Jumping to conclusions on potentially bitchy behaviour?

[Coloursyrue]

Sorry to use the word bitchy, I just actually couldn’t think of another word.

I was friends with three women, I was invited into the group by one of them. Years passed and I did things with them individually and as a group. I honestly thought I was friends with the other two.

Main friend decided she didn’t want to be my friend anymore (never said anything to me). I later asked one of the other two if she wanted to meet for dinner (she lives 3 hours away I was in her city for work) and she made an excuse.

They all went out and posted lots of photos together. I just didn’t react. I felt it was a shame that none could say if there was a problem, or if I’d done something to upset them, as I’d at least like to apologise but I accepted you don’t always get an explanation. in life.

I’ve moved on, it’s been a few months, I’m living my life, I have other friends around me. I then noticed a missed call from one of other two. I just text saying “sorry I’ve just seen this” - she quickly said “my phones been a nightmare and keeps randomly calling people”

I just don’t believe it … Aibu? Am I reading too much into this? I don’t think they care about losing my friendship from how they’ve acted but … I think sometimes not getting a reaction annoys people?

Why couldn't it be a phone glitch.
A few weeks ago I had a set of missed phone calls from a friend. I was a bit surprised as I knew she was at work and she had to leave her phone in a locker.
Turned out her phone had a lovely time phoning lots of people numerous times.
It happened again yesterday.
It's definitely not anything suspicious.

Are you her? Weird how people ok here state things as fact when they actually Have no way of knowing.

I obviously started this thread to discuss the incident of the missed call. I have very much moved on from that group.

But you’ve clearly constructed a narrative linking the possible pocket dial to someone in the group being annoyed you didn’t react to photos on SM of the others socialising without you. You’ve resisted any suggestions that this woman didn’t consciously phone you for some unpleasant reason, that it was a simple tech glitch.

It doesn’t sound as if you’ve moved on. You don’t seem to want to communicate with any of your former friends, despite having no idea why they seem to have withdrawn, but you’re posting on the internet about it.

I've had a few accidental calls from friends. Just block these they aren't friends. You're giving them too much headspace. You say you've moved on but you haven't.

I know it's weird when supposed friends ghost you. So rude. But they don't deserve your time or thoughts.

People posting are trying to help but you sound like you feel attacked.

Obviously no, I'm not her. But I've unintentionally misdialed people more times that I care to admit, including someone I'd not been in contact with for over a year.

It happens all the time, it's the most plausible explanation and it's what the woman herself said happened.

I don't see why you are constructing a "bitchy" narrative around it. Why manufacture drama?

You may have 'moved on' from the group, in that you're no longer a part of it. But you clearly havent moved on from what happened/how it happened

What don't you believe, that it was a pocket dial? You're over thinking it, no one is deliberately miss calling you.

Siri makes randoms on my phone quite often.

Given you’ve not heard anything from them in months I’m not sure why you’re so convinced that it couldn’t possibly be a pocket dial.

To be honest from the tone of your posts, it does shed some light on why your ex friends felt like they couldn’t tell you if there was a problem.

How do you know main friend has fallen out you?

Not sure im following why youre asking AIBU?

But you’ve stated as fact that it wasn’t a pocket dial? How do you know?

Your first mistake was sending a text to say sorry you'd only just seen the missed call

Sorry to use the word bitchy, I just actually couldn’t think of another word.

Dickish

How old are you and these women?

personally I would block both and leave it at that.

Just say: "No worries Gertrude. Probably best you delete my number to avoid it happening again. Cheers. Coloursyrue."
Non committal. To the point. Then block and move on.
Life is way too short for these stupid school playground antics. Focus on your real friendships.

This is what I was wondering. OP you’re coming across as very snippy on this thread, not sure if that’s deliberate but if you do the same in real life, it may put people off you.

Move on from them friendships fizzle out.
Be around those who make effort to be around you .. forget them x

Yes this

She accidentally bum dialled you. So that's all there is to it. She didn't call you on purpose.

It's a shame they've decided to end their friendship with you. But it's good you've moved on. Just delete their numbers.

If you behave in real life how you’ve behaved in this thread, I completely understand why they’ve unfriended you

OP did it come through as a WhatsApp call by any chance?

I’m sorry you’ve been experiencing this. I find the term “let them” very helpful - check out Mel Robbins’ podcast/book xx

I believe it was an accident. This has happened to me before when my phone has been on its way out. It's not even a pocket dial, the screen has jumped and got stuck on a random contact (not even an 'A' or 'B' at the top of the list). Luckily for me it was only ever my BIL and my best friend.

I've twice accidentally called people whose name begins with A. Possibly 3 times.

I'm totally confused. How do you know it wasn't a pocket dial? What do you think actually happened? Why do you think she called you?

You're very snippy, @Coloursyrue

Yes, you're jumping to conclusions. She called you by mistake

You're not over the ex friendships. You text her after mistake call and then you start a thread about it. Overkill for someone who's over it

You're still hung up on the situation. And tbh I don't blame you. Its unpleasant being ghosted and not knowing why

However it's happened. Let it go. Block them