 14:22

Ihateboris · 27/11/2025 08:23

The worst thing Thatcher did was the Right to Buy council houses

My dad used to say she sold off the family silver: Sold council houses, privatised utilities and railways. Thick as a plank financial strategy. You can only sell these once then when the money is gone, you don't have the revenue from them ever again. So the nation felt very wealthy for about...eight years.

Abra1t · 27/11/2025 14:23

People who were just born atbthe right time or inherited rich way beyond necessity. Probably caused Brexit and a lot of the hate towards immigrants too.

You're more likely to find people who voted Brexit and hate immigrants in working-class estates. I could take you to estates in my southern market town where many people aren't very nice about immigrants, voted for Brexit and, perhaps because of their lack of education, haven't worked out the correlation between Brexit and then having fewer white immigrants and more brown ones. Their houses would probably cost around £350,000.

Many of my New Labour luvvy friends live in houses costing £800k plus. They voted Remain and are adamant that immigration isn't a problem.They don't live in cramped streets and can afford private GPs and private schools, etc.

Jugendstiel · 27/11/2025 14:24

Florencesndzebedee · 27/11/2025 13:45

I agree with house price inflation putting homes out of the reach of normal workers, particularly in the South East. However, I often see posts on Mumsnet saying £400k budget , looking for a house in London (obviously a lot of money).People pile in saying not possible or posting mikes away or with a big commute that adds the cost of another mortgage. It is possible in the outer boroughs like Bexley or Bromley (perfectly nice areas). It’s what me and my friends had to do when we were younger (Woolwich for eg). Expectations seemed to have increased with the rise of social media. Young people want the bouji place in Camberwell straight away.

I do agree with this. I often look for (relatively) cheap housing in London. It does exist. There's usually a compromise but you can still buy a family-sized home for under 500k or a 3-bed flat for under 400k

Sexentric · 27/11/2025 14:33

k1233 · 27/11/2025 08:56

I'm a big disagreer on this one. What I see these days us people aren't happy with the "starter" option. They want the 5 bed + media room, 5 acre block as their first home. On top of that they deserve to holiday multiple times per year and travel overseas regularly as, you know, life is about experiences and all that.

If sights were adjusted to more realistic goals, things may be more achievable.

People have always needed multiple incomes / jobs to get where they want to be. It has never fallen on their plates.

Maybe ask yourself why some of these people without parental support are able to do what you want to do. What are they doing differently to you? Where are their priorities different to yours.

It all comes down to choices. You can choose to holiday or you can choose to use that money for something else.

Edited

Jesus. You're deluded. Talk.about seeing what you want to see.

CheeseIsMyIdol · 27/11/2025 14:34

MrsSkylerWhite · 27/11/2025 08:08

Homelessness is a dreadful problem.

To blame people of a certain age is entirely unreasonable. People live with the hand they’re dealt. 61 and 67, we voted to remain and welcome immigrants who want to build a life in the UK.
HTH.

This x1000

Cancer treatment today is light years ahead of where it was when I was in my 20s and 30s. Should I begrudge today’s young people for availing themselves of it, because it’s “unfair” that they get life circumstances that we didn’t enjoy? Same with subsidized childcare, more generous benefits, affordable air travel, a booming stock market, vaccines, tech and other major perks of being a young adult in certain recent decades?

Baby Boomers built much of what today’s young adults enjoy and take for granted as standard quality of life. Have some gratitude and respect.

CheeseIsMyIdol · 27/11/2025 14:43

Pollyanna87 · 27/11/2025 13:41

Boomers didn’t live through the depression or war.

There was severe post-war austerity, polio, housing shortage, v high inflation, racial discrimination, and other major social woes in the 50s, 60s and 70s. Lack of decent birth control for much of that (yes the pill came out in early 60s but it wasn’t widespread and early versions had deadly side effects; my aunt died of it in her 30s)

People whining about their lives now have no idea.

Bushmillsbabe · 27/11/2025 14:53

Florencesndzebedee · 27/11/2025 13:45

I agree with house price inflation putting homes out of the reach of normal workers, particularly in the South East. However, I often see posts on Mumsnet saying £400k budget , looking for a house in London (obviously a lot of money).People pile in saying not possible or posting mikes away or with a big commute that adds the cost of another mortgage. It is possible in the outer boroughs like Bexley or Bromley (perfectly nice areas). It’s what me and my friends had to do when we were younger (Woolwich for eg). Expectations seemed to have increased with the rise of social media. Young people want the bouji place in Camberwell straight away.

Yep, it's also buying smart. My brother bought a 2 bed terrace near Woolwich when there were rumours about crossrail but nothing concrete. It doubled in value in the 10 years he had it, he did very little work on it.

