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To keep our council property when we can technically buy?

236 replies

HungaryForLove · 26/11/2025 17:25

Hi all,

My partner and I are TTC and thinking about our future. Ideally, after I have a baby I only want to work maximum 2 days weekly so I can be around for our kids, and also save on childcare costs. Partner earns about £35k/year before tax/pension, and we have around £16k in savings. We wouldn’t be claiming UC, just child benefit.

We currently live in a council house that my partner grew up in — he inherited it when his mum moved abroad. It’s a 3-bedroom house. Rent is £480/month. The estate is fine, some people are bit rough around the edges but they never give us any trouble and there’s actually a nice community. I regularly walk to the local shop at night and never feel unsafe. It’s full of young families.

The alternative is buying a 3-bedroom house (we need 3 bed as want 2 DC and I often WFH), which seems to start around £160,000 here and with the 10% deposit of £16,000 our savings would go back down to £0 with no buffer for house maintenance, car issues, maternity leave etc. Also with a 30-year mortgage (we’d need 30 years to be able to afford the monthly payments) at 4.35% interest, I’d realistically need to work 4–5 days a week just to cover costs. I am currently only earning £26,000 full-time. Working so many days would mean barely seeing our kids and only taking home less than £1000 anyway after childcare, and that’s with taking into account the 30 free hours as you still end up paying hundreds a month anyway (I know this from my sister who uses our local nursery 4 days a week for her son who is soon changing to 2 days as she will pay nothing then).

If we stay in the council house, we could comfortably manage on one full-time income and one very part-time income and retain over £10,000 in savings (that would otherwise go on house deposit) to get us through maternity leaves etc, and the a portion of the money we’d otherwise spend on mortgage interest we would invest. Even considering rent going up a few percent per year, we’d still be much more comfortable.

So, AIBU for wanting to stay put in our inherited council house for now, even though we could technically afford to buy? I’m not saying we would stay forever but at least until the expensive childcare years are over, and maybe by then mortgage rates will have become more reasonable and I could go back to working full-time and we’d only be paying wrap-around care.

I do appreciate we are in a fortunate position to be even able to make this choice. Me and DP did grow up in severe poverty, I had alcoholic gambling addict parents and DP is originally from a very deprived country which his DM has moved back to and neither of us will inherit anything. Just to add context.

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AInightingale · 26/11/2025 17:27

Don't understand how your partner 'inherited' a council house as a single man? Was this a long time ago?

HungaryForLove · 26/11/2025 17:28

AInightingale · 26/11/2025 17:27

Don't understand how your partner 'inherited' a council house as a single man? Was this a long time ago?

His mum was disabled and on a very low-income and he joined the tenancy as soon as he was old enough and paid the majority of the rent. When she moved home to Eastern Europe he told the council and expected to be kicked out but they let him stay so long as he continued to pay the rent.

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AutumnLeavesandKnittedJumpers · 26/11/2025 17:29

Of course you are. Why should taxpayers subsidise your family?

CatherinedeBourgh · 26/11/2025 17:29

Of course it makes sense to stay. You have a guaranteed roof over your head at a lower price than if you owned, and aren't responsible for any unexpected maintenance costs.

You can always save up any spare cash and buy once your dc are in school.

WiggyWiggyImGettingJiggy · 26/11/2025 17:30

Yanbu, I would want to pretty much have to have enough to buy a house outright before I gave up my council property.

Createausername1970 · 26/11/2025 17:30

In your shoes I would stay put and review again once any kids were school age and past the nursery expenses.

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 26/11/2025 17:32

I think staying put is the best thing for your family, which is the most important thing. Lots of people will come to tell you that you're robbing the tax payer or whatever, but the only valid concern for you is what is best for your family and staying in a secure, cheap and suitable home is what is best for everyone.

Poms · 26/11/2025 17:32

Rage bait bullshit

amiadickhead · 26/11/2025 17:32

Giving up a council property in this climate is mindless. Though I'm not convinced by some of the trigger words you've dropped in 😉

Dartmoorcheffy · 26/11/2025 17:32

I would stay, but continue to save for the future too.

Saz12 · 26/11/2025 17:32

It's not really fair to do that - you're choosing to work 2 days and have 2 children, the council house could go to someone who has no choices.

IMO, you should save enough so when you buy you have a financial cushion for a rainy day, and look to work full time - your career andbtgerefore your future choices will be really hampered by spending several years doing only 2 days a week.

CatherinedeBourgh · 26/11/2025 17:33

AutumnLeavesandKnittedJumpers · 26/11/2025 17:29

Of course you are. Why should taxpayers subsidise your family?

They are paying rent. I very much doubt the council are losing money on this tenancy, so they are not being subsidised.

AInightingale · 26/11/2025 17:33

HungaryForLove · 26/11/2025 17:28

His mum was disabled and on a very low-income and he joined the tenancy as soon as he was old enough and paid the majority of the rent. When she moved home to Eastern Europe he told the council and expected to be kicked out but they let him stay so long as he continued to pay the rent.

Edited

Oh ok. It's just that I've heard of people being forced to move in his circumstances. I'd stay put if I were you.

x2boys · 26/11/2025 17:34

HungaryForLove · 26/11/2025 17:25

Hi all,

My partner and I are TTC and thinking about our future. Ideally, after I have a baby I only want to work maximum 2 days weekly so I can be around for our kids, and also save on childcare costs. Partner earns about £35k/year before tax/pension, and we have around £16k in savings. We wouldn’t be claiming UC, just child benefit.

