Don't want to go to a party or any other social gathering for that matter.What to say ?

[Motheroffive999]

Am I being unreasonable?
I am in my 50s , I am getting very antisocial in my middle age.
I work all week and look forward to the weekends , where I relax , do my own thing and only speak to my husband.
I have been invited to a party on Sunday afternoon.
The thought of having my weekend spoilt is really stressing me out.
Lots of people are going and are looking forward to it .
What is wrong with me , why don't I want to go ?
Why is everyone else so enthusiastic about going ?
I don't like going out / shopping or any pre arranged events .
I just walk my dog and enjoy my own company .

All my friends know I don’t do evenings or parties. Meeting up for a coffee / walk / lunch - yes please! Party? No thanks. I make an exception for weddings and other special occasions. I’m 54 but it’s been true since I had kids.

I can’t see you being the life and soul of the party OP and missed much on the basis of your posts.

i think just saying that you have a clash that date should do the trick

and be honest… how many invitations are you really contending with here?

I don’t really understand why its such a big drama: if you don’t want to go just say no?

I find this performative introversion really irritating. No one is particularly interested in whether or not you like going out. Do ir or don’t do it. It doesn’t make you more interesting that you don’t want to go out.

(Sorry if I sound grumpy. I’m so tired of reading about how much people dislike being with and spending time with other people.)

i agree

Not going to parties is one thing. Neither do I.
But never going out at all seems peculiar to MN.

I’m probably nearly 20-odd years older than you OP and I cheerfully decline virtually all invitations because I am deaf and it’s a form of torture being in a noisy environment.
I’m perfectly happy with my own company, DH is welcome to go if he wants to (and usually does)