To allow my daughter to go to the sleepover???

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DD is 9. For context, she is confident and assertive. She is also extrovert and makes friends very easily.

We relocated a year ago, and DD’s friends have this year, started having birthday sleepovers.

I’m a teaching assistant in the school, so I know the other children pretty well and see the families.

The last sleepover was with a parent I know relatively well, so that was fine. This next one, is the same group of children, but with a parent I know less well. DD is so excited to go, and the mum seems nice. Also, I know she is a friend of someone I know well.

I suppose I’m just overthinking, but I’m wondering if I’m being mad to let her go?

The school is in a lovely area, with a fantastic group of parents and families. Everyone has been so welcoming to us. I just don’t know this mum particularly well. WWYD?

Put “Find My” or “Life 360” on her phone so you can track her, tell her to check in once and let her enjoy being kid

Absolutely not. We have a blanket rule on no sleepovers. My DD is 9 in a few weeks. She was invited to her first sleep over earlier this year. I said no but she could go for a play date if that was an option. Which worked fine for everyone.
The mum I knew from school pick up chats but no more than that at the time. She’s a nice woman but I have no idea what goes on in their home. My dd also wouldn’t have been comfortable anyway as she is very much a home girl.
not allowing sleepovers isn’t teaching kids not to trust people it’s about protecting our kids when they’re too young to advocate for themselves. Id rather an awkward no now than my child have do deal with any potential trauma if something did happen.
Statistics show csa happens by people we know, not random people in the street.

So, my DD has had sleepovers when she was younger and although nothing sinister happened, I do regret letting her because it is still a risk to take. She hasn't slept our for years and I doubt I'll let her until she's a teen now

Last year my sisters boyfriend got sent to prison for molesting his nieces and nephews when he was a teenager snd they were young children. They would go for sleepovers at grandma's house ( his mum, their grandma ) and he would entice them into his attic bedroom. They reported him when they were adults.

My DD's best friend, on face value her parents look really decent, both teachers. But their DD has told my DD that her dad gets drunk and really angry and starts punching walls...... my dog growled and all his fur stood on edge the only time he met this man, I should of took note of that, even though he isn't a predator ( that I know of ) it would be a risk sending my DD to a man's house who can't control his anger

Your poor children

Gosh either I’m a neglectful parent but it wouldn’t occur to me not to let her go!

I was similar with my child. I didn't let him go and I regret that choice. They are a nice couple and because I didn't know then overly well and I was overprotective I said no. That affected the friendship as other children were invited and went and my child was then excluded from future play dates. He blames me to this day.

What time is this happening? Is she overtired? Is it just a flash of something that she sees. Sometimes the rods in our eyes can cause this sort of thing. Can also cause a flash of darkness, like a power surge does. It's something to do with the long and short rods meeting briefly.

Sorry, wrong thread.

I wouldn't allow my child to attend sleepovers. Once she's old enough to stand up for herself and either get herself home if she needs to, then yes- in her late teens! Sleepovers are completely unnecessary imo