We currently live in a council house that my partner grew up in — he inherited it when his mum moved abroad. It’s a 3-bedroom house. Rent is £480/month. The estate is fine, some people are bit rough around the edges but they never give us any trouble and there’s actually a nice community. I regularly walk to the local shop at night and never feel unsafe. It’s full of young families.

The alternative is buying a 3-bedroom house (we need 3 bed as want 2 DC and I often WFH), which seems to start around £160,000 here and with the 10% deposit of £16,000 our savings would go back down to £0 with no buffer for house maintenance, car issues, maternity leave etc. Also with a 30-year mortgage (we’d need 30 years to be able to afford the monthly payments) at 4.35% interest, I’d realistically need to work 4–5 days a week just to cover costs. I am currently only earning £26,000 full-time. Working so many days would mean barely seeing our kids and only taking home less than £1000 anyway after childcare, and that’s with taking into account the 30 free hours as you still end up paying hundreds a month anyway (I know this from my sister who uses our local nursery 4 days a week for her son who is soon changing to 2 days as she will pay nothing then).

If we stay in the council house, we could comfortably manage on one full-time income and one very part-time income and retain over £10,000 in savings (that would otherwise go on house deposit) to get us through maternity leaves etc, and the a portion of the money we’d otherwise spend on mortgage interest we would invest. Even considering rent going up a few percent per year, we’d still be much more comfortable.

So, AIBU for wanting to stay put in our inherited council house for now, even though we could technically afford to buy? I’m not saying we would stay forever but at least until the expensive childcare years are over, and maybe by then mortgage rates will have become more reasonable and I could go back to working full-time and we’d only be paying wrap-around care.

I do appreciate we are in a fortunate position to be even able to make this choice. Me and DP did grow up in severe poverty, I had alcoholic gambling addict parents and DP is originally from a very deprived country which his DM has moved back to and neither of us will inherit anything. Just to add context.

Is it a council or housing association?
Have you looked into right to buy or right to aquire?

AutumnLeavesandKnittedJumpers · 26/11/2025 17:34

CatherinedeBourgh · 26/11/2025 17:33

They are paying rent. I very much doubt the council are losing money on this tenancy, so they are not being subsidised.

No doubt below market rent.

they expect the taxpayer to subsidise their savings.

vodkaredbullgirl · 26/11/2025 17:34

🤔

NeverDropYourMooncup · 26/11/2025 17:35

Why not find out whether you can buy the property?

Andregroup · 26/11/2025 17:35

Stay put. It's a better deal than you will ever get by buying.

HungaryForLove · 26/11/2025 17:35

AutumnLeavesandKnittedJumpers · 26/11/2025 17:29

Of course you are. Why should taxpayers subsidise your family?

I have considered this. The way I see it though is that the reduced rent is what allows many people to otherwise support themselves and stay off needing further benefits. There’s loads of people in council housing who can technically afford to buy or private rent but if you kick them out of the council housing they will end up needing support in other ways in the future as they could only afford mortgage/private rent by the skin of their teeth. If we were to buy now we’d end up with no savings or safety buffer, all it would take is for DP to have an accident at work and become disabled for us to be thrown back under the poverty line and needing UC, or would only take the car or boiler breaking down for us to end up needing a £5000 loan which would then spiral.

we have no intention of ever claiming housing benefit.

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titchy · 26/11/2025 17:35

AutumnLeavesandKnittedJumpers · 26/11/2025 17:29

Of course you are. Why should taxpayers subsidise your family?

How is the tax payer subsiding? Councils charge market rent which they are paying and they’re not claiming benefits. Confused

Periperi2025 · 26/11/2025 17:35

I think if i was you I'd wait until the kids are both in school full time, try saving as much as you can in the meantime for a bigger budget/ buffer, then buy later. You don't want to find yourself struggling financially with young kids, then having to return to work full time before they are in school and struggling financially to afford childcare.

WiggyWiggyImGettingJiggy · 26/11/2025 17:36

AutumnLeavesandKnittedJumpers · 26/11/2025 17:34

No doubt below market rent.

they expect the taxpayer to subsidise their savings.

How much tax do you pay that you think you're single handedly subsidising everyone and getting all ragey about it on MN?

Council houses aren't subsidised anyway.

HungaryForLove · 26/11/2025 17:37

Periperi2025 · 26/11/2025 17:35

I think if i was you I'd wait until the kids are both in school full time, try saving as much as you can in the meantime for a bigger budget/ buffer, then buy later. You don't want to find yourself struggling financially with young kids, then having to return to work full time before they are in school and struggling financially to afford childcare.

yes exactly.

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CatherinedeBourgh · 26/11/2025 17:38

AutumnLeavesandKnittedJumpers · 26/11/2025 17:34

No doubt below market rent.

they expect the taxpayer to subsidise their savings.

That house would not be let at market rates to someone else, though, would it? So that difference in rent would not go back to the tax payer in any way.

I personally think that the main way out of the mess this country is in is to have a whole load more council housing, so that people can have secure housing situations and not need universal credit and so on. In places like Singapore, a large majority of the population live in government subsidised housing.

Daphnedot · 26/11/2025 17:39

Have you look af the RTB on the property?