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To keep our council property when we can technically buy?

236 replies

HungaryForLove · 26/11/2025 17:25

Hi all,

My partner and I are TTC and thinking about our future. Ideally, after I have a baby I only want to work maximum 2 days weekly so I can be around for our kids, and also save on childcare costs. Partner earns about £35k/year before tax/pension, and we have around £16k in savings. We wouldn’t be claiming UC, just child benefit.

We currently live in a council house that my partner grew up in — he inherited it when his mum moved abroad. It’s a 3-bedroom house. Rent is £480/month. The estate is fine, some people are bit rough around the edges but they never give us any trouble and there’s actually a nice community. I regularly walk to the local shop at night and never feel unsafe. It’s full of young families.

The alternative is buying a 3-bedroom house (we need 3 bed as want 2 DC and I often WFH), which seems to start around £160,000 here and with the 10% deposit of £16,000 our savings would go back down to £0 with no buffer for house maintenance, car issues, maternity leave etc. Also with a 30-year mortgage (we’d need 30 years to be able to afford the monthly payments) at 4.35% interest, I’d realistically need to work 4–5 days a week just to cover costs. I am currently only earning £26,000 full-time. Working so many days would mean barely seeing our kids and only taking home less than £1000 anyway after childcare, and that’s with taking into account the 30 free hours as you still end up paying hundreds a month anyway (I know this from my sister who uses our local nursery 4 days a week for her son who is soon changing to 2 days as she will pay nothing then).

If we stay in the council house, we could comfortably manage on one full-time income and one very part-time income and retain over £10,000 in savings (that would otherwise go on house deposit) to get us through maternity leaves etc, and the a portion of the money we’d otherwise spend on mortgage interest we would invest. Even considering rent going up a few percent per year, we’d still be much more comfortable.

So, AIBU for wanting to stay put in our inherited council house for now, even though we could technically afford to buy? I’m not saying we would stay forever but at least until the expensive childcare years are over, and maybe by then mortgage rates will have become more reasonable and I could go back to working full-time and we’d only be paying wrap-around care.

I do appreciate we are in a fortunate position to be even able to make this choice. Me and DP did grow up in severe poverty, I had alcoholic gambling addict parents and DP is originally from a very deprived country which his DM has moved back to and neither of us will inherit anything. Just to add context.

OP posts:
AInightingale · 26/11/2025 17:40

Years ago most people in council houses were working people. They were built to lift people out of the private rental market, from being exploited by landlords, and now we're back there. Buying is out of most people's league, yet again.

WiddlinDiddlin · 26/11/2025 17:42

Madness to move now, stay put until you can afford to move.

Ignore people twatting on about council houses being free/subsidised/blah blah etc, they're not, and it isn't your fault that the private rental sector and mortgage industry has massively inflated house prices and private rents.

YellowGuido · 26/11/2025 17:44

Are the council aware you are living there/ are you now on the tenancy?

HungaryForLove · 26/11/2025 17:44

YellowGuido · 26/11/2025 17:44

Are the council aware you are living there/ are you now on the tenancy?

Yes we told them straight away. They contacted us to advise we were no longer entitled to the council tax discount and that was it. All correspondence regarding the property is address to both of us.

whether the council is BU to let us stay is another story really, but they have never given any indication that they don’t want us.

OP posts:
Newgirls · 26/11/2025 17:47

The positives for moving are: moving to an even nicer area. Better schools? More space? Being able to make money from property by renovating etc

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 26/11/2025 17:48

CatherinedeBourgh · 26/11/2025 17:33

They are paying rent. I very much doubt the council are losing money on this tenancy, so they are not being subsidised.

I dare say private rents locally are considerably more, so that’s what posters mean by being ‘subsidised’.

YellowGuido · 26/11/2025 17:48

HungaryForLove · 26/11/2025 17:44

Yes we told them straight away. They contacted us to advise we were no longer entitled to the council tax discount and that was it. All correspondence regarding the property is address to both of us.

whether the council is BU to let us stay is another story really, but they have never given any indication that they don’t want us.

Edited

In which case, they are obviously happy to have you as tenants and feel you qualify to live there, so you may as well make the most of it whilst you build yourselves up for the future - it would seem mad not to!

