To think your wedding is for you, your spouse and the people there, not for 24 social media posts?

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Of course weddings are special. Of course you’ll want to post some photos. But I’ve seen a few people lately post dozens of carefully staged reels, videos, carousels, speeches, crying shots, slow-mo cake cuts… for weeks after the wedding.

At some point, it stops feeling like sharing a memory and starts feeling like milking it for validation. Especially when it’s clearly the most attention they’ve ever had and you can feel how hard they’re clinging to it.

Your wedding is for you, your spouse and the people actually there. Saving a few great clips for an anniversary post? Smart. Reliving the wedding every day for a month on Instagram? Bit much.

AIBU to think if your wedding is the only time you’re ever felt truly seen… that’s not a social media moment, that’s a self-worth issue?

It was the best day of both of our lives, we relive it all the time e,mim currently editing all the photos and videos 9 months later.....if you havent had that feeling, I understand that you won't understand

Can't see what the big deal is personally you aren't forced to look at it.

You are correct. A lot of people seem prioritised with the photos for social media it must add a lot of stress i imagine.

You put what you want on your social media, other people put they want on their social media. You can choose if you engage with it or not but you don’t get to decide what they do, and getting all judgy about it is unnecessary.

A guy I work with has a full social media schedule of posts, for everything from the stag do to the day before to the morning of…

We are now on the separate posts thanking every individual member of the bridal party.

Mate, nobody gives a single shit that you got married. Unfollow….

I think there's huge pressure to post great photos on social media & if you're part of a friendship group that does this then of course you'll want to look good too.
I think its a case of 'you do you' here.
I'm ancient but I'm so glad social media wasn't a thing when I got married because I know I would've felt pressured by it.

That's always going to be an issue with having randoms as friends and people who you don't wish well and want to share their wedding/holiday etc.
I'm enjoying seeing a cruise one of my FB friends is on. My DD was a bridesmaid, the Bride had been badly bullied through school and her parents are critical. It was lovely to see how happy she was, it was an abroad wedding and a three day celebration. Have a SM clear out.

My dh is a wedding photographer and the new in thing is to hire a content creator as well as a photographer.

I mean, everything on Insta is a bunch of shite at the end of the day. Why not just post your stuff & enjoy it? Folk like sharing.

I would hide people who posted like that tbh so you are choosing to see their over the top wedding spam.

Oh right yeah, it’s my fault and not that some people become very self-obsessed when they get married 😂😂

The way you view the world and what you choose to look at, is your choice, yes

Right…and if you got to the end of my post you would see that I unfollowed him. What’s the problem?

Meh, if I was spending thousands on a wedding and was looking my best instead of my usual homeless self I would be tempted to milk it for all its worth on SM too.

SM is literally there for sharing your life and getting a bit of attention, not sure why so many people begrudge it.

WOW.

congratulations on your wedding. surely though, unless this is a joke reply, you understand that after nine months nobody else shares this feeling.

It does seem unusual to relive something all the time. Focus on the future, not the past.

Its not a joke, im dead serious, but I understand how you would feel that way.
We are focused on the future, got huge plans in motion, moving countries, and other big stuff.
We still relive that day all the time xx
As an aside, if its at all relevant, we did not have an Instagram worthy wedding. The decorating was done by kids, us, grannies and it showed. I loved it

You do, that’s lovely. But the OP is talking about people who expect others to and who share it with everyone constantly

Its not a joke, im dead serious, but I understand how you would feel that way.
We are focused on tbe future, got huge plans in motion, moving countries, and other big stuff.
We still relive that day all the time xx

I’m not that interested but it’s completely harmless. Just scroll past. There may be some people that missed the wedding and would like to see the outfits etc even if they are a bit staged.

It's not just weddings, though. We were in Japan earlier this year & most people weren't exploring, they were taking videos and posing for photos, multiple takes and poses, blocking everyone else's access or walking straight into your photo. I got so sick of it I told someone to move, there were other people waiting. They then post to social media because they think people care.

I don't think they actually explore the place, just photos & move on. It seems that's where people get their fulfillment - likes, not experience.

SM wasn't so much of a huge thing when I got married so I didn't/couldn't spam people with photos on Insta, but it was the best day of my life and we rode the high for bloody ages. I don't have loads of random acquaintances on my social media accounts, only actual close friends and family, so I hope they would all have just been happy that I was excited and possibly rolled their eyes in a good-natured way, rather than judging and being mean spirited.

There's so much despair and suffering constantly projected at me from my phone from around the world. I really can't imagine getting annoyed by someone sharing their happiness. Just unfollow them if they aren't people you love and can be happy for. By following random people you obviously don't really like, you are just participating in the "have to have a thousand FB friends" social media nonsense anyway.

Unless you follow/friend someone and don't mute them, then yes, you are responsible for what you see. Meanwhile people post for those who do want to see.

I don't even have any interest in having a wedding, let alone sharing one on social media, but I think this is very much one to file under 'People can do what they want'.

If sharing everything on social media isn't for you, don't do it. But if someone else wants to, they're not harming anyone by doing it. It's their wedding and their choice and you are not obliged to look at any of their social media content. If they enjoy social media, they're perfectly entitled to make it a part of their wedding.

I don't really understand why people get cross about other people's social media output.

I think that people can and should enjoy things however they choose, and if you’re not into the wedding posts you can hide or mute them.

I also think you used ChatGPT to write the OP, which amuses me.

your judgy pants being hoiked up so high will give you thrush. I can recommend cranberry juice.

People can put whatever they like (as long as it's legal and within the sm site's guidelines) on their social media. You are not obliged to follow anyone.
I would recommend a quality half hour with your phone this evening and a big cull of who you follow/are friends with.
Future you will thank you.