People older than 35; did your dad go to school parent’s evenings?

[Farrings]

I asked my parents to look after our daughters for an hour (they’re primary age) so DH and I could both go to parents evening.

Both kids are at the same school so it’s no bother, and we care equally about their education, so we both want to go.

My dad (born 1943) asked ‘What’s parents evening?!’ He denied any knowledge of the concept, and said he’d never been to one. He has 3 kids who were all in school in the 90’s/early 2000’s.

To be fair, I’m not sure my mum went to many either… they’re not great with supporting formal education…but I was still surprised to hear my Dad say he didn’t even know what one was!

Then I thought, was this normal for the time maybe?

if you’re over 35, please vote -

YANBU - ‘My dad didn’t go to parents evenings either, (or maybe like, one time)!’

YABU - My dad DID GO! Or a few times anyway!

(Obviously whether or not Mum’s went is a whole other question, I will have to save that for another vote)

P.S This is Just for fun! X

The one time my father turned up at a school event, a teacher assumed he was my stepfather as he didn't think I had a dad. Lol awkward!

My dad was born 1930.

I remember him going to the last couple of primary ones & all 2ndry.

@Goldongold I don’t think my dad even did that. Not once.

My Dad never went. But he worked onsite full time and mum was a SAHM. It wouldn’t have made any sense for him to leave and get to school at 4pm for something mum could tell him later on.
My own DH missed parents evening this year as he couldn’t get away from work!

I am 48. You're not being unreasonable but I know my dad only went to a few because he was often at work. Don't think he went to any after primary school! My husband has only been to one of our son's (he's 11) because he doesn't get home in time.

Yes my dad went to my parents evenings

He might have missed a few but only due to work commitments.

my husband goes to our children’s and his dad went to his along with his mum

My Dad was born in 1942 and yes, he went to parents’ evenings. Both my parents did.

Cant remember primary school - but for one of them my Dad was the Head!

Secondary school - they both went. In those days (69-76) pupils didn’t go.

When they got back words were sometimes exchanged.

My own children - we both went to primary school ones unless they were in the day time.

Secondary school - just my wife as I was already there. As they didn’t do my subject we never all met round a table.

My parents both did shift work so whoever was available would go. My dad was birn the same year as yours. This actually did tend to be my dad more than my mum (she was a nurse). They would both go if they were available but I was the youngest so no young children at home.

I don't think they would arrange childcare for them both to go. To be honest we wouldn't either. We've always thought one can go and the other can feed back.

I am 55 and both my parents went to parents evening in primary & secondary for me & sister, friends fathers also went as far as. I recall.

I always went for my own kids, my own parents usually went, but just one, depending on shift pattern.

My dad was born in the ‘40s and he went to multiple parents’ evenings because my mum worked in the evenings. He came back with detailed reports. Clearly took notes. He really values education, though, and wanted to hear how we were getting on.

My dad was born in 1947 - he came to secondary school parent's evening's but mum had moved out by then, doubt he came to primary as he was at work. Not sure if even mum came to primary ones though! No memory of them 😊

No. Neither did my SM (I was brought up by them as my mum had died).

I'm 35. Yes, my dad always came. My parents were divorced and it was always a bit exciting because I'd get to spend time with both together.

I can totally believe it. Someone should do a psychological study on the mindset of nuns as a lot of them were strict, self-righteous and cruel. I did wonder if they take all that abstinence, imposed self-control, and depriving themselves out on others.

Occasionally I've met women with obsessive and exacting EDs or rabid self-righteous feminists who've reminded me of the nuns.

Clearly Martyrdom can make you very mean.

Dad was born late 1920s and went to parents evenings and PTA meetings -probably because mum didn't drive but he enjoyed hearing how we were doing

No parents evening no school play or concerts. Had problems remembering our names

My Dad went to every single one.My Mum did some.

No he didn’t but separated when I was infant school age. I think my mum missed a fair few of mine too! Was the 80s

Yes Dad went.

I’m 46 I don’t remember any at primary school but there definitely were at secondary school. My mum went, my dad never did.

Sometimes my dad was away for work so he might have missed a few but if he was there then both parents always went. I’m 39; dad born 1959.

My dad went. My siblings and I were born in the 1960s. He was born in the 1920s

Dad born 1950. parents owned a restaurant. They shared a role so if one was working the other looked after the kids. My mum went, but my dad’s English was not great.

if they fell on a day the restaurant was closed both would go. But my dad was never hands on. Realised more to do with my mums style than what he wanted