Sexentric · 27/11/2025 14:59

CheeseIsMyIdol · 27/11/2025 14:43

There was severe post-war austerity, polio, housing shortage, v high inflation, racial discrimination, and other major social woes in the 50s, 60s and 70s. Lack of decent birth control for much of that (yes the pill came out in early 60s but it wasn’t widespread and early versions had deadly side effects; my aunt died of it in her 30s)

People whining about their lives now have no idea.

And cheap housing, and free university (with grants!) and doctors who would not only see you but even come to your house if you were really ill, and final salary pension schemes.

CheeseIsMyIdol · 27/11/2025 15:11

Sexentric · 27/11/2025 14:59

And cheap housing, and free university (with grants!) and doctors who would not only see you but even come to your house if you were really ill, and final salary pension schemes.

Cheap housing?! There were housing shortages! And massive issues with the mortgage market. https://worksinprogress.co/issue/britains-forgotten-financial-crisis/

Far fewer people attended university. In the 60s it was 4 percent.

To earn a decent pension people had to remain tied down to the same employer for decades on end.

Those of you looking backwards with rose-colored glasses really need to educate yourselves about demographics, economics and history.

chocolatemademefat · 27/11/2025 15:12

I imagine I’m in the age bracket of brexit voting immigrant hating people youre talking about - neither of which apply so wind your neck in. People my age didn’t have it as easy as people think and now we’re made to feel like pariahs - using up all the tax funds for our pensions and having the cheek to live in our own houses.

who knows - maybe another pandemic will come along and wipe another shit load of us out. Would that make you happy - or make life fairer?

Bushmillsbabe · 27/11/2025 19:23

chocolatemademefat · 27/11/2025 15:12

I imagine I’m in the age bracket of brexit voting immigrant hating people youre talking about - neither of which apply so wind your neck in. People my age didn’t have it as easy as people think and now we’re made to feel like pariahs - using up all the tax funds for our pensions and having the cheek to live in our own houses.

who knows - maybe another pandemic will come along and wipe another shit load of us out. Would that make you happy - or make life fairer?

I know. My parents are pensioners and tell me about the crazy high interests, how the unions had such a hold on the country that some days there wasnt enough electricity and they had blackouts. Childcare provision was very limited so going back to work after having children was difficult for many women. Your age group definitely didn't have it easy. I think the age group that did are probably those in mid to late 40's now - could afford property, went to uni before fees came in, but improved equality and opportunity for women. But we also had our children during covid with minimal support, and have seen the impact of that on our young children. Every generation has their positives and negatives and there is far too much "we have it hard compared to X group". As saying goes, comparison is the their of joy.

AntiHop · 27/11/2025 20:07

Bushmillsbabe · 27/11/2025 13:04

745k, 7 years ago. And we have spent around 25k on doing it up. Interest paid on mortgage over that time around 30k, total expenditure around 800k. Not quite sure why you are asking - I'm guessing it's to tell me that I haven't actually earnt the money my house is worth, but am the recipient of good fortune through sheer luck?

Thank you for responding.

DH and I total income is about 90k a year before tax - very average for our area. We own a house worth around 850k with a 250k

So you didn't buy a £745k house on a combined salary of £90k. I'm guessing that at some point a property you owned went up in value hugely. Or you won the lottery. Or inheritance.

I wanted to share my situation in contrast to the example you gave of the school mum. We have one car, 13 years old (don't need to use it much). We've had one foreign holiday in the last 8 years. We're a family of 4 in a very small 2 bed. We spoke to our mortgage broker about borrowing enough to buy a bigger house. He said we could extend our mortgage into our 70s.

Dh and my salary combined is similar to yours. Actually how much we owe on our mortgage is similar to you. Yet there's zero chance we own a house worth £850k.

dottiehens · 27/11/2025 20:35

twiddleit · 27/11/2025 09:56

My DF is in a 4 bed house that he bought. Why should he move, and even if he wanted to the smaller houses around here are tiny. He has a lifetime of memories that he wants to keep, however house builders think that if you’re old you want a minuscule bungalow where you couldn’t swing a cat. As long as he’s happy and can afford it then people can have their opinions and he can ignore them.

Of course your dad doesn’t have to move if he doesn’t want to . This is just people who feel entitled to dictate their left views onto others. At the same time I know of a cleaner that occupied a 3 bed council flat given to her decades ago. She lives by herself as kids are back to where they come from. Most of her earnings cash in hand are sent abroad to her family.Two houses in her country of origin. Good for her but come on. It is a joke what she gives back to the UK.

MrsSkylerWhite · 28/11/2025 09:12

Kendodd · 27/11/2025 08:29

Actually I do blame people in my own age cohort ie older.
We're the ones under occupying three and four bed houses, both council and private. And more importantly, we're the ones objecting to building and using our vote to stop it.

We’re not. Already downsized. More house building the better, far as we’re concerned. Never tried to stop anything.

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