HungaryForLove · 26/11/2025 17:48

Newgirls · 26/11/2025 17:47

The positives for moving are: moving to an even nicer area. Better schools? More space? Being able to make money from property by renovating etc

With the deposit we currently have we could only afford the same area or worse areas which is also a big reason we are considering staying in the council house for a few more years and saving. Also our entire savings would be the deposit, we would have no buffer.

OP posts:
breezyyy · 26/11/2025 17:51

CatherinedeBourgh · 26/11/2025 17:33

They are paying rent. I very much doubt the council are losing money on this tenancy, so they are not being subsidised.

But they get free kitchens and stuff!

RaininSummer · 26/11/2025 17:52

It makes sense for you financially but I hope your family know how very lucky they are.

HelpMySocksAreTouchingMe · 26/11/2025 17:53

OP you should absolutely stay there a few more years and build your savings up to buy at a point in the future.

Imisscoffee2021 · 26/11/2025 17:53

Wow 160k is nothing, I wish I could get a 3 bed house for that.

Serencwtch · 26/11/2025 17:57

AutumnLeavesandKnittedJumpers · 26/11/2025 17:29

Of course you are. Why should taxpayers subsidise your family?

The tax payer doesn't subsidize council housing. They are paying the rent themselves & not through benefits.
The only difference between a council rented & private rented property is the big profit the private landlord makes.

TheendofmrY · 26/11/2025 17:59

Oh here we go with all the nonsense about subsidised by taxpayers etc etc. It costs me nothing as a taxpayer for you to be in more affordable housing. It’s just that the council or the housing association is charging you less than a private landlord. You have every right to stay there and if that’s what works best for your (future) family you should.

These people should be angry that we don’t have enough social housing so we are having to spend taxpayers money on paying private landlords to pay the banks, not that some people pay less because they’re in social rented places. They’re the only ones that benefit from this shitshow of a housing crisis we’re in.

cestlavielife · 26/11/2025 17:59

Just stay where you are
You are in a fortunate position

jessycake · 26/11/2025 17:59

I would just stay unless you have a significantly bigger deposit and very secure income . I wouldn’t worry about what others think .

Vaxtable · 26/11/2025 18:00

AutumnLeavesandKnittedJumpers · 26/11/2025 17:29

Of course you are. Why should taxpayers subsidise your family?

Get away with you, They are tax payers as well

Many people live in council houses who earn far more, should there be a rule that when you hit £xx pa salary you give up your tenancy?

Op stay where you are

PeonyPatch · 26/11/2025 18:02

Poms · 26/11/2025 17:32

Rage bait bullshit

This.

WTF is this thread. yabvu expecting us tax payers to subsidise YOUR family. Pay your own damn way.

HungaryForLove · 26/11/2025 18:03

PeonyPatch · 26/11/2025 18:02

This.

WTF is this thread. yabvu expecting us tax payers to subsidise YOUR family. Pay your own damn way.

We’re both full-time working tax payers and have been for years, so you can forget the “us versus you” attitude. I work in healthcare and my partner works an essential job in the border force

OP posts:
youalright · 26/11/2025 18:03

I'd be telling your partner to stay put. You I'm not so sure if you split up are you going to be left with nothing.? If you had a mortgage both of your names would be on it, it wouldn't be his house.

chipsandpeas · 26/11/2025 18:03

OP are you actually on the tenancy?

Sunshineandrainbow · 26/11/2025 18:04

cestlavielife · 26/11/2025 17:59

Just stay where you are
You are in a fortunate position

The unreasonable bit is the fact he was allowed to stay (inherit the tenancy) on his own in a 3 bedroom family house.

Do what you feel is right for you

chipsandpeas · 26/11/2025 18:04

youalright · 26/11/2025 18:03

I'd be telling your partner to stay put. You I'm not so sure if you split up are you going to be left with nothing.? If you had a mortgage both of your names would be on it, it wouldn't be his house.

think we are thinking along same lines

PeonyPatch · 26/11/2025 18:05

HungaryForLove · 26/11/2025 18:03

We’re both full-time working tax payers and have been for years, so you can forget the “us versus you” attitude. I work in healthcare and my partner works an essential job in the border force

Edited

I don’t really care, sounds like you’re exploiting the system love.

WiggyWiggyImGettingJiggy · 26/11/2025 18:06

PeonyPatch · 26/11/2025 18:05

I don’t really care, sounds like you’re exploiting the system love.

How is op expoilting the system by living in a home she is on the tenancy for and paying rent?